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I posted back in April about the missed miscarriage that I had on 1st March at 11 weeks. What a horrible time to go through when you've wanted to get pg for so long. I waited nearly 8 weeks for AF to arrive after my D & C. The wait was agonising as I was desperate to start TTC. Anyway 4 months later I have got a + HPT which obviously I am thrilled about but I am so scared of the same thing happening again. I know everyone says take each day as it comes but I can't help thinking about it. I am going to go for an early scan at about 8 weeks but what happened last time is taking all the enjoyment out of this. I'm sure there are lots of people out there who had a miscarriage and then went on to have a healthy baby the next time but I just feel completely hopeless about it all. Is there anything I can do to make me feel better ? Any advise would be good.
Congratulations! I just recently had my missed miscarriage, and my D&C was on July 6th. I know how you are feeling, I want to TTC immediately, but I know I'm going to be a nervous wreck when I do become PG. The only advice I have is to realize that every pregnancy is different. Embrace your fears and turn it into immense love for your baby. Try to keep yourself busy, no matter what that entails for you to make those 8 weeks go by more quickly. Maybe you can talk your doc into an earlier check up? I know these things are easier said than done, but you have to be strong, the stress is not good for you or the baby. As I write this I laugh because I know that in a few months, I will probably be writing the same post that you did. We are all here if you need to vent or freak out. There's lots of women who have dealt with this.
First of all, I am really sorry to hear about the loss you experienced, you will miss your baby forever. It is a VERY tough thing to go through.
I am glad that you were able to get pg so quickly though, BIG CONGRATS TO YOUR on you BFP! I have read many times that getting pg again can be the best therapy for your m/c...
I had a missed m/c on 06/10/05 and had a D&C that evening. I am actually still waiting for AF to show up...Everyday I keep thinking come on already!!!! I am still really torn up about the loss of our baby, I am on an emotional roller coaster, but I am like you were in the fact that I want to TTC again sooooo badly. I too am so scared already for when I become pg again, however I want a child more than the strength of the fear so I am just going to go for it! You do have to take things day by day, however I would try to focus on the positive. My best friend had a missed m/c at about 12 weeks in 2003, so it was a pretty close timeframe to yours. She got pg again about 3-4 months later and now has a BEAUTIFUL baby boy. Everything with her pregnancy went really well...so try to keep good stories like that in your mind. I totally understand what you are saying though about the enjoyment of this pregnancy being diminished for you due to the loss of your baby, however I think that is totally normal. I would try to see if your Dr would be willing to see you sooner, maybe at 6 weeks. Is it the same Dr you had during your m/c? I would voice your fear and anxiety around being pg again and being worried about it happening again. My Dr already told me that they are going to try to be really cautious and treat me emotionally as well as physically so my first appt for next time would be at 6 weeks. I would see if you could go in at 6 weeks and maybe even get an u/s to calm some of your fears. I know there are no guarantees but I would do whatever you can to try to calm your nerves,even if you think it might be silly to others, if it will make you feel better do it! My best friend rented a heart doppler from a place called heartbeats at home for her 2nd pregnancy because she was so afraid, maybe something like that would help you as well...just some ideas...