[Zoey1981]

Like FOREVER!! So we are not ttc for the next two months, why because I am being silly and superstitious with the Chinese gender chart, lol. It says boy for me in January and February and we as some of you k ow want a girl. But it feels like these two months are going to take forever! I am due to O this coming weekend and I hope I can handle not ttc and not cave. Dh would keep on trying if not for me saying no. Ugh. Am I being silly? Its just that the charts have been right for myself and everyone around me, lol.

[Micksbabe]

Haha I do the same thing. I wanted a boy really badly for my first child, as you can see I ended up with a girl I hope you can make it the next two months, I know how hard it is to NOT TTC!!! Have you tried swaying at all? The is a TTC a specific gender thread and they are very knowledgable in what to eat etc if you are trying for a girl

[Zoey1981]

Did you use the gender charts as well?

[martilynne]

I had to not TTC my first PP cycle so I wouldn't be due in sept. I need to travel to 2 weddings in aug and I wouldn't be able to fly if I was due in sept. It almost killed me. Trying to not TTC is freeking hard!

[Zoey1981]

Glad I am not the only one! I so want to cave and just ttc but I will kick myself if I end up with another boy, lol. If I use the gender chart and I still have another boy then oh well no wondering if I would have waited. Geez I sound crazy hah.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Lol there is no way I would not TTC for 2 months just to up my chances for one gender over another. That might be your rainbow baby

[Belita]

I'd have a hard time waiting, too. I'd definitely check out the gender swaying board. I think the diet and BD timing have more to do with it than the gender chart. If you still want to wait the two months then it's even more in the way to get that girl!

[Erin84]

Originally Posted by .:Shortcake:.

Lol there is no way I would not TTC for 2 months just to up my chances for one gender over another. That might be your rainbow baby

Originally Posted by Belita

I'd have a hard time waiting, too. I'd definitely check out the gender swaying board. I think the diet and BD timing have more to do with it than the gender chart. If you still want to wait the two months then it's even more in the way to get that girl!

I think you're being very silly, but it's your prerogative to do so if you choose. I'm not fortunate enough to get to pick when I want to conceive a baby, I've been trying for a very long time, and there's NO WAY I would give up 2 months based on a chart that really doesn't mean anything. However, if you DID want to try and gender sway, there are ways that it can be done that aren't so......silly. Check out the Shettles method

[Micksbabe]

Originally Posted by Zoey1981

Did you use the gender charts as well?

I never really paid attention to the gender charts until after I was pregnant. I just wanted a baby so bad that I couldn't give up ttc!! I am doing the same thing this month, I was not supposed to try because we are going to dis ey world and on a cruise in 6 weeks but with such an early ovulation I couldn't NOT try lol!! I know after having my losses that I really have no preference to gender, I just want a healthy baby in my arms

[Zoey1981]

Yeah we aren't going to try this month for sure because September is iffy for us. Oldest is starting kindergarten and twins starting preschooler along with the fact my mother won't be able to get the time off for the birth or after. Another reason February was out, all three boys are in October. Oct 4th and Oct 24th. If I get pg in February that baby will be around Oct 14th lol. But I think we will give it a go next month. DH will be home from working across state and things will have settled down by then. I know I feel bad sounding like I am complaining when a lot of you have been ttc for even longer than I have with more losses than my two in the year we have been ttc. But what I want to say is although we will love a boy or a girl baby we are only ttc again because we would like a daughter. We aren't ttc just to have another. If we have another boy or girl that's it for us. DH is getting a vasectomy. We may end up adopting but who knows. My bff has been ttc for over two years now with not even one bfp. My heart breaks for her. And one friend who wants children but can't. I go through their pain with them. So please don't think I am taking for granted that I can get pg. Because I'm not. Total I have had three m/c and it sucks. I just want a daughter so much it hurts. I have my three beautiful boys whom I am so very grateful for and I thank God everyday He blessed me with them.

All of you ladies are wonderful and I don't want to upset anyone who might take my post the wrong way. I wouldn't be so worried but this is our final and last baby. We have three boys. I would love to have the mother/daughter experiences. And it annoys me when I tell ppl I want a daughter who has one and they tell me oh no you don't. If we didn't have children I would not care about gender and in fact even with my twins I didn't care. Of course the first and most important is that baby is healthy!

Sorry long post. I talk entirely to much. /hugs ladies and I pray for all of you to get a sticky BFP!

[Erin84]

So question... There's a surefire way to get a daughter, but it's expensive, and morally/ethically debatable... But you can do IVF procedures where the eggs are inseminated with sperm carrying the female gene. Or maybe I have that wrong, maybe they inseminate and then they can know what gender it's destined to be. You have all the normal risks as with IVF, but with the knowledge that if it works, you can start painting the walls pink. Is that something you would consider?

If my post sounded off-putting, then I apologize. I have a close friend who gets pregnant on the first try every time, so she gets to pick when she wants her babies. Never had a loss, never had any problems whatsoever, and although I love her and wouldn't wish trouble on her, I am up-to-here jealous of her. If it sounded catty at all, it's only because when I think about my own malfunctioning body, I just get so bummed out. If you want to add a daughter to the family, it's your right to try. I'm just having an emotional day for some reason <3

[Zoey1981]

I have often thought of it but morally I don't know if I could actually do it. I talked to DH about it and he says "what and tick God off?" lol and he has a point. I mean its one thing to have medical help with just ttc but to actually gender select.....I have mixed feelings. Maybe I wouldn't so much if we actually had the money to do it. There are cheaper methods like getting the sperm spun but that's not even 100% so I am leavig it up to God pretty much. It's my "human" side that keeps wanting to take over, lol and think that some lame chart might give me some sort of insight. HAHA.

No worries I just wanted to clarrify. I know it must be super difficult. I know I had a really rough time with all of my m/c. It's partly why I am also taking January off and living through my bff, lol. I realized a couple weeks ago that I was VERY angry and bitter about my October m/c. And mostly because once I really looked at it the doctor could have possibly prevented it. I thank God that I am even able to get pg and that hopefully the progesterone suppliments will fix my continued m/c. I can't imagine how it would feel if I was having a hard time even getting pg like my bff. I wasn't angry or upset at you, I just wanted to clarrify just exactly why I was so baby girl crazy since I know there are so many women out there who can't have kids or are having the worst time ttc. I have often thought about being a serogate but unfortuatly I have to have c-sections now and its not safe for me to have to many of them. Each time weakens the walls of my abdomen. Anyway I really do you and all the ladies get your BFP which sticks. Everyone has bad days and I was finding myself getting jealous of women who are pg and who had daughters AND sons. So taking a step back for me was the right thing for me at this point until I get to that "happy" spot again.

[MauMama]

Personally, I don't think it's silly to want a child of a particular gender. It's when those women are disappointed with the child they are given that I really start to lose my cool. There are quite a few out in the mommy world and I really ache inside.

One of my SIL got pregnant easily each time, no losses, no issues, etc. Chose when to have each baby. Sigh. I have a niece the same age as my twin girls would be. It is the hardest reminder in the whole world to love a little girl who got to live when mine didn't.

I think once you're in the loss, infertility gig, you can't take yourself away and get 'happy' again. Protecting yourself becomes just as important as trying to conceive again.

We tried from Jan 2001 to Oct 2004 to get my daughter with 4 losses. No amount of space or time away from life was going to make me get through that battle happier or with any sort of zen feelings.

And this many years on the 'other' side, I still don't feel 'happy' or zen about it all. The bitterness is not as harsh, but it's still there.

Sigh. I wish it were easy for everyone.