[dindin]

I know this sounds terrible, but it seems that everywhere I go I see baby bumps and newborns and I am so jealous. I just had my procedure and I am sure it will get better with time, but I feel so bad for the feelings I am having.

[LittleMomma09]

Don't get yourself down! It is normal. I think we all feel that way at some point in time. I know I feel that way often. I get an overwhelming mad feeling... not at them but at myself.

[martilynne]

It is so normal. I still get the envy even though I've had a baby since my losses. I don't think it ever goes away

[Shadeauxe]

Don't feel bad. Pregnancy is everywhere, all of the time. It just becomes more noticeable after a loss. It's human nature. It's why we have the expression, "Don't know what you got 'till it's gone."

When someone else has something that you want but haven't been able to get or it's something that you had but you lost, it's inevitable to feel a pang of jealousy annoyance or whatever emotion your brain manifests.

As long as you don't go on a homicidal rampage, you're fine.

[LoverlyJules]

I agree with you. It's been 6 months since my loss and it's still SO hard to see babies and pg women. Hugs to you!

[Cait&AngelAbove]

I feel that way on a regular basis.

[lovely.carlie]

I feel the same way! Especially when I see young teenagers that did it on accident. I get so mad/jealous! I think its normal, but I feel bad too.

[BabyLover]

I agree with all the other ladies. We went to Ikea a few days after my loss, and I swear every woman there was pregnant. It was torture.

[dindin]

LMAO @ Shadeauxe... no homicidal rampages or baby snatching.

I am glad that I am not the only one feeling this. I guess my baby-dar is on high alert. I just want to stay home and crawl under the covers!

Hard to explain this to the S/O (poor thing is being as supportive as he can). I guess pregnancy is just so much personal for us women.


Hugs to all

[L-SBB]

HUGS i'm convinced there's a baby boom timed precisely to when i m/c...it is truly amazing how many pregnant women & newborns you immediately bump into when you're trying to avoid them the most

It does get easier...I know it doesn't help much to hear that now though

[MauMama]

I still feel that way. It's soooo normal.

[doremi]

It's totally normal. I haven't felt anger, but I've definitely felt envy, and sadness from being around other babies/pregnant women. One of my close friends from church just adopted a newborn baby boy, and because they received word they were getting him only a week before he was born, they had no clothes for him. We took over a bunch of Josiah's newborn clothes for them to borrow until their shower next month, and seeing a little guy in Josiah's baby clothes made me just ache inside for another newborn! Our other good friends at church are due the same day that I was due with our second loss. I was emotional about it when I found out her due date... it took my breath away. Then I was okay for a good stretch. But now that she is starting to look obviously pregnant, I feel sad every time I am around her, thinking about what could have been for us. So yeah, sorry to hijack your thread... just wanted you to know you are certainly not alone when it comes to this!

[.:Shortcake:.]

Like the other ladies said it is normal. As much as it sucks I don't think it's something that you can just turn off. I still have it 3 years later.

[missy123]

What you are going through is normal. I had such a hard time with seeing pregnant people and small babies. I cried so many times.

Here is an article for you to read. I hope it finds you even a small bit of comfort or understanding. ((hugs))

Dealing with pregnant friends & babies | Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope

[humnck]

It is normal, completely normal! I remember, being in my doc office the day I found out, I felt like it was "pregnant lady appointment day"...I would see happy, pregnant people around me, people who had just had nice, healthy babies, never going through a loss, saying things like "it was just not meant to be"...blood boiling point right there! It's a natural part of your grieving process...anger, sadness, etc. Let yourself feel those things and don't feel badly about feeling that way either!

HUGS!! We are all here for you!!!!!

[BeckyBozeman]

Totally normal, as everyone else has said. I'm having a blah day because a friend of mine had a baby this morning. As much as I hate to say it, I'm glad I don't live near her any longer or I'd feel obligated to go to the hospital and coo over her.

It's hard and I struggle all the time to let my joy and love for people beat out my envy and hurt.

[Frangipani]

Originally Posted by dindin

I know this sounds terrible, but it seems that everywhere I go I see baby bumps and newborns and I am so jealous. I just had my procedure and I am sure it will get better with time, but I feel so bad for the feelings I am having.

I'm right there with you. I was at work yesterday and two of the ladies there are pregnant and were talking to me. One of the guys said "Fran, you better watch out, that might be catching. You'll be next if you're not careful." I almost burst into tears right then. (I didn't tell anyone at work that I was pregnant since I'd had the the other miscarriages and wanted to wait until I was out of the first trimester).

I got home and got on facebook and the first TWO posts were friends of mine announcing their pregnancies with their ultrasound pics.

[Belita]

Originally Posted by Frangipani

I'm right there with you. I was at work yesterday and two of the ladies there are pregnant and were talking to me. One of the guys said "Fran, you better watch out, that might be catching. You'll be next if you're not careful." I almost burst into tears right then. (I didn't tell anyone at work that I was pregnant since I'd had the the other miscarriages and wanted to wait until I was out of the first trimester).

I got home and got on facebook and the first TWO posts were friends of mine announcing their pregnancies with their ultrasound pics.

[Frangipani]

Originally Posted by Belita

Thanks, Belita. I can't believe this but a friend of mine called tonight and we were just talking about random stuff. Then she says, oh man I didn't know that Jen is pregnant!

I didn't know Jen was pregnant either.

I swear. They're everywhere!