[ashj_1218]

So sorry to hear you are going through this. It is not something anyone should have to decide.

I was very much like you with my first loss. I found out at a routine sonogram at 9 weeks that the baby had recently passed. I had the same options as you. I opted immediately to go natural. I wanted as little intervention as possible and figured my body would take care of it. I was not scared to leave the house (we actually had a family vacation planned for three days later and I still went). I just wore a pad everywhere I went. But it turned out that my body was not getting the message. Me and the doc opted for a D & E after three weeks of waiting. I chose that route because I didn't want the possibility of doing the pills and then needing another procedure anyway. The D & E was easy and the recovery was easy. But I still wouldn't change the fact that I decided to wait. I think I did most of my healing in that time period. I did not need to "get it out" before I could move forward. But that was me...I know not everyone feels the same. And with your fear of leaving the house, you might lean toward another choice. I think they are all equally "good" options. It just depends where you are and what you need to move forward. I know my doc also said I had the option of calling at any time and choosing the D & E. That even if I decided right then to wait, that I could change my mind at any point.

[~~MeeMee~~]

I want to thank all you ladies for sharing your very emotional experiences with me. Reading each and every one of your post is giving me some insight on the decision I’m about to make. I also very much feel the empathy, care and support you ladies are sending my way, sincerely thank-you!

[ninja_mommy]

Wow, all of you ladies are very strong. To sleepinangel, I'm very sorry for your loss. Just listen to your heart and only you can make the best decision for you. Everyone deals with things much differently.
My m/c was early, that was the only part I was thankful for. I was 7 1/2 weeks and started spotting on my own. I m/c'ed naturally on my own since it was so early. It was very hard to flush the gestational sac and I was thankful to not see anything that resembled a baby.
Given I was in your situation I would probably choose the pill. I don't think I could walk around for 2 weeks just waiting.

[Glitz]

I also used be part of the Nov 12 DDC. At 6w4d there was no heartbeat I chose for the natural way but today I would of been 11w3d and I am still waiting no cramps just a little bit of on and off brown spotting. I did not want to get the D&C but my doctor said if by next week nothing has happened I have to go in and get it done because I have waited and if I wait more I can get sick. I am glad I waited because this weeks have prepared me for the D&C emotionally if I would of had it done right away it would of been more traumatic emotionally for me.

[Krisnina]

Hey Aimee,

Have you made a decision? I was in the nov. ddc with you and I found out this past Saturday that the baby had stopped growing about two weeks before and had no heartbeat. I have a d&c on Monday and although it was the hardest thing I feel I have ever gone through, I am so glad I had it done. I was in tears every time I peed. I was afraid the baby would pass into the toilet. I was just terrified of what the natural way would do to me emotionally. Anyway, keep me updated and hopefully we can join another ddc soon.

-Kristina

[d_tops]

Hi. I've been away from the board for a bit but saw your post and wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss, and that you're faced with this terrible decision, Sleepinangel, and I hope you're well.