That does seem confusing! With the OPKs I believe it is considered negative until it is as dark as or darker than the control line. They also do not confirm that you ovulate they just predict when you will. So if you wanted to confirm if you are ovulating you would need to take your basal body temperature every morning - which you may not want to bother with right now
I am not sure if you can be ovulating with out AF - perhaps you are just having one really long cycle right now from stress and AF will show soon. How long are your average cycles?
Sorry you are dealing with all this - so frustrating!!!