Need some opinions..

Em2528 · #1 May 28th, 2007, 08:33 AM

My husband and I were pregnant with our first baby and ended up having a m/c 3 weeks ago...we want to start ttc again asap and are just unsure of what to do...my doctor, like most, said its good to wait a few cycles before starting to ttc again but it was a pretty early loss (I was 6 weeks along) and so im just wondering what everyone thinks about us starting to ttc again now...Ive heard that getting pregnant too soon doesnt mean you will m/c again and ive also heard that having one m/c doesnt put you at higher risk of having another...of course im a little worried that if i get preggo too soon that ill have another m/c but no matter when i get pregnant ill be that way...we were going to wait until i at least got one period after my m/c (which we still might do) but its so hard sitting around waiting for af to show, i feel like were wasting time. I know some of you have waited, and some of you have gotten pregnant a few weeks after a m/c so i thought it would be nice to get some input from people who have experiance with this (this was my first pregnancy and my first m/c, so im pretty clueless). For those of you who have had a m/c, how long after it did you start ttc again? How soon after your m/c did you get pregnant again? What was the outcome of that pregnancy?? Im just so confused right now, so thank you all for your support!

divababy · #2 May 28th, 2007, 08:52 AM

Well, I don't know that you'll want my oppinion as I'm currently 95% sure that I'm miscarrying again, back to back. But I got mixed messages from my midwife & docs office after my January miscarriage. Some said to wait, others said that there was no harm in trying immediately. We went ahead and tried immediately as it made me feel more proactive and positive, but we didn't get pregnant until the 3rd month. Those who said we could try immediately felt very strongly that your body won't do anything its not ready for.

Unfortunately when I went for my 6 1/2 week u/s they only saw an empty sac. They will confirm the results on Friday, so I guess we'll see. Anyway, I highly doubt that any of this has to do with how early we ttc, it seems to be just rotten luck.

I plan on ttc right away again if this turns out as I'm expecting...

spicymustard · #3 May 28th, 2007, 08:59 AM

I got pregnant 2 weeks after our m/c. I never even had another AF.

Like you, I didn't want to wait around and I felt like wasting time. I lost mine at 6w 3d.

My doctor never answered any of my questions b/c we never did a follow up after my u/s from the loss so I never went by doctors advice, I just did a lot of search online and read many reports that you don't have an increased risk. I have no idea if it is true. My new doctor didn't seem concerned that I got pregnant so soon after the m/c though.

I do know that I have been a nervous wreck about this. I've worried about every little thing. I'm not sure if there is anyway of advoiding this after a m/c though.

Em2528 · #4 May 28th, 2007, 09:14 AM

We were going to wait till I got my first post-m/c AF, but are now thinking that we might just go ahead and start ttc again. The only thing im worried about (other than having another m/c) is that if we do in fact get pregnant right away, if we have another m/c, I dont want my family saying things like "you should have waited longer", "you didnt give your body enough time after your m/c" etc. etc.....of course im not going to let them stop me from trying again but I just dont want to deal with that, even though I know that if I do have another m/c, there is nothing I could do about it. I appreciate your responses!

spicymustard · #5 May 28th, 2007, 10:33 AM

I was worried about people saying the same thing. "You had another m/c because....". But then I decided I didn't care what they thought. In my heart, even if I end up miscarrying this one too, I really don't think it will have anything to do with getting pregnant again so soon.

the scotts · #6 May 28th, 2007, 03:32 PM

I HAD A MISCARRIAGE LAST MONTH AT 5 WEEKS AND MY RE TOLD ME I CAN START AGAIN THIS MONTH!

zzz · #7 May 29th, 2007, 07:58 AM

I've had two losses - one at ten weeks (blighted ovum) and one at 4.5 weeks. After the 10 week loss, my dr. told me to wait one or two cycles just to let things normalize out a little, (It didn't happen naturally and I had to take meds to get the sac out.) After the 4.5 week loss she told me that I could try again as soon as I wanted to. I think it's all up to you in when to start trying again - I didn't ovulate until after I got af after the losses though so I had to wait until I had one cycle.

I'm very sorry for your loss, and good luck in the future!

Lisa