[Em2528]

Hey girls...I just wanted to share something with you all but first wanted to say Thank you all for welcoming me to this site and letting me post here and for being so kind and caring and supportive of me.....Well I belong to another mommy site that I post on and up to this point its been wonderful, with alot of (what I thought were) really kind and caring and supportive people...well another girl and I on there are both just getting through our m/c's and so we have been posting on there questions we may have (being new to the pregnancy and m/c thing) and also just sharing things like we would on any normal day...well, little did we know, a bunch of grown women on there have been behind our backs saying that we are WHINY and annoying. It broke my heart when I found that out because all along I thought these women have been so great to have to talk to because they also are going through the ttc process. We were all part of a buddy group that we would all post in daily, and starting yesterday, they all (except me and my buddy- whom im going through the m/c process with) started another buddy group and people are only aloud in to it through invite...and in that buddy group they talk about how nice it is to be away from us whiners and stuff....I was like...omg, I thought I escaped petty childish people when I graduated highschool, and here these grown women who I thought were my support group have gone and "stabbed" me in the back. Im so hurt by this, and just want to say that im so glad to have all of you women here who have been such a wonderful support group since the beginning of my time here and I hope that you all dont consider me whiny, (even though I may have my days- just like everyone else) because I really am a nice, kind, caring, loving person and im not here to whine, or bother people, im here because I am on this ttc journey with the rest of you and like everyone else on this roller coaster of a ride, I NEED you girls to get through this. I appologize if ive ever whined and promise to do better if I have and I just hope and pray that you will all continue to allow me to be a part of this site and to have the relationships I have with you. You all have been wonderful and again I thank you and am so glad to have found this site and to have all of you to be there for me and that I can be here for all of you too.....

[tparum]

let me say something u are very welcomed here and ur not whiney and if other ppl. thank u are then thats there prob. im so sry ur going threw this. but any time u need to talk please post it k.

[Em2528]

Thank you VERY much, thats so sweet of you, and I appreciate it, it really means alot to me to feel so welcome here, if I didnt have you ladies, id be lost, id truly be on my own, well of course id have DH, but im talking in the ladies department HEHE....thanks again!

[jennandbaby]

I am not a regular poster (word? ) but I wanted to let you know that you have the RIGHT to vent/whine/cry/etc and I encourage you to do so! You lost your baby!! Talking about it is how we heal . And if those childish piece of crap women cannot understand then they don't deserve such a wonderful, caring person as a friend. If you ever need to talk, whine, vent, whatever, please PM me.

[zzz]

I am appalled by those women's behavior!!! We all vent sometimes, and everyone deserves a place where they can come and air their frustrations and sorrows. It is sad that a bunch of grown women are acting like childish fools and making you feel so unwelcome!

We have all gone through loss here, and we all understand that there are times when you feel like NOTHING is going right and you just need other women for support. I hope you don't ever feel hesitant to post here because we are all here to help!


Lisa

[Em2528]

I knew I could count on all of you to be here for me, you all have brought tears to my eyes with how much support you are giving me just through this situation...and I want to thank you all so much for everything. I agree that we all need to have a place to vent to each other and im so glad I have JM to do that. Its times like these, while im going through the aftermath of loosing my baby, and going through starting all over again with ttc, that I NEED other women who understand how im feeling to talk to (because right now I am feeling like nothing is going right), and most of those women who said I was whiny have never been through a loss and have no idea what im going through, and to hear that they said that about me was just heartbreaking. I, like most of you, cant believe that grown women would act that way, some people never grow up, I thought id escape petty people like that when I graduated highschool, but it seems like they will never go away....anyway, again I thank you all for your support for me at this time and im so thankful that I can come here and post how im feeling without worrying if someone will go behind my back and call me "whiny" or something else just because I had a down day or something....you all are wonderful!

[spicymustard]

Wow. That is really messed up. Isn't the point of these boards to vent/complain/share in each others joy? I can't beleive they would say things like that. They obviously have never been through a loss or a long ttc journey.

[Em2528]

I think its pretty messed up too...I thought that sharing a vent or something was what we were supposed to do since it was called a BUDDY GROUP...one of them has 2 kids and has been ttc #3 for a long time, so you would think she would have been sypathetic to my frusterations and stuff and the other just has no idea what im going through because she already has one child, is pg with her 2nd (which she shoved in my face time and time again) and never had a m/c...ill never understand how people can treat others so badly....i just have to shake my head...

[The Heather]

That is part of the healing process and one reason we are here is on TTC After Loss board. I'm sorry you had to go through this and I hope you can ignore the childish behavior of those women. You are more than welcome to PM me anytime you need to vent.

[Em2528]

Thank you so much, im so glad you all have been so understanding and supportive of me. I was shocked by the situation, I thought they were my support system throught his difficult time (when they really have no idea what im going through because they all have healthy children) but I was so wrong, and ive been so hurt by them..but im so glad to have all of you...thank you all again!