[Allie_SMg]

About 9-10 months ago, around mid April, I missed my period and didn't get it until the end of June. I had previously regular periods the last few months so I didn't see any reason why it would stop so dramatically. I was having sex regularly with condoms but no other bc. We never had a break (though there could have been leaks) and there was also an Incident where some of his (tmi) newly ejaculated semen could have gotten into my vaginal area the one time we didn't use a condom but he wasn't inside me just close and some dripped, but I quickly wiped and showered.

Well, over the few months I missed my period my boobs were sore (to the point where once it hurt to be in my bra), but the nipples didnt seem too dark, and my boobs didnt seem alot bigger... But i was trying to convince myself i wasnt pregnant. One morning I'd think they were alot bigger, then convince myself they always looked like that, or it was my period coming. I felt nauseous and had headaches in the afternoon but never threw up. My DH and I were both working full time, going to school, and not ready for a baby then. I was scared, so I didn't test, just hoping it was stress and AF would show... I even got some bright red spotting lightly for one day a week or two after missing AF... it finally showed after 2.5 months, I had a largeish clot passed and cramping. It wasn't huge, just different than I had seen, but it didn't even cross my mind that it was a miscarriage until recently (maybe a tiny part of me did, but i was so relieved, i didnt give it much thought) and now it just saddens me. It really breaks my heart to think I could have lost something we want so badly now! In fact, it was that scare that made us realize how much we wanted to slow down our lives and have kids.

What do you ladies think? Does it sound like an m/c? Could a doctor tell if I had ever been pregnant before since it was probably only about 2.5 months? And seeing as we are TTC now (have been for 5 months), what does that mean?

[pepper73]

Hi there and welcome to TTCAL. Judging by your history of regular periods, I would say that yes, it is definitely possible you were pregnant and had a miscarriage. I am so sorry. There are other factors that could come into play that would cause AF to be delayed though, too. Things like extra stress, extreme diet changes, and illness could also cause that. I don't think a doctor would be able to tell whether or not you were pregnant this far past when it happened...but someone else please correct me if I am wrong on that one. I don't want to give false information.

I totally understand your frustration and all of the questions that come along with TTC. Feel free to ask any questions you may have. We're all here for each other.

[Allie_SMg]

Thank you for the welcome. I've suspected for a few months (since I've been on this site and reading up on pregnancy) that I had miscarried. is it weird to feel the loss now even though it happened last year?

During that time I wasn't ill nor did I have an extreme diet change, my life is stressful but very steady as to what happens day to day. I have had irregular periods before but part of it was me not knowing how long it was and assuming a 28 day when it's actually 31, so I don't think my period was late when I thought it was. I didn't pay as much attention before TTC, but for sure my period had been like clockwork the prior 3 cycles or so, I don't see why it would jump to not showing for 2.5 months, which leads me to thinking it was indeed a mc.

I would appreciate all the opinions I can get. Does this sound like a miscarriage? Is there anything I should be doing differently?

[Belita]

I'm sorry. It does sound like a possible loss to me. Have you charted your cycles with taking your temperature and OPKs? That's a great starting point. Most doctors assume that one loss was a fluke and don't do any testing. I made some changes after my loss, but that was more due to my own wanting to try every "can't hurt, may help" trick. Just taking a prenatal vitamin and fish oil with at least 360mg of EPA and DHA (if your prenatal doesn't have it) helps.

Everyone grieves differently and I'm not surprised at all to hear that you're upset now after just learning about it after all this time. A loss is a loss no matter when you find out about it.

[.:Shortcake:.]

It could have been a loss or an annovuatory cycle. During an annovulatory cycle you don't ovulate which is the cause of the cycle being extremely long (can be several months). That can be due to stress, PCOS, extreme diet changes, etc. I don't believe a doctor would be able to see if it was a loss at this point but I could be wrong. I would suggest going to see the doctor and see what they think.

[Allie_SMg]

Thank you ladies. As sad as i am to think I would be due anytime now if I was pregnant then, I know it wasn't the right time for us. I'm assuming it was a miscarriage (from what I've read and because of the big clotting. It kind of freaked me out because I had never had anything like that before) and I'm thinking of asking a doctor about it just for ease of mind.

I do use OPK's and I have pre-natals that I should be taking regularly but haven't been yet I think I'll start. thanks so much for the answers and support.