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May 30th, 2005, 11:56 AM
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Are you & your partner able to talk opennily about your miscarry? {miscarries}
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May 30th, 2005, 11:59 AM
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My hubby & I have talked very opennily about our miscarries from the very beginning. Although lately, we have tried not to think about them. Just trying to move on. I know we will never forget our little ones in heaven.
We know they are with GOD. That gives us peace of mind!
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May 30th, 2005, 12:11 PM
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WE have and always will talk about my m/c. It was a very hard time in our lives. WE are trying to not think about it either at this point. Our little one will always be on our minds.
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May 30th, 2005, 01:24 PM
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Yes, we talk very openly about it... Thankfully He is really helping me through the hard times right now
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May 31st, 2005, 05:28 AM
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Ours was only a weeks ago so dh is still having a hard time talking about it. he has this "I have to be strong for you" mentality. He doesn't show much emotion b/c he doesn't want to upset me. He has been working very hard though on taking care of the house, and our dd and ds which means the world to me. First dr's appt after m/c is this friday and dh is going so i'm hoping that helps hime deal with it. I think I was sicker than a lot of the women I've talked to (not that it makes it any harder than what you've all gone through ) so that might be why it's harder for him right now. Time heals all and in some crazy way, this has made us so much closer. We've never experienced a loss like this together and I think it truely makes you appreciate what you already have. best wishes to everyone
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May 31st, 2005, 05:42 AM
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Lou Lou Mom,

For the first few weeks after my m/c Hubby was the same way. He wanted to be strong for me... We've talked a lot since and He is hear to listen to me, but he's not as emotional about it because he wasn't as 'attached' the baby as I was... if that makes sense.
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May 31st, 2005, 08:06 AM
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We talked about it when it first happend but not much since then.
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May 31st, 2005, 08:52 AM
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Originally posted by hopin4a4rth@May 31 2005, 08:42 AM
Lou Lou Mom,

* For the first few weeks after my m/c Hubby was the same way.* He wanted to be strong for me...* We've talked a lot since and He is hear to listen to me, but he's not as emotional about it because he wasn't as 'attached' the baby as I was...* if that makes sense.
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dh said that he needs to make sure that I am okay physically and mentally before he can let himself completely deal with it. He cries in silence when I'm not around. I have seen such an unselfish, giving side of him that in the 12 yrs we've been together, I never knew he had. Like your dh my dh said that as much as he hurts, he can't compare it to what I am going through, being the one who carried the baby, felt it move, and went through the physical pain of the m/c as well as the ongoing pain, physically and mentally, but we get through it together, one day at a time and somehow after all of this, I feel closer to him than I ever have.
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May 31st, 2005, 03:49 PM
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We have been able to talk about it, but at times I don't want to go on and on about it. My DH is very supportive and has been heartbroken himself, but he is the positive force in our relationship. When I am feeling negative and sorry for myself, he picks me up with his positive outlook.........Thank goodness for me that I have such a kind, gentle, and loving hubby...
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May 31st, 2005, 04:25 PM
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My hubby always reminds me that it hurt him too and he feels the same way whenever i'm feeling depress about it
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