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December 14th, 2011, 05:02 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Maine
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Hello ladies! I have had a rough couple of weeks trying to figure out what to do. I had a long talk with my BF and some issues came up that I was already suspicious about. Basically, he admitted that he'd been doing some things I don't approve of and also lying to me about it. That was the sign I needed to get out of the relationship. I was lucky enough to find an apartment right away (it's hard up here in the boonies) and started moving my things in yesterday. I am sad because I thought I could trust him, but was totally betrayed. In the middle of all of this, I haven't even had a chance to think about my feelings for my ex-husband. I will now have plenty of time and personal privacy to dig deep and figure out what direction I want to go. So, right now I am on a definite TTC hold until I either find the right man, get back with my ex, or go with a sperm donor. I've got too much on my plate right now to even think about any of that for a while. I know I don't have a lot of time because of my age, but I also know it's not over yet. I will become a mom. I will be extremely busy with moving in the next few days, but hopefully things will settle down soon so I can catch up on everything going on here. Until I start TTC again, I will just hang around here and be a cheerleader for the rest of you!
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December 14th, 2011, 05:44 AM
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Bébé Cowgirl
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 sounds like you've been dealing with a lot Sarah...glad you're making decisions that are positive for you, hopefully this will be the start of something even better
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December 14th, 2011, 05:45 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I am sorry that you are going through this. Take the time you need to move and figure out your direction that you need to take. I will be thinking of you.
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Originally Posted by L-SBB
sounds like you've been dealing with a lot Sarah...glad you're making decisions that are positive for you, hopefully this will be the start of something even better |
Ditto this comment as well!
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December 14th, 2011, 06:22 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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So sorry you are having to deal with all of this. You really sound like you are at peace with your decision to move out. Take time for yourself, you deserve it.
Good luck.
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December 14th, 2011, 06:40 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Southern PA
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 I know your head must be spinning right now... You are an amazing girl and this will all work out. We are here for you!! xoxoxo sweetheart.
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December 14th, 2011, 06:45 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Dallas, TX
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Big HUGS sweetie!
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December 14th, 2011, 08:28 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Tennessee
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Sarah I'm so sorry that things had to end with BF but glad you figured everything out and are now moving ahead. Just know that you are missed dearly around here. I hope you are able to figure everything out and get your rainbow baby as soon as you start trying again.
Oh by the way, after the first of the year we definitely need to get our workout check in going again. I have been worthless without you and Katie to help keep me motivated.
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December 14th, 2011, 08:41 AM
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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jul 2011
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I'm glad you are taking some time for yourself to get your head in the right place. I'm sure it can't be easy with everything that is on your mind. It's good to see how determined you are to have a baby yet you want what's best for both you and your future rainbow baby so you are taking time to work through it. (You'll make an awesome mommy) I wish for the best for you and that you can enjoy some time to yourself to relax and sort through things. You never know, sometimes when you aren't looking the right person pops into your life. 
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December 14th, 2011, 08:45 AM
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Waiting for our Miracle.
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Sarah. I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this. It sounds like you are a good place though. Take time for yourself and we will be here when you come back. Sending you lots of hugs.
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December 14th, 2011, 08:56 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Delaware (the state!)
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Everyone above said exactly what I was going to, so  to that! I also wanted to say GL with the move and I hope that the peace and time you have to yourself is rewarding and relaxing! GL and KUP when you are able to!
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December 14th, 2011, 11:03 AM
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It's me
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Even though the journey is tough, it sounds like you're on your way to a great destination. I hope the ride smooths out soon.
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December 14th, 2011, 11:12 AM
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POAS Queen
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And no word from XH about him maybe deciding he'd be okay with a bundle?
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
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December 14th, 2011, 12:27 PM
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Expecting #1
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: California
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and good luck to you.
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December 14th, 2011, 12:48 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: Pennsylvania
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Sarah I am so happy that your doing what you need to do to move towards your happiness. I also have a feeling that when you make the decision to TTC your heart will be fully in it and you will have your rainbow baby before you know it one way or another. We are here for you lady!
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December 15th, 2011, 05:46 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: new jersey
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Giant Hugs! I hope that you have time to clear your mind of all the negative so that you can move forward! Thinking about you!
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December 15th, 2011, 11:10 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Maine
Posts: 3,189
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You ladies are seriously the best!! I really wish I was still in the thick of TTC with you, but I know it will happen when the time is right!
Melissa~I agree about the workouts!! I've been going to Zumba once a week, but that's about it...other than the last few days moving!
Erin~I haven't heard a word from my ex-husband. I think I need to find a way to sort out my feelings for him and move on.
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December 20th, 2011, 01:12 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Washington State
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Sarah, I'm just now seeing this post. Just wanted to say I am glad that the path was made clear... sorry things didn't work out with your BF, but thank goodness your intuition told you to wait instead of going further with the medical interventions. Wishing you all the best as you move forward. Things will work out, one way or another, and I do believe that you will be a mother one day, and that the timing when you look back, will be just right.
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December 20th, 2011, 02:59 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: Pennsylvania
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Sarah we miss you!!!!
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December 24th, 2011, 04:44 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Maine
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I'm back and settling in. I was using my laptop for Netflix while I waited to get cable installed. I was going crazy! Anyway, now I've got cable and my laptop is free for catching up. Moving was exhausting, and I still have a lot of organizing and unpacking to do, but I can just do that on my own schedule. I have been doing a lot of talking with my ex-BF and we are actually getting along better than ever. I am seeing how he is making a big effort to try and use this as a fresh start. This is totally the opposite of my ex-husband, who hasn't contacted me at all. Either way, I'm doing what's best for me. I have time to sort through things and figure out where I want my life to go. It's a really good feeling.
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