[Gemini2323]

Hi everyone,
I'm new to this and have never posted on a message board in my life.

I had an early miscarriage about two months ago and I'm still not feeling emotionally ready to start trying again but I hope to feel ready soon. I'm just so scared of it happening again that I think it is holding me back. I'm so worried that if I do become pregnant again I'll just worry all the time and stress myself out which I know is not good during pregnancy. I also had an infection after my miscarriage and this scares me a lot because this can make you infertile so I'm also scared to try and find out I cannot become pregnant.

If anyone has any suggestions or comments, please let me know.

Thanks!

[Hannahsmommie]

So sorry for your loss and welcome to the board. I think it's very important that you're emotionally ready, and it doesn't sound like you are. Unfortunately we all will forever worry throughout future pregnancies after a loss. There's alot of support on these boards. I hope you can find some comfort here.

[Mum2three]

first u need to be emotionally stable to try again. and its hard to over come after a loss. im sorry to hear that u went through this. i have the same problem, as i lost my daughter then my son 5 weeks ago. its a pain that u can never get over. u will know when ur ready. i know for me im not ready to try again. take ur time. time is ur best friend right now, take advantage of it, have some fun then mabey u can make that decision. you will forever worry about other pregnancies thats only normal. what im going to to when i do become pregnant again, is get into a hobby. scrap booking gardening something like that. take ur mind off of it. again im sorry that u have went through this, and i wish u the best of luck! welcome to the site!!

[Gemini2323]

first u need to be emotionally stable to try again. and its hard to over come after a loss. im sorry to hear that u went through this. i have the same problem, as i lost my daughter then my son 5 weeks ago. its a pain that u can never get over. u will know when ur ready. i know for me im not ready to try again. take ur time. time is ur best friend right now, take advantage of it, have some fun then mabey u can make that decision. you will forever worry about other pregnancies thats only normal. what im going to to when i do become pregnant again, is get into a hobby. scrap booking gardening something like that. take ur mind off of it. again im sorry that u have went through this, and i wish u the best of luck! welcome to the site!![/b]

Actually just after it happened I felt like I had to keep really busy to not constantly think about it so I took up beading necklaces and just recently started an accounting course so I'm all prepared for when I do decide to become pregnant again. I'll keep busy and try not to worry all of the time, if that's possible!

Thank you for responding it's really nice to hear from someone who understands. I haven't told many people as I just feel that they won't understand.

What's really difficult is seeing my two sister in-laws who are both pregnant right now...I've told one who I am close to but the other I haven't and she talks about being pregnant constantly and I am happy for her but it gets on my nerves a little. Plus I'm throwing a shower for her so that doesn't really help either.

Good luck with deciding on a hobby and best of luck in the future!