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February 7th, 2012, 12:25 PM
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hi in new to jm and was just looking for some support.my names natasha and im about to be 24 and my fiance scott is about to be 26. we had r dd in july2010 took one try and i got pregnant with her.great pregnancy and easy 6hour l and d fast forward to july2011. we said time for baby number 2! got a positive test in aug and sadly miscarried at 10 weeks. had a dnc and r doctor said when we where ready try again so in nov2011 we said ok and in dec 2011 i was pregnant a week later we thought i miscarryred naturally a month later in January my levels didnt go down and we found out it was an ectopic! but vary close to my overy thats why i didnt feel it i was vary thankful i didnt need surgery. i was treated with one dose of methotrexate. its now February and my doctor said in about 3months we are going to do a test that they inject die into my tubes overys and uterus to make sure everything's ok form the ectopic im vary scared about that. im trying to focus on my daughter and all the little ones i get to babysit but its vary hard all my friends are pregnant and none knows but 2 people that we even tryed for baby number two. has anyone herd for someone having this much bad luck. i feel so lonely and depressed my fiance trys to be there for me but can only say so much. im a sahm and am just looking for some real support witch i have none of from my "freinds". i hope the best for everyone and cant wait to hear from everyone. i aslo posted in secondary infertility but no responses hoping this bored might be able to help me with the depression from my loses also
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February 7th, 2012, 12:44 PM
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Hi audiesmommy,

I'm very sorry you have to go through all this, and though I have not had as many problems as you (plus still being early in my TTC journey), I can relate to how you feel. I think everyone who miscarries can to some extent relate, even if they haven't had an ectopic.

I know there are some on the board who had ectopic pregnancy, and hope they can help you more than I.

I wish you best of luck on your journey.
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February 7th, 2012, 12:54 PM
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thank you! and i hope your ttc journey is short and sweet
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February 7th, 2012, 01:17 PM
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I am sorry for your losses! I hope they can give you some good answers when they do the dye tests.
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February 7th, 2012, 01:22 PM
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Hi and welcome! I am so sorry about your losses!!!
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February 7th, 2012, 01:27 PM
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thank you all so much for the kind words!!
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February 7th, 2012, 01:39 PM
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I am ss you are going through such a hard time. Loss is so hard to have to deal with and to add others being pregnant around you, it's tough! My sister and SIL were both pg during my 1st loss, my sister again pg during my 2nd loss (along with 2 cousins and a bunch of friends). We all have to grieve our own way, but letting yourself be sad and upset about it is ok!

It's hard for your DF to understand what our bodies go through, but I am glad that he is at least showing his support the way he knows how. There really aren't words that anyone can say to make the pain and sadness go away, but we can listen and be here for you when you need a shoulder to lean on or have questions.

I can't answer anything about an ectopic, because I have not experienced one, but there are other ladies on here that I am sure can help

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February 7th, 2012, 04:51 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss. I hope your stay here is short and sweet. The dye test your referring to is the HSG. I had this done but I had it done while asleep (I had other procedures with it). Most people have the HSG in the office and only have minimal cramping with it. It really gives the doctors and insight to make sure your tubes are clear and also that everything is looking okay in there.
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February 7th, 2012, 08:32 PM
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they told me i would be getting it done at a hospital but i will find out more at my next apt at the end of the month.these past few days have just bin really hard iv lost of my 'freinds" because they dont understand what im going threw and just tell me to be thankfull for audie and to get over it and stop pushing the issue witch hurts. me and my df have bin fighting because of it and it realy stinks i feel so alone and my dd reflux is acting up so im upset seeing her hurting ugh just a bad week! but im looking past this week to better things thank you all for your comments i for the first time in months feel not so alone
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February 8th, 2012, 05:25 AM
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Hi and welcome to JM & TTCAL!! I am so sorry for your losses. It is a heartbreaking thing to go through and the hurt is definitely worse when you have friends/family who are pregnant around you. I am really sorry your friends aren't being supportive. Even if they don't understand how you are feeling, they should be there for you. Good luck with your HSG. It will definitely give your doctor a better idea of what is going on. Please keep us posted on how you are doing!
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February 8th, 2012, 05:31 AM
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I'm so sorry for your losses.
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February 8th, 2012, 03:09 PM
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thank you all for the warm welcome im still trying to figure the site out dose anyone have any suggestions for me as to cool things on the site? im happy i found a place to share my story and feel welcomed so im just looking for other things on this site not necessarily places to put my story of losses but places to talk to other moms about kids or do people chat on this site. im new and just kinda lost lol
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