Wondering if you feel this way too...

jessg · #1 April 7th, 2007, 03:12 PM

DH and I had an early M/c back in May 2006. We have been unable to get pregnant since then.

Part of me thinks it'll never happen again. Or that if I do get pregnant, it will never result in a healthy baby. I can no longer imagine being pregnant. Others who have gone through this say its because its my ONLY experience with being pregnant and that the feeling will go away after I get pregnant again and have our baby.

Is that true for any of you? It's not an anger that I feel. I think its just this random thought that just feels like a fact instead...

Just curious if you feel that way. I know it sounds so negative. But its just how I view things.

tamaranwes · #2 April 7th, 2007, 04:02 PM

I know I do. After 3 mc I can no longer see my self pregnant. I want to. i think our minds are in safe mode or something. I had two sons when I was younger and never had the worry in my mind, but have had 3 mc with my current husband so it just seems like a fairly tale now. I also thought it was just me that could no longer imagine myself pregnant! at least we know it must be kind of a normal response!

*Krissy* · #3 April 7th, 2007, 05:17 PM

I also feel that way. Although I have 2 healthy kids, I have had 2 m/c's and a preemie that didn't make it. I don't see myself ever being able to carry a baby to term again.

joanie1981 · #4 April 7th, 2007, 05:46 PM

I think I am scared that it will happen again, yet I am still hopeful at the same time, I don't think I could keep trying if I didn't keep that hope, that I will carry another baby to term, alive

KWIM?

Kiwi*Mummie*of*4 · #5 April 7th, 2007, 06:21 PM

I have been pregnant 5 times and have lost two of my babe to misscarriage. I was devastated when I lost my first babe (2nd pregnancy) and never thought I would get pregnant again. I did get pregnant again and had a beautiful baby and then we tried for another baby and I got pregnant and was so excited and then lost that babe to so I was so worried that if I got pregnant again I would lose that child but thankfully that didnt happen but during my TTC I was always worried if I got pregnant I would lose the baby and I think that fear is an understandable feeling after you have lost a child.

#6 April 7th, 2007, 08:14 PM

I have a DD already before I miscarried, so I know that I can carry. But part of me thinks I wont get again, I miscarried in Oct 05 and still havent gotten pg. I am worried that I will never have another child, I do think that if that was your first pregnancy that is maybe why you feel like you wont have a healthy baby. But you will hun, just keep your head high!

Brittanie · #7 April 8th, 2007, 09:01 AM

I, too, can also understand this feeling. It's different for me, being that carrying to term wasn't my problem. I lost my Cora at 38w1d, so my fear is that even though I can get pregnant, and even carry to term, that I still won't ever get a baby out of it.

It's not that I can't imagine myself as pregnant. I just feel like I'll ALWAYS be pregnant and never get to hold a live baby that is mine. I'm 29 weeks now, and I still have the hardest time sometimes thinking that likely, I WILL get the baby this time...

I just keep seeing my empty nursery and my empty crib.

Fear does weird things to you, don't you think?

baby4me? · #8 April 9th, 2007, 09:09 AM

I have been pregnant twice and I lossed both very early on. I don't have any children and it is hard to imaginve myself pregnant and carrying a healthy baby. It seems like a dream now... My fear is that I will never know the joy of carrying a child and feeling it grow and move inside me. It is definitely hard to stay positive. But I am not giving up yet!