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January 4th, 2014, 07:53 PM
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Hi there,
I have a daughter who is 17 months and in October my husband and I decided to start trying. We used an ovulation test and on nov 13 I got my BFP. However on the 21st I had an hcg quant and my levels were low, on the 25th I started to miscarry. My levels went too 0 within days and I only bled 3 days. I was 6 weeks. We did an ovulation test gain in dec to monitor things and I ovulated as normal, although we weren't trying on the 23 I felt funny and took a test and had my 2nd BFP. Of course I was nervous and scared but happy. I must have heard a million times by the dr and nurses that this one would stick, on the 30th they did an hcg test and my levels were 33. I knew what was coming. Three days later the 2nd levels were 12 and I started bleeding. So I am currently miscarrying a second time. The doctors think ifs just one of those things but I want a blood test to rule out something with an easy fix like a clotting disorder. We plan on using protection until March but I'm scared, nervous and feel like I can't be excited anymore. I had no problems with my daughter.. For those who went through this what types of questions should I be asking my doctor?
As far as me I'm doing ok, emotionally I'm fine, I have a lot of family close by but I haven't cried a lot. I have had a tougher time with what I have had to physically go through miscarrying. Any advice, words of wisdom welcome and appreciated,
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January 4th, 2014, 08:02 PM
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I'm so sorry for your losses You've come to a great group of women, where I hope you will find some comfort. '

Did they say these were both considered chemical pregnancies? Have you had any labwork done at all?
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January 4th, 2014, 08:13 PM
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I'm sorry to hear of your losses. I would ask for genetic testing. It is easy and informative. It is expensive, unless your insurance will cover it.
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January 4th, 2014, 08:20 PM
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I'm so sorry for your losses You've come to a great group of women, where I hope you will find some comfort. '

Did they say these were both considered chemical pregnancies? Have you had any labwork done at all?
They didn't consider them chemicals I guess because both time I had a positive test for about 10 days. The only lab work I have had done this time would be my HCG levels tested.

With my first pregnancy my husband and I both went through all the genetic testing (because I am a cystic fibrosis carrier) and nothing came up for either.

They told me they wanted to wait until my next pregnancy to see if I carried or miscarried and go from there. I feel like if it's something like a blood clotting disorder or low progesterone it could be fixed so easily. It would be more beneficial financially and emotionally to get the testing done now, and see if their is a minor adjustment I could make to help my odds of carrying
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January 4th, 2014, 09:04 PM
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Sorry for your losses!! Did they test for MTHFR and blood clotting disorders?
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January 4th, 2014, 09:20 PM
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Sorry for your losses!! Did they test for MTHFR and blood clotting disorders?
Since my miscarriages they haven't tested for anything. I believe in the past yes I have beeN through genetic testing that tested for MTHFR
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January 4th, 2014, 10:22 PM
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So sorry for your losses. Waiting is so hard when all you want is a baby.
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January 5th, 2014, 11:23 AM
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Your genetic testing isn't going to change...

you can ask for your standard CD3 tests to see what your FSH looks like, estrogen, progesterone, etc. to get a baseline.
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11/25/14 - One twin stopped growing and lost their hb. :'( The other measures perfectly, hb: 157.
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January 5th, 2014, 03:27 PM
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Your genetic testing isn't going to change...

you can ask for your standard CD3 tests to see what your FSH looks like, estrogen, progesterone, etc. to get a baseline.
I know it's not going to change, I don't want to get genetic testing done again I want to get testing done for clotting and progesterone ect ect.

Although I'm not familiar with fertility area I have a Basic knowlege of baselines and what is normal because I am nurse. I feel like that it has really helped me through this.
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January 5th, 2014, 05:21 PM
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My advice is to see a specialist. Have the CD 3 testing done. Also a good thing to do is talk to them. Make sure that they will monitor you closely as soon as you do get a positive. Once you have a positive test they should immediately test your progesterone and HCG. If you progesterone is low then you need on the supplement. Another thing is to make sure your taking a prenatal. I'm very sorry for your losses.
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January 5th, 2014, 08:05 PM
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Since my miscarriages they haven't tested for anything. I believe in the past yes I have beeN through genetic testing that tested for MTHFR
It's genetic, so if you've been tested before, you won't need to again. You ask about clotting, but you said they tested for genetic stuff. Almost all of the clotting disorders ARE hereditary like Factor V Leiden, Protein C def, etc.
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January 8th, 2014, 12:04 PM
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Thanks everyone. Still cramping. Levels were down too 2. We don't have a specialist available so they will just send my to GYN if this happens again for now the doctor decided to take no action. I am a little disappointed and terrified to go through this again
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January 8th, 2014, 12:51 PM
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I understand your apprehension. I too had back to back mc's. I did go through some blood work but they didn't find anything. I too think it might be something easy like low progesterone. They tested it after the mc and it was normal but I think you have to be pregnant to have it checked and actually mean something. It is very frustrating to have dr's wait and see. Prayers for some answers and a BFP, and healthy pregnancy.
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