[sarahp]

I just lost my baby boy on Tuesday at 34 1/2 weeks after delivering by c section and my husband and I are so ready to be parents. I know we have to recover emotionally and physically before trying again, but I feel having an approximate timeline when I should be physically ready will help in the healing process.

I don't see my OB for another 5 weeks, and will ask then, but was wondering about what other people have done. Would anyone mind sharing their story?

[dee68]

Sarah,

first I want to send my thoughts & prayers to your and your family...

I lost my angel last October, and have just started to ttc again...only because I didn't think I was ready emotionally. the fear of it happening again was just weighing to heavy on my mind. Now, I just keep telling myself, if it is meant for me to have a child, it will happen....I really can't control that....and can't let my fears keep me from at least trying again to make my dream finally come true....so I am cautiously awaiting that bfp....but of course I'll still worry..as I am sure anyone would.

I truly hope the best for you

take care,

Dee

[Sabina]

Sarah. When I lost my baby at nine weeks I waited three cycles b/c that was how long it took my body to recover. When I lost my baby recently at six weeks I waited one cycle and now I am TTC this cycle. Feel free to check out my chart if you need more details. I chart everything. I hope you heal fast so you can start TTC!

[*Bobbie*]

I started right away, but my loss was earlier so my body didn't need as much time to recover. I would wait and ask your doctor.

Again... I am so sorry for your loss

[Mum2three]

I'm sorry to hear about ur loss. I would talk to ur dr first. i know after my stillbirths i was told to take 3 months off. and thats what i did. but i also made sure that i was emotionally stable as well. i wanted to be happy during the pregnancy not sad. ... Again im so sorry to hear about ur loss..

[sarahp]

On Thursday, my cardiologist actually brought up the possibility of having my aorta repaired before TTC again - he said he'd feel much more comfortable with us going through another pregnancy if my heart was fixed. Unfortunately this means open heart surgery.

So I also have to decide if I want to go through the trauma of that before I REALLY need to (if my aneurysm never grows any more I'd never need the surgery, but pregnancy can make it grow, and I may face emergency open heart surgery and emergency c section if it DOES grow).

I'm torn between wanting to get it done before it's urgent, and before we have a child in case something goes wrong (they weren't too keen before on having the surgery since it wasn't yet desperately needed), and also because recovery would be harder with a child, and not getting it done since it's bloody scary surgery, and a long recovery when the aneurysm may never change and never actually become necessary, but risking the aneurysm growing and splitting which could mean me dying (my dad and aunt died at 28 and 24 from the same thing).

It's just all too much to be thinking about

[Sabina]

Wow you have some big decisions to make. I don't know what I would do. Whatever you decide please let us know.