Ugh! We just came back from DH's niece's birthday party, to which her mother (DH's sister) showed up.
She's still pg. She was going to get an abortion and a hysterectomy, I thought she was still planning to do that anyway but she didn't say anything so who knows now, maybe she changed her mind. She's in her 2nd trimester now and starting to show a little. Not that she could possibly think of taking care of another child. GRRRRRRRRRR!!!!! She's 38, this is her 5th child and definitely an "oops" as she is (thankfully!!) no longer with the father, who is a complete moron, they were only together a month anyway. She is a HEAVY, HEAVY smoker (and drinker), and does not have custody of her two underage children, DH's mom got her emergency foster care license to take them when the courts took them away from DH's sister for let's see, it was 3 counts of credit card fraud, 1 count of drug possesion, and 1 count of drug paraphanelia (sp??) for crack cocaine. She (and her friends) were I guess doing drugs in front of the kids, and I know they were high many times when we came over to visit. Unfortunately, all the charges were dropped and she goes scot-free (well, the credit card thing turned out her friend stole it and gave it to her to use and she didn't know it was stolen), so now she's "trying" to get her kids back. Well, she can't get them back until she goes to drug classes and she refuses to go. And she got her license taken away bc she doesn't have insurance, so according to her, she
can't go because she can't drive. Oh, yes, and she's a stripper. Not that I have anything against that profession, but come on, you're 38 and pregnant!!!!!!!
This child, if she decides to carry it, has like zero chance of a healthy lifestyle unless she gives it up for adoption because she will never change. She tries, but always goes back to it. And knowing how much DH hates his sister, he wants nothing to do with even considering the possibility of adopting it from her, and gets very mad whenever anyone suggests it.
Bleh. And my AF still hasn't showed. No signs, nothing. It's been almost 5 weeks since the surgery, and I know it can take up to 10 weeks I think? Not that that matters, if my only option is IVF since we can't afford that for at least a couple of years. BLEH!!!
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I hope your Dh changes his mind and will adopt this baby from her. That baby deserves to have a loving family not someone like her. So sorry you had to see her and deal with her.
While she's still pg, I can honestly say no, that's not what I want, we're not interested in adopting a child if we can't have one of our own, that's what we've agreed on all along, and we both still feel that way. But . . . if she does have the baby, and once I hold it, I'm sure I'll probably say, but honey . . . after all that's how I ended up with my big furbaby, Carl 
DH didn't really want a dog at that point having had to take care of them all his life (his parents were breeders) and then I met Carl as a tiny puppy (from DH's parents of course) and held him and I said, but honey . . . ummm yeah he was home with us 3 days later! 
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