[matl]

Hello Everyone,

I am new here, just found out about this board. I am probably one of the older ladies here at 41.

Two and a half weeks ago I found out I was pg and we were all over the moon. Normal conception (no treatments), first time trying after 8 years and you can only imagine how happy I was. At 41, I knew it was a high risk pg, but "high risk" were only two words to me without much meaning. I had never m/c'd, my two previous pgs were difficult in the sense that I became anemic and had to take glucose tests alot until I passed them, but there was never anything earth shattering wrong. They were 2 c sections, and although they were rough, nothing out of the ordinary.

I went to my doc positive about everything and he took blood. Two of the three tests came back negative, but we chalked it up as testing too early. After the positive outcome, I made an appointment with ob who delivered my 2 sons. He took 5 tubes of blood told me to call him back in two days.... did that and although not all the results had come back, he did say that the pregnancy result came back positive and to make appt when all the results came back. No problem.

Two hours after getting the great news, I started spotting. Whoa....I did not know what to do, I was at work, so I call doc who is not on duty and speak to doc on call and he says that we can only wait. I go home, keep spotting. On Sunday, I went to ER, they are sure that I a m/c'ing. They take an u/s and the sac and fetus are there. I was over the moon. No hb though, but they sort of see it with the eye, but they can't pick it up b/c baby is so small (4 weeks).

I go home hoping for the best and the bleeding gets worse. I went to doc yesterday and he confirms m/c (no u/s verification). He tells me that the rest of the test results came in and that my Beta was low and my progesterone was low and the hcg had not been doubling as he wished. It looked like an abnormal pg and that is why I m/c'd. Bleeding has gotten worse and now I have pregnancy symptoms which are making me think I am crazy. I call doc and nurse tells me that it is normal because hormone levels take time to go down. I have more nausea and food cravings now than I did while I was pg.

Next week I have appointment with ob to ensure that all is cleaned and I made appointment with high risk pregnancy ob two weeks later. My ob wants me to go to him so I can start pre-prenatal care, gestation and delivery of next pg with high risk ob.

Has anyone had m/c and still felt pg symptoms? Has anyone gone to specialists? What do they do? I have never gone through this and I am worried, scared and concerned that my eggs are somehow defective.

Thanks for reading.
Maria

[greenchild]

First, and I am so sorry for what you are going thru! I can't help you with some of it, both of my pg's were confirmed ectopic, first one heterotopic, but I didn't know about the one in my uterus until my post-op appt. But I can tell you that with the 2nd pg, I felt pg symptoms until my HCG's went down, which took about 2 weeks, which unfortunately for me gave me hope that that one might have been heterotopic too, but it wasn't.
Let us know how your appt next week goes.

[the scotts]

i had a miscarriage a t 4 weeks in april and it was a spontaneous abortion is what they called it ,meaning everything came out at once.i was devistated and we tried again and we got pregnant.i hope that you didn't miscarry becuz there is still a chance that you didn't!i had my first ultra sound and i was 4 weeks and 3 days on the 15th and they saw the sac and the bean but it was also too early to hear or see the heart beat but they put me on 200mgs of prometrium to elevate my progesterone to keep me from miscarrying.my question is aren't they suppose to stop the miscarriage if they see it soon enough?that's what makes me think you have a chance but i will pray for you!oh 1 more thing

[matl]

Thanks for the welcome, Diamond. Yes, that is what I thought, especially since there was a sac and a "bean". The spotting was just that, blackish, tarish, thick spots. First ob thought it was old blood and was not concerned, but when the clotting started and the red started showing up, it was as if they washed their hands of the whole deal.

I am not saying that they were cold hearted, but, maybe I wanted more sympathy and more help for my angel. The ER docs were so...."you're mc'ing, you will be fine, no ectopic pg, pelvic rest, you will be fine." Then one of them asked me, 'What is your greatest concern?" Honestly, I did not know where to start, there were so many starting with the baby. So, there is where I started, just to get the, "Half of all pg's end in mc, you will be fine."

My ob was a little nicer, but he didn't even do a perfunctory us to see if the sac and the bean was still there. That deflated any hope I had. Next week I will ask him to do a us just to relieve my fears and give me closure.

Now, I have rollercoaster feelings. I don't even know how I got to this point. I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs (not even aspirin), cholesterol is 142, my bp is nice and low, rarely bd, never had a mc and I am worried this is going to happen again. I am scared to death. I was prepared to try for 6 months, but an mc wasn't even a thought in my mind. I thought this pg was going to be hard on me, maybe get anemic earlier, not pass the glucose test again, maybe bed rest, maybe the fibroid would act up, maybe even a preemie.... but an mc never ever crossed my mind.

80% of the time I am okay and dealing, then the other 20% rears its head and I can't even believe this is happening. Anyone know what questions to ask next week?

Thanks for reading.

[matl]

First, and I am so sorry for what you are going thru! I can't help you with some of it, both of my pg's were confirmed ectopic, first one heterotopic, but I didn't know about the one in my uterus until my post-op appt. But I can tell you that with the 2nd pg, I felt pg symptoms until my HCG's went down, which took about 2 weeks, which unfortunately for me gave me hope that that one might have been heterotopic too, but it wasn't.
Let us know how your appt next week goes.[/b]

Thanks, Green, I had to search what heterotopic was. I saw your siggie and I can't imagine what you have gone through. It is so strange to have the pg symptoms now because like you said, they give me hope. But hope fades pad after pad. Aren't there some women that have healthy pgs after AF coming for 9 months?

At times I grasp at straws.

[lynie07]

l'm sorry for your loss,
well for your age l just bet you
l had a m/c at 14 weeks,everything was fine till l was 6 weeks then l started
lightly bleeding it stop and start and that went on right up till they said that l
should have cvs done wich l did on the wed then m/c on the Friday,my Partner
and l didn't want the test done as we both knew the risk at our age but my doc
really push for it,l was just so stress when got her call and just agreed without
even thinking about it,the strange thing that week was the best l had felt the whole
time l was pregnant.so for age it is a high risk,but l know theres alot of women our
age having healthy pg.
we started nearly 2 yrs ago and we will be doing ivf in a few months and if that doesn't
work we will give up,the hardest of it all is my DP hasn't any children and l so much want
to give him a child l have 3 with my x.
Before we even tried to fall pg we both had medical checks mine came back really good,but
Gary's semen report showed that hes sperm Morphology was only 1%normal,which only gives
us 1% chance to fall pg naturally so we have to do iui or ivf and we did get pg with our angel
first time iui ,but not giving up just yet.
sorry for going on and l wish you all the luck