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August 17th, 2007, 03:53 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Location: Tarpon Springs, FL
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Hello ladies,
I am fairly new to this site and very new to this particular message board. I just had an U/S today and there was no longer a heartbeat. I'm in a bit of shock because I was so close to being beyond the long 12 weeks....this was not the U/s I had expected it to be. I go into the hospital for a D & C tomorrow morning.
We will keep trying as soon as I get the green light from my doctor, I have complete faith that we will be successful as all of you will be too!
Thanks for hearing me, I just needed to type because I basically can't speak right now...
Melissa
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August 17th, 2007, 04:00 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Michigan
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 sorry for your loss.
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August 17th, 2007, 04:19 PM
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Veteran
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I know your heart is breaking right now. I'm so, so sorry. We are here for you. (((BIG HUG)))
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August 17th, 2007, 04:26 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Aug 2007
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Oh sweetie I am so sorry. I think you will find that this board is nothing but supportive and positive. Come here often for support, encouragement, and a shoulder to cry on. You will be in my thoughts and prayers as tomorrow will be challenging for you both physically and emotionally.
Lots and lots of
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August 17th, 2007, 04:30 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I hate reading these kinds of posts...I am so sorry. It's so heartbreaking and I can't even imagine being that far along. I don't know if I'd say I was lucky because all three of my miscarriages were before seven weeks but I can't even think about being so close to the "safe" point (13 weeks). You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Jen
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August 17th, 2007, 04:55 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Thank you so much! Everyone on these boards are so nice, understanding, funny,....things that we all want in "friends".
Tomorrow will be tough but we will get through it.
I'm spend an inordinate amount of time online so I will be here often!
Thank you again for all your kind words.
Here's to not giving up!!!!
Melissa
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August 17th, 2007, 05:17 PM
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My heart breaks for you. I am so sorry.
All my prayers for you tomorrow.
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August 17th, 2007, 07:16 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Illinois ( originally From New Jersey:)
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Melissa, I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how heartbreaking it is...
I truly hope you heal quickly, physically & emotionally.
you have found a great source of support here.
take care,
Dee
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August 17th, 2007, 07:17 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2007
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Melissa, I am so sorry you are going through this.
I was 11 weeks when I went in for my check up on July 20th and the same thing happened. We had just had a sono 2 weeks before and saw it moving and the heart beating away at 170.
I was devistated because I too thought I was out of the danger zone.
I will be thinking of you.. If you need anything please just pm me.
Kara
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August 17th, 2007, 07:31 PM
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Oh sweetie I am so sorry 
I know your pain too well 
I had an u/s at 10 weeks that showed a perfect baby and then at 11 weeks my baby was no longer alive. My body finally gave up and m/c at 14 weeks. Well...it tried to m/c but I ended up with a D&C anyways.
If you need anything at all just ask. I hope the procedure goes smoothly and you heal quickly. If you feel like screaming, crying, or just venting...we are all here for you.
Take care of yourself....
Lots of to you.
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On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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August 17th, 2007, 08:19 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
We are all here to hear u out, to listen and help out the best we can, even if thats a shoulder to cry on! Thinking about u and ur family in this time. Prayer for you 
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August 17th, 2007, 09:50 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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August 18th, 2007, 05:19 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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August 18th, 2007, 06:19 AM
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I am SO sorry for your loss!! Your in my thoughts and prayers!!!
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August 18th, 2007, 12:04 PM
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My heart just hurts hearing this. I am so sorry... that must be indescribably hard, to be nearly into the 2nd trimester and then have the rug ripped out... I hope you know we are all thinking about you and are here if you need to talk. Good luck tomorrow, I hope everything goes smoothly. Take care of yourself.
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August 18th, 2007, 04:41 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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We went to the hospital at 7AM. The staff was wonderful, from the nurses to the anestheoligist (Mis spelled) to my doctor. It went as best as we could hope for. I was home by 11AM. I finally took one of my prescribed pain pill around 3PM, not for any real physical pain, but for overall hopes of drifting to sleep or feeling like...I don't really know. Something other than how I have felt yesterday and today.
I don't know how to explain it, but something sort of snapped a couple of hours ago after the pain reliever faded and I felt a strange relief. I haven't cried in a few hours, actually smiling, talking to my husband and daughter, eating, and ready to face tomorrow.
Somewhere in me I realized that I am alive, healthy, blessed. My husband is a fantastic man and father, our daughter is a bright, caring 10 year old. We have a home, a business, extended family. While I feel the loss, I am overwhelmed with the good life I have and that is where I need to concentrate. We conceived so quickly and I have hope we can again.
While I deserve to feel the grief of our loss, I am determined to be more focused on all the good we have in so many ways.
Sorry for my rant, but I am just feeling so at peace, so quickly. Surely I will have more moments of grief, but perhaps not. Right now I just know I have surprised myself. Perhaps this is my own personal way to accept what happened and I'm ok with that. I love my life, sometimes bad things happen, but I love it none the less.
I will sleep better tonight. And I won't need any pain meds. I can't speak for Sunday night, that may change.....
Thank you to all of you who have sent hugs and well wishes, a very special group of people here. I'm so glad I found it.
Goodnight,
Melissa
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August 18th, 2007, 04:53 PM
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I think you have a beautiful attitude. But don't be afraid to grieve the loss of your baby. You've been through a lot and need time to heal.
Take care of you and God bless.
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August 19th, 2007, 06:55 AM
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((hugs)) to ya Melissa!! My heart goes out to you hon..I am so sorry you are going through this
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