[OurSweetLabs]

My Dh and I had a miscarriage in May 05. We are TTC again. How soon did you feel safe telling people?

[Purplescraps]

After my first m/c when I got pregnant again, I didn't tell people until my u/s and after about when I could feel for sure the baby. I was showing, but could hide my stomache, finally the doctor told me it is safe to tell, but I wanted to make sure.

With this m/c I told, when I am ttcing I am not going to tell until I see the babys heartbeat and know for sure the baby is going to make it.

[Purplescraps]

Tell your husband for sure though. I know I was so excited to tell people, but I should of waited.

[lynie07]

well if we fall pg again we will wait till after
4 months at least.

[OurSweetLabs]

Thank Ladies

Dh and I have talked some about when we will tell people. he wants to tell people right away but I am not up for that,

[~*Kixs*~]

We did not tell anyone about our 1st m/c just b/c it all happened so fast. Found out we were PG on Wednesday and started bleeding on Friday. And it really hurt us carrying such a heavy heart all alone.

We told everyone the second we found out we were PG with DD and this last angel. Our thoughts were that this is a life. It is our baby even if we don't get to carry it to birth. When we had our 2nd m/c our family and friends were wonderful and really help us to start healing.

As hard as it I would say tell your family. They will love this baby just as much ##### you and DH do.

[MrsRodgers]

I'm really up in the air about this. With our first PG we told our family and told some close friends--DH was so excited that he couldn't keep his mouth shut! but it was hard to tell them 4 weeks later (our little one left us at 8 weeks) that we had m/c, although they were all very supportive and several of my friends told me their stories of m/c that I had never known about!

I'm so scared though that when we get PG again I think I won't say anything until the doctor tells me its ok to tell people. I am thinking 4 months. Not that there is ever a guarantee but I would feel better knowing that I was out of that early danger zone.

[jennandbaby]

Since I had a 20 week loss, we are not telling anyone. They will find out when I am either ready to deliver or delivered a heathly baby. My family lives 300 miles away so they are easy to avoid and I can avoid DH's family once I start showing.

[*Bobbie*]

I told everyone I am close to the day I got my blood test results back...... all my friends and family....... all my co-workers.

The entire world...well my world anyway knew when I was running around showing my u/s pictures at 10 weeks. A week later my baby was gone. I was a week away from the second trimester. At the 10w apt my doctor told me I had about a 1% chance of miscarrying. I guess I have bad luck

Next time...God willing if there is a next time... I will tell people I see everyday right away again, but not those people you only run into once every couple of months. I am a "talker" though. I need to talk about things to feel like I can heal.

[greenchild]

DH doesn't want to tell ANYONE until we see a heartbeat at the very least. I think I would tell my mom right away, and I'm sure DH will break down and tell his best friend. He says he won't tell his parents right away either, which I don't get. Whatever!

[3isnotacrowd]

We aren't going to tell until we are about 4 months. One of the hardest things was telling friends, family and co-workers about the mc. I may tell my bestfriend but that's it.

My family lives 12 hours away and I don't see dh's family that often.

I told with my other pregnancies right away but now my innocence is gone..........