[linbein]

Ok, so now I find myself at a point...a week out from my D&C, my bleeding has pretty much stopped now...and now...I just wait...
Part of me wants to TTC right away. After all, one of my doctors told me that was perfectly fine, and that it didn't increase my chance of another miscarriage, since we had a blighted ovum it was such a freak occurrance for us anyways. We don't have any genetic issues that prevent us from having children, we have a healthy almost 4 year old at home, so the chances of having another blighted ovum are slim....but still...there is that thought in the back of my mind that if I get pregnant too fast, that something will happen. My doctor said "if the conditions are not righ, your body will not get pregnant!"
I am not planning on using any birth control so I guess whatever happens will happen. Most couples generally might not worry, and just figure that they'll try after they have a cycle, but with us? We are very fertile to begin with. We got pregnant both times the first month trying. So, if they say you are even more fertile after a MC...well....I'm scared to even let him touch me! Not that I wouldn't be thrilled to get pregnant right away, just that fear in the back of my mind again.
So...how did you get through the waiting??? Now will be the waiting for AF....can take WEEKS! I have heard you can ovulate only a few weeks after a miscarriage...we will be on vacation....who knows...hehehe...
ugh....
I feel like I wasted so much time last year. We kept waiting to go off BC, figuring we could time things like we did with our first. I had no idea this would happen to hold up our plans. I keep thinking...if I hadn't waited so long last year....if I had gotten pregnant sooner...blah blah....maybe I wouldn't be where I am right now..
It's just funny cause I spent so much time the past few years not wanting to get pregnant, and now...its all I want again. Strange the waylife works sometimes....
Please tell me the next 4-6 weeks will go by quickly!

[greenchild]

I am sorry for your loss!! Wish I could tell you the waiting is easy. It SUCKS!!! I'm normally a regular 28-day gal, and the last time I had any AF-like bleeding was when I was 5w4d pg. Then they actually removed the fetal tissue (ectopic) when I was 9w-something. I had extremely light brown spotting after that (didn't even need so much as a panty liner) and now, 5 weeks after that spotting, still nothing, nothing at all.
I know what you mean, feeling like you wasted time. When we were TTC with the the first pg, it took 1 1/2 yrs and at least 1/2 the time we missed the fertile periods altogether (well, there's always next month, DH would say). I feel like, I'm getting older, and so are my eggs . . .

[Proudmommyof3]

Hi Linette

I responded to your post under fertility charting but I just read your post here so I thought Id write.

After my m/c in March 03, I was devastated. I couldnt wait for the bleeding to stop so I could ttc and was not told of any problems that would result in trying right away. I waited for my first period before trying but I have read on other boards too of people who got pregannt right after a m/c also and who have had perfect pregnancies and babies.

I say you know what is best for you and wish you alot of luck and hope you are blessed with a christmas/december baby.

Feel free to email me if you need to talk

Lolly