Sex Again

twoboys · #1 February 11th, 2012, 02:33 PM

I had to have a D&C done last Tuesday due to having a blighted ovum miscarriage, my last blood draw my hcg was 9,500 I was roughly 5/6 weeks at the time of loss.

I have been reading mixed reviews on when you can ovulate or even when you should be having sex again.. Generally I am reading you should wait 2 weeks and that you can also ovulate in 2 weeks.. I know every woman's body is different but what do you guys suggest??

I did a HPT today just to see how faint/dark the line was on the test and its pretty light, I can still see it but it looks like it would look at about 10dpo.. Is it true that once your hcg level drops back down you ovulate again?

Thanks! I am sure I will be asking a ton of questions in here!

LindsayGriff · #2 February 11th, 2012, 03:42 PM

My doctor told me to wait 2 wks post D&C to have sex due to the risk of infection because they have had instruments up in there and sex can push bacteria up there. The last thing you want is endometritis and then you will be no able to TTC for a while until that is cleared.

HopeTea · #3 February 11th, 2012, 03:49 PM

I know every woman is different, but I will tell you about my case. I miscarried at just over 6 weeks. I started testing negative on a HPT a couple days after my bleeding stopped. About two weeks later, I o'd and ended up falling pregnant again right away (hoping this one is sticky!). So for some people, that's exactly how it works. I have heard once your HCG gets down to zero, you will be able to ovulate again. Some women take longer to get back to zero than others, and lots of other factors come into play.

My advice would be to keep charting and watch for fertile signs as usual. You can decide if you feel ready to try again right away or not. For me, waiting felt impossible. I was also feeling very much back to normal and felt I'd taken time to grieve for my loss, so I just went for it. Keep in mind that most doctors recommend waiting at least one cycle. I couldn't find any evidence to support that recommendation as medically necessary, and it seems like it's main purpose is to help date the pregnancy. But there are also lots of women who say they had another MC or a chemical pregnancy if they got pregnant again right away, though as I said before, there's not any clear evidence that these losses were caused by the first loss.

Do some research and make whatever decision is best for you. Best of luck!

HopeTea · #4 February 11th, 2012, 03:55 PM

I also agree with PP about the risk of infection. Even if you decide to try again right away, I'd wait as long as you can before having sex again. You want to make sure all bleeding/spotting has stopped and then some. I didn't quite wait the full two weeks, but my loss did not require D&C. I hope more ladies who've had D&C will be able to weigh-in on this for you.

twoboys · #5 February 11th, 2012, 04:40 PM

Thanks for the advice, I am definitely waiting before having sex.. I have no desire to have sex but the desire to be pregnant is overwhelming me.. I certainly know my health is what is most important and I will make sure I am okay before even considering sex.. I have had literally no bleeding, my doc said the surgery went very well.. It was more like a pap smear than anything else (sorry if tmi) If you read my previous posts I was awake for the procedure and no machine was used, just felt like a pap smear only a little more painful. Again, there was no sign of a fetus at all in my body, just the gestational sac.

Thanks for your support and suggestions.

Cait&AngelAbove · #6 February 11th, 2012, 07:28 PM

I have never had a d&c so I do not know much about it. I did have a lap down last year and I have to wait two weeks to have sex.

Babybun · #7 February 11th, 2012, 07:38 PM

With my d and c I waited sixteen days to have sex, but just simply because I was spotting up until that day...I felt like I was ready...so we went for it...that was in november, I'm still not having any luck though...I don't know what's up with me?? Go for it when you feel ready, and

Servilia · #8 February 11th, 2012, 11:17 PM

I would wait to have sex.
By the way it's not HCG that stops you from ovulating, so you don't have to go back down to zero to ovulate. I know I Od before I was even under 100.
Sorry for your loss!!

martilynne · #9 February 13th, 2012, 01:25 PM

After my D&C and D&E I bled/spotted for over 2 weeks. I don't have sex when I'm bleeding. I do understand the overwhelming desire to get pregnant

markswife · #10 February 13th, 2012, 07:16 PM

Big hugs to you. I think many of us have felt that overwhelming need to be pregnant again. I certainly did. I really hope that you will get to zero quickly so you can get to work on your sticky bean!