Ok I need to ask this TMI question again......

inlove96 · #1 June 24th, 2007, 09:25 AM

Ok since the chemical and all....things have been weird. More discharge and such. I got AF about 1 1/2 weeks later than normal. So still ok there. But what I notice is when we are fooling around and I may not be in the mood at all but for some reason I get a ton of arousal fluid. I mean DH can just touch me and bam!! It is so embarrassing. I mean to have to clean up before DTD. Is this normal???

Before the chemical I would get a bunch of fluid but only when I was truly aroused.

MrsPoe · #2 June 24th, 2007, 10:01 AM

Well, I was going to ask this question too. I know that I was almost in the 3rd trimester, so I don't know if that changes anything or not. I have noticed that I am almost always wetter down there, with or without dh touching me. I thought it was because of ovulation, but I should be past that now. Anyways I hope someone else will help us out with this question. I am starting to think that pregnancy must mess with hormones a bit, maybe that is why the extra discharge. Hey at least we don't have to break out with the ky. lol

BabyBird · #3 June 24th, 2007, 10:19 AM

I wouldn't worry...just be glad you have the extra CM to help the spermies go where they need to go. Some people don't have enough.

Acadia · #4 June 24th, 2007, 10:20 AM

It can definitely mess with your hormones ... I'm finding that I'm actually drier! So I have the opposite problem. I've never had to use any extra lubrication in my life, but foreplay can drag on and on now and I'm still not "ready". Mentally I am, but I don't produce enough fluids, I guess.

It's been getting a little better lately though. I can barely tell but last time it seemed it didn't take quite as long. Maybe it was just in my head but it seemed like it ... hopefully it is improving, and hopefully it will for you guys too.

Sabina · #5 June 24th, 2007, 11:08 AM

I am also dryer since my m/c. Not when BDing but it is very hard to chart my cm.

inlove96 · #6 June 24th, 2007, 11:39 AM

thanks girls.

I wish I could be happy about the extra wetness for the spermies.....but DH stopped us from TTC since the MC. He said he realized he was not ready. *****!!!

BabyBird · #7 June 24th, 2007, 12:00 PM

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It takes two to make a baby so if you both aren't ready then it wouldn't be a good idea to TTC. Maybe he needs a little more time to grieve and is afraid to be hurt again with another loss. Calling him names isn't going to help the situation. Maybe you need to sit down and talk about when you both will be ready again.

inlove96 · #8 June 24th, 2007, 02:07 PM

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thanks girls.

He said he realized he was not ready. *****!!![/b]

It takes two to make a baby so if you both aren't ready then it wouldn't be a good idea to TTC. Maybe he needs a little more time to grieve and is afraid to be hurt again with another loss. Calling him names isn't going to help the situation. Maybe you need to sit down and talk about when you both will be ready again.
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Oh trust me on this. I know my husband. he flat out said he was selfish. He is NOT grieving. He did not care about the lose. Trust me....we have talked. I should not have said ***** sure....but come one trying to conceive for 6 months finally getting it and then he decides no more. What would you do?

BabyBird · #9 June 24th, 2007, 02:48 PM

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I would wait until he is ready.

jennandbaby · #10 June 24th, 2007, 05:24 PM

I found this that might be helpful

http://www.fertilitycommunity.com/fertilit...iscarriage.html

HTH

Sabina · #11 June 24th, 2007, 07:37 PM

Men grieve a lot differently then women. My DH was heartbroken when we lost our baby but he would never talk about it with anyone. He was so into TTC before we lost the baby and now his interest is not so intense. We have talked about it and he wants to try again but he is scared so he doesn't want to know as much. I can understand that I respect his wishes. I think it is harder for him when I get a BFN so I try to not tell him. He knows when the cycle is over and a/f comes and that is enough for him. He is WAY more sensitive then I am. I need to respect that. Everyone is different in how they deal with it.

inlove96 · #12 June 25th, 2007, 06:38 AM

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Sorry did not mean for that to sound bad. I am waiting. I have no choice in the matter. He just needs to realize that the endo I have is only growing each month and so on. I wish we never tried in the first place cause my heart would not be hurting at this point. I guess it is easier for woman to say they would wait if they don't have a husband like mine.

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http://www.fertilitycommunity.com/fertilit...iscarriage.html

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Thank you!!!!

BabyBird · #13 June 25th, 2007, 07:56 AM

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It might be but I did wait 6 months until my DH was ready. It was hard but I never pressured him into TTC before he was ready. Men do grieve differently and if time is what he needs, then I wouldn't push him because it will only make him want to wait longer.