[lillermom99]

So in reading through these boards I know that the majority of doctor's don't have a uniform response to how quickly one can TTC after a m/c. I was really hoping that she would say one healthy cycle but she said to wait AT LEAST three!

I just felt so let down when she said that. I don't want to wait three. Maybe I am being irresponsible but I really only want to wait one!

Grrrrrrr....I also worry that she will be angry with me if I do get pregnant again so soon after a m/c. Can anyone relate??

[Erin's First]

I feel your pain. I had a miscarriage in July and have had 1 AF since then. My doctor said wait 3 months. I can understand that they just want to make sure your body is ready etc. but it's frustrating having to wait. My doctor said he had a patient that got pregnant after 6 weeks and he was a little disappointed and does not recommend it. We are thinking of ttc again in September after my next AF.

[afwife85]

Wow. My OB told me that we could start trying again right away. I asked her if it's ok to try even before my first cycle came and she said yes. You don't always ovulate then, but some women do. My mother told me she got pregnant with my brother a few weeks after her m/s and she did fine. I understand the frustration though! That's too long to wait!!! Good luck!!!!

[Sabina]

It all depends on your own body. I am trying again after only once cycle because my chart looked okay and I feel ready. When I lost my first I waited a long time because my body went through hell and it took a long time to feel ready. I say see how you feel, don't rush into it but if you feel ready and your body feels okay then go ahead.

[lillermom99]

Oh it is so nice to see how so many people can relate! I am the only one of my friends TTC so no one else "gets it!"

I was 5-6 weeks pregnant at the time of M/C and honestly feel ready now but wont try again until at least one healthy cycle.

I really believe that God has a plan for me and if that entails being pregnant before 3 cycles than so be it!

Thanks for the encouragement and words of wisdom ladies. Your solid advice and hugs have given me so much over these last couple of really hard days.

to everyone!

[~Annissa~]

My Dr told me the same thing. When he saw how disappointed I looked he said "well....that's what I tell everyone based on a study done a loooong time ago that getting pregnant within 3 cycles of a m/c gives you a *slightly* elevated risk of another m/c" I said so I don't *have* to wait? He said he would recommend I did since I am young (27 on the 25th!), but wouldn't be upset if I didn't. My RE told me she likes to see at least one healthy cycle! So I started Clomid yesterday!
I figure if God wants to give me a baby before 3 months time, who am I to tell him no?

I hope that whatever you decide, you end up with a very healthy, very sticky bean!

[matl]

I had my very first mc in June. Went to RE because I am 41 and he gave me 6 mos to conceive. If I don't conceive within that timeframe, we will start looking for other options. I also thought that he would get upset if I started too early, but he is all for it.

Had my first normal period 21 days after my mc and now I am working on the 2nd month of TTC.

Wishing you the very best once you TTC.

[karag]

my ob originally told me to wait two. Then she said one to two.
Well we didn't use protection last week and I just m/c on July 20th. I confessed to her and she said it's okay.
She just likes her patients to heal but if we were feeling up to it she was glad we had that intimacy. It's important after a m/c.

So then I said once I finally start my first period which would start the first cycle. could we try and she smiled and said yes.

So talk to your doctor again. I was honest with mine and she was very cool about it.
( i was terrified to tell her!)


AND,

I want to let you know we are here for you... I have breast cancer and that didn't even compare to the pain I felt while going through
my m/c. The emptiness I felt.. so I want you to know we are all here.. I found comfort in this board. I hope you do too.

Kara

[Mum2three]

some doctors just look out for u more then others. i know that mine told me the same thing. wait 3 months, or until i felt i was ready. dont rush into anything...thats what he said to me. we just recently just started ttc again. and we lost out son feb,15, 2007..do what u fell is best for u and ur body...good luck!

I understand your frustrations too - I miscarried on July 6th and just had my first AF on Aug 4th. My husband and I aren't doing anything to prevent conception - we believe if its meant to be its meant to be. Your body will know when its ready to conceive again. My doctor said to wait 3 months too - but personally its your own decision in my opinion. Good luck!