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I received the chromosomal testing results today for the 12 week m/c I had in late December. I asked the doctor to fax the results to my office and holy crap, that was a BAD idea. I was so upset I had to leave work. My daughter (it was a baby girl) died of Trisomy 21 down syndome. The information stated that 75% of babies with DS pass away in utero. My odds of having another baby with DS is markedly increased to 1 in 100. I am 30 years old. Normal odds for a 30 year old are less than 1 in 1000.
I am so sad and have so many mixed emotions. My good friend just had a baby with DS in December. We went and met him last weekend. He was adorable. Though I know what a mixed blessing he is for his family. She was 29 when he was conceived.
I am not even sure what to think. It's hard to know and it makes me feel like I am defective or something to be producing abnormal eggs at such a young age. But then again, not knowing a cause might be worse. I am scared that my odds of this happening again are so high.
We have decided to name her Caroline Collins He_____. Please say a little prayer for her (and for me.)
Caroline is such a beautiful name and Im so sorry for your heartache today. There is still a 99% chance that your next little bean will be perfectly healthy. Im sorry you will have to live in fear the next time, I wish it was easier. Praying that you will be able to wrap your head around all you read and definitely ask your dr. ALOT of questions......sometimes these lab reports differ in the Dr. opinions. He/she may make you feel alot better about what you read. I pray you get your rainbow baby so very soon.
I am so sorry for your loss. However, I miscarried at about 12 weeks and would have done anything to know what my baby was and what caused me to m/c. I was not able to do any testing so everything is unknown to us. Yes, the knowing is also hard, but you have some answers. Like others said, you can still go on to have a happy and healthy baby. Best of luck.
I am so sorry you are going through this - knowing made it easier and harder for me at the same time as it also increased my odds of miscarrying in the future. But like the other ladies said you have a 99% chance of having a normal healthy baby. What my DH said to me when I was worrying about the odds was "Do you ever take an umbrella when the weather says there is a 1% chance of rain?" It made me giggle and helped a little - but I am still worried to as I am sure you will be.
Best of luck to you - I am sending positive thoughts your way!