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August 31st, 2013, 08:11 AM
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I know this is an odd question but I found myself on my old duedate club board last nite. I hadn't gone back since I announced my loss but found myself there last night when I couldn't sleep. I just sat there (sobbing) reading what they were going through and wishing that I could be relating to it. I am sure that this is all part of my hormones dropping and being overly emotional but I feel alone and out of the norm.
Have any of you returned and found yourself jealous and even annoyed abit when they are complaining about insomnia, indigestion, and other things that we would kill for right now? PLEASE dont think I am a bad person.
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August 31st, 2013, 08:48 AM
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You are so not a bad person. I can't do it personally because it would hurt too much. If you find there are therapeutic benefits of keeping up in there, then great.. but if it ends up being more painful than anything then maybe it isn't the best idea.
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August 31st, 2013, 09:18 AM
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My due date would have been in April of next year. I haven't even been on the board because I know it would hurt too much. I didn't announce my pregnancy on there because we didn't tell anyone except for a few close friends.
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August 31st, 2013, 05:55 PM
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I peer in mine once in a while, because one of the members is in my Dec 2011 playroom, so I check on her from time to time but that is it.
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August 31st, 2013, 11:44 PM
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I too was due in April next year. I am always lurking around in there. Would give anything to be with them right now. But maybe we will be in the next ddc together
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September 1st, 2013, 10:56 AM
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I too was due in April next year. I am always lurking around in there. Would give anything to be with them right now. But maybe we will be in the next ddc together
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September 2nd, 2013, 03:49 AM
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First: YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON! It is completely normal to lurk there after a loss. It's like a train wreck... you can't look away no matter how hard you try. I used to lurk after my losses but eventually I made myself stop. I was essentially torturing myself.
Second: We are here for you! Please don't ever feel like you can't post about something. We understand, we get it. That is one thing that I love about this board. We are the most supportive women out there!!
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September 2nd, 2013, 09:47 AM
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My due date would have been in 10 days. I never go back to the Sept. DDC. My SIL who is due in 8 days, and who I see every few days, talks constantly about cribs, bibs and breastfeeding. That's all the painful reminder I need.
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September 2nd, 2013, 05:31 PM
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My due date would have been may 17 2010. I never forget that day just like I don't forget August 17 when I had my ectopic pregnancy. I would like to say that it gets easier but it's still really hard. Ivhavent been ttc for the last 3 years. I'm always to that it will happen but sometimes I don't think that
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September 2nd, 2013, 06:40 PM
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I haven't gone back since I told them my loss. I feel like it would be to emotionally hard for me, I am already having trouble dealing with the loss already.
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September 2nd, 2013, 07:43 PM
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I will admit that I am curious to lurk in mine even though I never officially joined. Like I said in my earlier post, we didn't tell anyone about the pregnancy except a few close friends. But I think I am going to try to avoid lurking there because I know it will just make me really, really sad. I don't begrudge other ladies expecting their babies in April their happiness, but I'm just not emotionally at a point where I can read any of the posts. It makes me too sad about the baby I lost.
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September 3rd, 2013, 11:42 AM
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I peeked in on the July DDC (now playroom) when they were having their babies just to see how everything went for them. Every now and then I peek in on the April one especially since I have some friends in there but I really really try not to because the pain catches up with me every time.

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September 3rd, 2013, 11:54 AM
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I lurked a bit after my first loss (May 13 DDC) but then just couldn't keep up. I also should have been part of the Sept 13 and Dec 13 DDCs. :/
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September 3rd, 2013, 06:47 PM
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I did for a while in the July DDC but then it got to painful a reminder of what i lost
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