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My depression and my dfs anger is slowly pulling us apart.. We both are pulling away, everything I do he says is wrong, he hardly wants to spend time with me unless we dtd(sorry if tmi) and I'm at the point where I just do not know what to say to make him happy anymore..
A loss can do horrible things to a marriage/relationship if you let it. It can tear you apart or it can pull you closer. Have you and him sat down and talked about things? I know for me and DH it's sometimes easier to write a letter or email to get our feelings out. Another thing is seeing a counselor. I know it isn't for everyone but sometimes you need that mediator. I hope that you two can sit down and talk about things.
My Angels- 12-15-08 @ 13w3d♥ 05-09 @ 6w2d♥ & 2 Early Losses♥ Twins 9-7-10♥ & 10-2-10 ♥ 2/11/11
to everything Katie has said. It can be so hard on a relationship. Communication is key. Remember that men tend to grieve differently than we do. We don't necessarily understand what they are going through, and they don't understand what we are going through, and that can cause a lot of misunderstanding and resentment. It's so important to get everything out. I agree that writing things down can sometimes be easier. I hope that things get better for you.
I have so been in your shoes and it is the worst. It is so hard when you are both hurting and there is no one else to take it out on but each other. Like the other ladies said, talking to each other about what you are feeling is the only real solution. When DH and I talk to each other, I usually find that he doesn't have a clue why I am mad and he's almost always willing to make changes once I tell him. I also do things that irritate him and don't realize it. I really hope that you two can find a solution that works for you.