[StacieRN]

I just don't know if I should continue with TTC...I just don't think I could live through another 2nd tri loss. Last night was one of the worst days/nights I've had since losing Kayden. I just don't know if I can do this. Since losing him all I have wanted was to be pregnant again right away, and now I'm just scared and completely unsure if this is the right thing. How would my heart handle losing another child? I feel so broken..defective...my DH got angry when I told him that...but it's the truth...it's how I feel about my body. Am I doing the right thing? does having another baby help you heal or is it covering up pain? I'm so confused...and sad..

[ninja_mommy]

big I'm sorry you are going through this. I still have my melt downs , but I can't really compare with your situation. We will be here for you to listen.

[martilynne]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had a very hard time getting over my 2nd tri loss...I hardly got out of bed and didn't leave the house for over a month. Having another baby totally helped me heal, even if it was covering up the pain.

[Belita]

I don't understand the pain of a second trimester loss, but I can imagine how hard it must be. It's still pretty recent so I'd give yourself some time to grieve. At least you know that what happened to Kayden was a random event that's unlikely to happen again. I hope that brings you some comfort. Have you considered seeing a counselor? We have some hospitals here that have women's mental health clinics that are specifically designed for women who have suffered a loss or are having infertility.

[.:Shortcake:.]

I can't tell you how it's going to make you feel. I know the ladies over at PAL have said the pain never goes away even after you have another child. But it doesn't help ease the pain and make it more bearable. We are here for you hun. I still to this day have really bad days.

[humnck]

I am so sorry you are having such a rough time, but it is totally understandable. I don't know what a 2nd tri loss is like, I know what a 1st tri loss is, and I can't begin to imagine. I do know that after my late 1st tri loss, it has been so hard. I imagine that having another baby will help ease the pain a bit, as Katie said, but you will always think about Kayden, he was your son. I still think, had I not lost that baby, I would be this far along or I would have a baby this old...it's been over 3 years since my 1st loss. I think we all have our good and bad days.

I agree with Robyn, if you have some sort of way to see a counselor, there are those that specialize in exactly this. If not, we are always here to listen!