[StacieRN]

Hi everyone! This is my first post in this forum. Three weeks ago today I lost my sweet Kayden during my second trimester of pregnancy. I have gotten letter after letter from all the tests that hospital ran stating everything was perfect. We have no cause of death... I have my follow up appointment on the 5th of Jan and I'm hoping the doc will give us the go ahead for TTC again in the spring (hopefully March! FX!). My first question is: has anyone been told to wait longer than 3-4 cycles for physical reason? Would there be a chance he may tell us no to springTTC? He was a vaginal delivery, not a d&c...though the doc did remove some of the placenta with forceps after he was born. Also, I had two previous pregnancies with no issues and no hx of m/c or still birth until Kayden...since I lost Kayden during the second tri will I be considered high risk now? Like I said...I see my ob/gyn on the 5th...I was just looking for some info and other people's experiences to ease my mind a little bit. TIA!!

[Erin84]

My son was born at term and my healthcare providers told me there was no need to wait. They said to continue taking my prenatals and to make sure to get enough iron, and that my body take care of the rest. Different providers tend to sway in different directions, so honestly I'd say to take recommendations with a grain of salt and research your options, then make an informed decision with your partner. I'm so sorry for your loss I am glad, though, that you have made your way over here. I can't say enough about all the support I've gotten with my losses.

[L-SBB]

i am so very sorry for your loss My losses were both in 1st tri...my OB asked us to wait 2-3 cycles after each loss but as Erin mentions there's a very wide array of medical opinion on wait vs no wait. I would be surprised if they asked you to wait longer than a few months unless you had severe complications yourself.

I don't know whether you'll be classified high risk, but I would hope your OB would do some additional monitoring of you if for no other reason than to help reassure you. HUGS

[ladysakura721]

im so very sorry for your loss, it is likely they will consider you high risk at least till you make it past the point where you lost this baby as for have to wait more then 3 cycles its truly up to your doctor with my first two losses we only waited 3 but after my second loss he told us to wait a year ! but that was because i was very sick and in the hospital for a few weeks and had under gone surgery we ended up only waiting nine months to try again and this baby is due in june hope this helps and again i am very sorry for your loss the ladys in this group are a great help and support best of luck to you

[doremi]

I am so sorry for your loss. My OB recommended 3 cycles before TTC, but said that she understood if we chose not to. She claims there is a 4% greater chance of miscarriage if you get pregnant in a shorter period of time. Like the others have said, there is quite a bit of variance in what advice you will receive. I would say as long as there is not an ongoing physical issue from the m/c that would cause you to wait to TTC again, that you should follow your heart, and do what feels right to you and your partner. I would guess they would consider you high risk until you get beyond your point of loss with your next pregnancy.

[.:Shortcake:.]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I agree with Erin on it really depends on what is right for you and your partner. Most doctors tell you to wait between 1-3 cycles. So I don't see that there would be any problem starting to try in the spring. I'm going to say they probably will consider you high risk especially if they cannot find a reason for your loss. I have had so many losses that when I am pregnant I am a high risk case. Welcome to the board hun! The ladies here are wonderful and so full of information.

[BeckyBozeman]

Stacey I'm so sorry again for your loss....

My OB flat out told me that she wanted us to wait at least a couple of cycles to give my body a chance to heal, but that there really wasn't convincing evidence either way as far as waiting vs trying again immediately. She said that from a medical standpoint they just don't have a reliable answer about it. I think it's much more about when you're ready to try again emotionally, as our bodies are pretty amazing and I don't think they'll get pregnant before they're ready. Our second loss was in November and we've now been cleared to try when we're ready.

[Shadeauxe]

I had a natural miscarriage (no d&c) and my doctor told me to wait one cycle. This is a good place to be even if the situation that brings people here sucks.

[BeckyBozeman]

Oh and from what I've read, having one loss (even a more uncommon second tri loss) doesn't make you any more high risk. They'll probably watch you a little closer next time, and if your doc is good he'll be very accommodating to make you feel less fear and stress.

One of the really crappy things about miscarriages is that many, many times they never know the reasons - no matter how much testing they do. We now THINK that both my losses were caused by low progesterone. But we don't KNOW anything. It makes the thought of trying again extra scary...

Hugs and best of luck deciding what's best for you and your family...

[StacieRN]

[QUOTE=BeckyBozeman;25395772]Oh and from what I've read, having one loss (even a more uncommon second tri loss) doesn't make you any more high risk. They'll probably watch you a little closer next time, and if your doc is good he'll be very accommodating to make you feel less fear and stress.
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This early second tri loss seems to be very uncommon (he measured 14w5d)...I feel like I'm out on an island all by myself. The books I read, the info online, everything is for loss before 12 weeks or loss after 20 weeks...I can't find any good information for me at all. I fall into the gray zone.

[BeckyBozeman]

I wish that Jess was still around more... She was the cohost of the Pregnancy after Loss Board and the Pregnancy Loss Board when I first started posting. I believe that she had two early first tri losses and then had her rainbow baby about three months ago... She doesn't post much anymore, but the ladies in Pregnancy Loss might know more about her story...

[LindseyE117]

I have been thinking about you. I am so sorry for your loss. I was a member of this board for over a year. The ladies are wonderful here. I'm glad you found your way over.

As for trying, unless there is a medical reason not to, you could try as soon as you are emotionally ready. I got pregnant my 2nd cycle after my last loss.

[BabyLover]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I've also heard a wide range of opinions about when to try again. Like the other ladies have said, a lot of it is when you feel ready. DH and I will be NTNP starting in January (so, like, now!). I've had one AF since our loss.

[StacieRN]

Originally Posted by LindseyE117

I have been thinking about you. I am so sorry for your loss. I was a member of this board for over a year. The ladies are wonderful here. I'm glad you found your way over.

As for trying, unless there is a medical reason not to, you could try as soon as you are emotionally ready. I got pregnant my 2nd cycle after my last loss.

Thanks, sweetie! I hope you're doing and feeling well! Miss you ladies!

[ninja_mommy]

I'm very sorry for your loss. I can't speak for losses in the 2nd tri as my loss was early on at what I know be 6 1/2 weeks, even though they said I was 7 1/2. I am currently in my 3rd cycle after loss and expecting AF any day now. I was told to wait 2 cycles, but we started trying after one. My thought was that if my body wasn't ready that I wouldn't get pregnant.
I pray for your healthy rainbow baby in this new year

[momof6lopez]

Im so sorry for your loss. Welcome to TTCAL, Im Lori, and no longer TTC but wanted to let you know that my dr. had always told me that I should wait as long as I was pregnant. If I were pregnant for 2 months, then wait two months and so on. I did have a loss at 9.5wks and had all the testing done and they could not find any reason for the baby's heart to just stop. My dr. guessed it might of been a small blood clot that went through the umbilical cord. I was put on baby aspirin as a precaution with my next pregnancys that did not result in m/c. He said it happened more often than people realized........even without a blood clotting disorder diagnosed. I pray for your stay here to be a short one and your TTCAL journey finds you some peace.