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refusing to bd with me tonight... saying he is ..just not in the mood?!! He doesnt get it?! im having strong and exact O symptoms!!! And he just lets it go? 
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STICK LITTLE BABY, STICK!
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I'm sorry! That's frustrating!!
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Hopefully he changes his mind... Im trying seductive approach ...without paying attention to him
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omg I haaaate it when they do that. Don't they understand?! Faaaahhhhhkkkkk....... When my DH doesn't want to DTD at O-time, he picks a fight. So freaking frustrating. MEN!!!
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
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Sometimes my Husband feels like I use him. Like I only want sex to get pregnant. Do you think that maybe he feels used? Just an opinion.. I went through it, so I had to put TTC aside for a couple of months for the sake of our relationship. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in having our miracle baby that we forget there is another person involved.
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Perhaps. I need to speak with him about it, but we are mostly on the same boat all the time. Men will stay men tho 
Well... at least he gave in finally and we just hope that it works out for us now  Women and their charm! 
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Also, things worked better for us when I didn't tell DH the details of OPKs, temping, etc. He knew I temped, of course, can't really hide that... But I didn't talk with him about pre-O, O, post-O, opk, temp drops, spikes, whatever... That helped us a lot. He couldn't tell when I was just using him for baby batter >.<
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Erin84
Also, things worked better for us when I didn't tell DH the details of OPKs, temping, etc. He knew I temped, of course, can't really hide that... But I didn't talk with him about pre-O, O, post-O, opk, temp drops, spikes, whatever... That helped us a lot. He couldn't tell when I was just using him for baby batter >.<
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Agreed. My husband prefers to think I just want him to want him ( of course I do, even though I have alterier motives  ) It works out better if I just seduce him come O time..
Good luck and lots of 
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Thanks ladies... although its hard for me to keep things from him. As anxious as i am he sees it and he knows me.. we dont know how to keep secrets from each other (sometimes its a bad thing) but during ttc i share every detail with him.. pregnancy too.. and he either loves it ..or *deletes it from his memory*
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I'm glad he changed his tune... I hope it worked! Sometimes the men can get a little over done with the whole thing. They get tired of sex for a real purpose. Sometimes we just need to put the details of opk, ovulation, timing and stuff like that in our heads and let the men just do their thing. Of course they want to be involved, but sometimes they don't want to plan it all. Once in a while it is ok to keep the details to yourself and just be with your man. It's not keeping secrets if you've both agreed to conceive and that is the plan. It's only secretive if he didn't want to or was against it. My dh and I are very close too.. No secrets and we are best friends but sometimes I know the stress of trying and not conceiving or the memory if our losses can stress him so I handle the logistics and let him enjoy himself 
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My advice is not to tell him all the details..let him know you do that stuff, if you want, but don't be all into sharing the details. It puts the pressure on them to perform. If they don't know, they might suspect you're jumping them for sperm, but they won't really know and they'll feel more wanted.
A couple times when I've come on really strong, my husband has been like "what, are you ovulating or something?" LOL. I've never mentioned anything about ovulating to him ever, so that kinda shocked me..lol..musta been a bit obvious. haha.
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Yeah, men are frustrating for sure! I tell my husband as little as possible about TTC. He agreed to TTC, but doesn't care about the details. I agree that men feel used when you tell them you want to have sex, because you are ovulating.
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Yea maybe i should try to be quiet about it then thanks for advice
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