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December 30th, 2011, 11:29 AM
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Expecting #1
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Join Date: Nov 2011
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No sure what to title this thread. So far today I've been thinking about how it's been one week since we lost our angel, but I just now realized it's been two months since we got married. We want to celebrate each month for our first year of marriage, but am not sure how to celebrate today when it's also such a sad anniversary.
Any ideas?
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December 30th, 2011, 11:44 AM
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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Orange County, CA
Posts: 586
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I'm so sorry for your loss.  Order delivery and snuggle up in bed and watch a movie...DH and I have done that a lot lately.  Congrats on your recent marriage!
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Thank you tasha_mae for the beautiful siggy!!
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December 30th, 2011, 11:58 AM
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POAS Queen
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: San Diego, CA
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Sometimes forcing yourself to do something out-of-sync with how you're feeling can actually brighten you up  The day I started miscarrying, my husband and I took a little two-person boat out on the lake and spent the evening fishing (with a lot of trips back & forth to the bathroom...). We had to go home a little earlier than we planned, but it was much better than sitting around the house waiting for it to really click on... However, only you know if you may have it in you to allow your mood to match your activities. If not, take it easy. You know you best 
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
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December 30th, 2011, 01:04 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: MN
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Happy Anniversary to you and your hubby. I'm sorry that it's also a sad day, but I agree that sometimes it's good to try to do something to keep your spirits up. If nothing else, maybe just watch a movie and get in some good cuddle time.
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December 30th, 2011, 04:16 PM
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Bébé Cowgirl
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Location: Texas
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HUGS
Do something fun & distracting (movie? dinner out?) and reminisce about your wedding...or honeymoon, whatever will cheer you up the most. Happy 2 month anniversary 
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December 30th, 2011, 05:49 PM
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formerly La_Sirena
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Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Aotearoa
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Happy anniversary to you both. And what a sucky anniversary to share with loss. I hope you both are doing ok.
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Parents to Sophie, the Wondergirl
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Joint Hypermobility
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+ 7 others (2002 - 2011)
Mama with arthritis & connective tissue disorder called TRaPS
I've been charting since Jan 16, 2001 and TTA since April 2007.
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December 30th, 2011, 06:33 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Raleigh, NC
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Happy anniversary! Hope you are able to spend it together, no matter what you do!
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December 30th, 2011, 08:08 PM
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Expecting #1
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Join Date: Nov 2011
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Thanks, ladies. This should be the only anniversary we share with the loss. Thank goodness.
I forgot that my photography class was having a get together tonight, so we went to that. Aside from the conversation about fertility idols, I think it was good for me. I think it was a better night for us than if we had stayed home just the two of us. It also forced me to take a shower, which I realized tonight I hadn't done since Tuesday.
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January 1st, 2012, 05:21 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: Pennsylvania
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Sometimes I have to force myself to do things so that I get my spirits back up.
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January 1st, 2012, 06:04 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: IL
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Quote:
Originally Posted by .:Shortcake:.
Sometimes I have to force myself to do things so that I get my spirits back up. |
 I'm sorry for your loss and everyone works through thing differently. The day I after our m/c I felt physically decent, so we decided to take DD to the zoo. It was early October and the weather was so beautiful. It was like a mild summer day and all the leaves were changing and falling. I had to walk slow, sit down a lot and rest, but I'm glad we went. Did I really want to sit inside and cry some more? Yes, but going to the zoo on that beautiful day probably saved me from a very dark path.
Happy anniversary and congrats on the new marriage. I hope you find something that will help you think of all the good times to come
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January 1st, 2012, 10:03 AM
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Expecting #1
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Join Date: Nov 2011
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I'm on school vacation and figured that I'd allow myself the vacation to wallow and grieve and then force myself back out into society when I go back to work on Tuesday. I am forcing myself to do little things and have one goal per day to accomplish. Thanks!
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