Looking for hope

Starrlynn32 · #1 December 26th, 2011, 08:29 PM

Hello everyone! My fianc�e and I are currently ttc, now I have a very complicated history, I've been pregnant 9 times. Here is a quick summary; 1993-abortion, 1997-baby boy, 1998-abortion, 2001-baby girl, 2002-missed miscarriage w/ d&c, 2003-ectopic w/ emergency surgery removing part of left tube, 2004-baby girl, 2005-missed miscarriage w/ d&c, and December 6th, 2011-chemical pregnancy. Ok so I think my cycle went back to normal right away and we made love as usual after my "period" ended. I currently have a few signs of pregnancy although it's too early to test, not sure if I'm reading too much into it or if it's real. I was just wondering if anyone had any success stories after a history similar to mine, any at all would boost my hopes right now.

kirasmom · #2 December 28th, 2011, 10:38 PM

I don't know what to say before asking why you had the two abortions? Were they medical emergencies or strictly elective?

doremi · #3 December 28th, 2011, 11:22 PM

I would consider the ectopic pregnancy the biggest threat to future fertility since you lost part of your tube, and you had a successful pregnancy following that. So, I don't see why you couldn't have another.

*SamF* · #4 December 29th, 2011, 06:58 AM

Your pregnancies have been fairly spaced out and you have had successful, so it sounds like you should be fine. The ectopic with the removal of part of your tube may make it a little harder to get pregnant, but you have a proven history of successfully carrying a pregnancy 3 times.
As far as successfully having a baby after loss, I had 3 losses before my DS was born- and we also lost his twin. I'm currently pregnant and also had three losses between DS and this one, including 1 D&C.
How long have you been actively TTC?

boysarebest · #5 December 30th, 2011, 07:03 AM

There is hope. My neighbor had 9 pregnancies as well. She lost her left tube and had a baby girl not long after! You could always see a dr or RE if you don't successfully conceive in 6 months or so depending on your age. You can definitely get pregnant so I wouldn't worry too much right now.

And it really doesnt matter why you had the abortions. This is a place for advice and support, not a place to judge or push our own views on others!!

StacieRN · #6 December 30th, 2011, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by doremi

I would consider the ectopic pregnancy the biggest threat to future fertility since you lost part of your tube, and you had a successful pregnancy following that. So, I don't see why you couldn't have another.

exactly what I was going to say.

Starrlynn32 · #7 December 30th, 2011, 02:40 PM

Hi ladies thanks for the input, and just to clear up some wandering concerns of my abortions; the first one my mom made me have as I was only 14, the second was a year after my son ( had him when I was 17 ) and his father was abusive and wouldn't hold a job and I couldn't bare to bring another child into the world under those circumstances but I do greatly regret it and think of all the babies I've lost very frequently. And to answer another question that was asked, we've been ttc for about a year now and the chemical I just had really worries me about possible scar tissue on my uterus. The dr just did some bloodwork last week for recurring miscarriages but I haven't gotten the results back yet. Also I was pretty certain we would be successful right away because my hormones went back to normal almost immediately and we bd'd 4 of my fertile days but I would be around 10 dpo and bfn today, I'm crushed and very moody about it, I can't explain the symptoms I'm having.

Servilia · #8 December 31st, 2011, 11:48 PM

Wish I could offer you some, but I'm your age with NO children. Perhaps you'd have more luck on the pregnant after loss board. There's also a pregnancy board on the Recurrent Pregnancy Loss board.

doremi · #9 January 1st, 2012, 12:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Servilia

Wish I could offer you some, but I'm your age with NO children. Perhaps you'd have more luck on the pregnant after loss board. There's also a pregnancy board on the Recurrent Pregnancy Loss board.

She's not pregnant yet... your post kind of comes across like you don't think she belongs here. To the original poster, you most certainly DO have a place here in TTCAL if you so choose. I would hate for you to think any differently. Asking your original question on the other boards mentioned might be a good idea, but please don't think that means you are being pushed away.

Servilia · #10 January 1st, 2012, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by doremi

She's not pregnant yet... your post kind of comes across like you don't think she belongs here. To the original poster, you most certainly DO have a place here in TTCAL if you so choose. I would hate for you to think any differently. Asking your original question on the other boards mentioned might be a good idea, but please don't think that means you are being pushed away.

Yes I know she's not pregnant, as I know how to read. I never assumed she was. I did read her first post and it sounds like she's looking for success stories: "I was just wondering if anyone had any success stories after a history similar to mine, any at all would boost my hopes right now." And since there are lots of pregnant women on the Pregnant after Loss boards, it makes sense she might have better luck finding what she's looking for there when it comes to success stories. It's unfortunate that you misunderstood my post.

ashj_1218 · #11 January 1st, 2012, 06:56 AM

There is plenty of hope

You had a successful pregnancy after your ectopic...and like the others said, that would be the biggest threat to your fertility.

I had a successful pregnancy followed by one missed miscarriage w/ d&c and then three chemical pregnancies in a row. I concieved and delivered my rainbow this past year (concieved in January and delivered in September). His pregnancy was wholely easy and uncomplicated.

I am glad your doc did some bloodwork though. It helps to rule things out. It was found that I did have a clotting disorder and that was helpful information for helping me maintain a pregnancy. So hopefully you get some answers in that regard and can move forward with trying to have another child.

Like another poster mentioned, you can get more success stories on the Pregnancy and Motherhood After Loss board. We have tons of mamas on there with all sorts of different stories. And all are either expecting or raising rainbow babies

doremi · #12 January 1st, 2012, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Servilia

Yes I know she's not pregnant, as I know how to read. I never assumed she was. I did read her first post and it sounds like she's looking for success stories: "I was just wondering if anyone had any success stories after a history similar to mine, any at all would boost my hopes right now." And since there are lots of pregnant women on the Pregnant after Loss boards, it makes sense she might have better luck finding what she's looking for there when it comes to success stories. It's unfortunate that you misunderstood my post.

Oh that makes more sense now. I'm sorry I misunderstood your post. Thanks for clarifying