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April 16th, 2013, 07:37 PM
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Hi everyone, unfortunately I have to introduce myself here.

I was a member of the October DDC. I went in for my NT ultrasound on March 26th as soon as the tech put the wand on me I knew something was wrong. She asked me if I was sure my dates were right, then said that she would have to do a vaginal ultrasound. I was 11 weeks at the time so I knew that there should be no reason why she couldn't see what she needed to without using the wand. Then she said that she needed to get the radiologist in so I knew what was coming. The radiologist said that there was no heartbeat and that baby stopped growing at 8 - 9 weeks.

I had a D & C the next day (Wednesday) and we left for holidays to Hawaii on Friday. I think now that we've been home for a week it has finally started to hit me. I found myself really down over the weekend and I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me, until I realized that I was thinking about the baby I lost all day long, I think because we left so soon after I didn't get a chance to grieve and it is just now hitting me.

As for TTC, my husband and I really want to try again. I don't have my appointment with my doctor until May 14th so we have to wait until at least then to get the go ahead.
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April 16th, 2013, 07:49 PM
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Big hugs to you. I'm so, so sorry for your loss. It is such a heartbreaking thing. I hope you can find the support you need. It's great that you and your husband are on the same page?
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April 16th, 2013, 11:17 PM
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I'm so absolutely sorry for your loss. I hope you find support here and irl to be able to process and grieve as you need to.
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April 17th, 2013, 05:04 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss honey. There are far too many of us from the Oct ddc here.
Good luck when you get going again.
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April 17th, 2013, 05:50 AM
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I'm sorry you are here. With so many of us finding our way here, it seems like there is no one left in the DDCs anymore. Trying to think of other things is so hard. Even after 6 weeks, I still find myself thinking about the coulda shoulda wouldas far too often. Do give yourself some time to grieve. It's a necessary part of healing.
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April 17th, 2013, 05:58 AM
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I'm sorry for your loss It took a few days for it to sink in with me, I think I was more upset a couple weeks later than I was the day I found out. I'm sorry your going through this.
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April 17th, 2013, 06:52 AM
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Oh my gosh, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss I don't know if you remember me, but I was also part of the Oct DDC. It is so not fair that so many of us have to meet here

It has been a little over a month since I had my D&C and I'm doing much better now, looking towards the future and ttc again. I think the healing process just takes a while!

Sending you lots of hugs and positive thoughts!!!
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April 17th, 2013, 08:22 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss I am sure that was all very whirlwind for you especially with you leaving right after for your trip. I found talking it out with people to be the thing that helped me the most. Close friends, DH, and the ladies on here were all an amazing support group. I hope the appointment goes well and the doctor clears you quickly.

We are here for you any time!
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April 17th, 2013, 09:27 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that all is well in a month and you can get to TTCing your rainbow baby.
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April 17th, 2013, 10:29 AM
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I'm so heartbroken for your loss. I'm sorry to have to welcome you, but this is a great group of women here who have helped me tremendously in my healing. T&P are with you.
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April 17th, 2013, 11:39 AM
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I'm so sorry for you loss. I hope your appointment goes well and you are on your way to having your rainbow baby soon.
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April 17th, 2013, 02:56 PM
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Thank you so much ladies. I can't believe how many of us from the October DDC are here. Hopefully we can all get our rainbow babies!
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April 17th, 2013, 07:09 PM
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I am so very sorry for your loss. I too was in the Oct DDC. I lost my little on on 3/28 at 11 weeks 1 day. Praying every day for all of to conceive our rainbow babies!
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April 17th, 2013, 08:02 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss.
I hope everything looks good at your Dr. appointment and you get the green light.
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