[proudmommato4]

Well I have to go to a baby shower on Sat. It is for my cousin. She is due 2 weeks before I was. I had to go shopping for her gift today, and all I kept thinking about was my precious angel. If I can't shop for a gift for this shower with out crying, how am I going to make it though the shower? I had really hoped to be pregnant by now. Well thakns for letting me vent a little. My DH doesn't understand.

[greenchild]

That is hard!
I was in the middle of my 1st loss when my cousin had her baby shower. No one thought I'd show up (they all knew what was going on) but that one I just felt I couldn't miss as she had severe infertility issues and TTC for years and this shower was for her newly adopted baby. What really helped, though, was that I let someone else buy the gift and I just paid them back.
Don't feel you have to go if you don't want to. That is a decision only you can make. You can always "call in sick" the morning of if you decide to stay home.

[reddick2084]

I was in the same situation as you before. I decided not to go because I started having emotional issues. I started acting resentful of other pregnant people. (I know that was bad) But I did send a gift through someone else. Yeah its very hard to deal with situations like that after loss. Take it easy and seriously think about are you going to be comfortable there.

[proudmommato4]

Thank you. I kind of feel like I have to go. My aunt is VERY good to both of my kids, so I kind of feel like I am going for her. I just told my mom I don't know if I am going to be able to stay for the whole time. I will see how I feel when I get there. Please pray that I don't start crying as soon as I get there. This would have been so much easier if I was pregnant again. Thanks for all of your support ladys, when ever I try to talk to DH about this he just says it's been 5 months since your loss when are you going to get over it! This was my fourth loss and I have never "gotten over" any of them. I have just learned how to move forward. I will never forget all of my precious angels!

I am so sorry hun. I had to go to a baby shower just 2 mos after I lost my first one. It was horrible, I was miserable through out the whole thing and getting a gift was hard on me as well.

[*Bobbie*]

I totally understand. I got an invitation to one a month after my m/c from someone in Dave's family that I have never even met....UGH I think they were just looking for gifts. I told him to RSVP for me.


I would say go and just leave if it hurts too much to be there. If you are really dreading it, call your aunt and just explain that for your emotional health you need to decline the invitation. Hon... you need to do what's best for you.