[LDBalog]

Hi everyone...i,m new here & was hoping that someone may be able to help. Just a little background on me......I have 2 beautiful children & DH & I thought we were done when we unexpectedly (pleasant surprise!) got pregnant with our 3rd. Everything was moving right along until 19weeks when I found out that I had a healthy baby but a very bad placenta that wouldn't sustain the pregnancy. At 20 weeks our daughter's heart stopeed beating and I delivered my beautiful Adelena Grace on July 2nd. I had a D&C that same day and continued to bleed for almost 2 weeks. My DH & I are now very anxious to start trying again. I finally had my next regular AF on August 16. Around the time I O'd I had some brown spotting with a little bit of light blood, especially when DH & I BD'd. I was supposed to start yesterday and again I have only brown spotting that is very light & in most cases non-existent. I don't believe I'm pregnant since all of the HPT's came back BFN : ( I was just wondering if anyone has had this same problem after a stillbirth or D&C. I've always been like clockwork and this is all very new and frustrating!! Thanks for any advice : ) I'm very excited to have found this board and look forward to getting to know everyone : )

Lisa

[tparum]

sry im not to much help but wanted to say im so sry for ur loss.

[dee68]

Hi Lisa,

I am very sorry for your loss
glad you found us here....the women here are so supportive & our hosts are awesome!
I do not know much about how your body reacts after birth, or d & c....but I would imagine, it would take your body a few cycles to get to normal. After my loss @ 11.5 wks. it was about 3 months before I was "normal" again...and did have some spotting off and on. I think it's just our bodies way of healing & actually, not trying to be graphic, but cleaning itself out.
Hopefully some of the ladies here can even give you more info.

Take care & welcome to the board!

Dee

p.s. Join us if you can Monday Nights for our live chat

[Sabina]

Hi there and welcome. I am sorry for your loss. It may take some time for your cycles to go back to normal so you will need to be patient. GL trying again.

[*Bobbie*]

Lisa,

First I would like to say welcome to the TTC after loss Board. I am glad you found us.

That said.... awwww hon I am sooo sorry you lost your baby girl

It's a pain no one should ever have to know

About periods after loss.... my loss was at 14 weeks and it took two month before I felt like mybody was back to normal.

[LDBalog]

Thanks for everyone's replies, hugs, and support......hopefully it is my body just getting adjusted back to normal. I'm sorry for everyone's losses........I know this has definitely been one of the hardest times in my life, as I know you can all relate. My best friend is due the same time I would have been and at least 6 more girl's I know are starting to have their babies and it brings back the heartache all over again, thinking that should've been me

My DH & I are just so anxious to try again and were really hoping that this would be the month I think if nothing progresses by Monday, I may give my dr. a call.

Again, thanks for all of the help!!

[Sabina]

Let us know what happens. You will be in my T&Ps.

[HangingInThere]

Some how I missed this post originally but wanted to say welcome, and I am so sorry for your loss. I too have two beautiful children, and fell pg with an unexpected third that I lost a 16 1/2 wks. However mine was a missed m/c where the baby died at around 14 wks. I had a D&C on Aug 17th and I'm still waiting on AF or a BFP we will have to see!! Just wanted you to know that I too bled/spotted for about 2wks and then had some spotting off and on since then. I too think it just takes a while for things to return to what they were. After each of my children being born I have had different cycle patterns and problems that eventually returned to normal or adjusted themselves to a new norm. I think its the same with a loss, it just takes time.
I do hope that it is a good sign for you though and that you get you BFP!! That's what I'm hoping for too!

**Have to add that I continue to find myself amazed at the number of women I meet here that I feel such a deep connection with. I continue to find those with similar situations to mine and I am just blown away. Lisa, I am glad to see that I'm not the only one that after an unexpected pg and loss has decided to move forward and TTC, especially after thinking that we were done having kids. At times I wonder if I'm trying again too soon, but you have just given me hope that I am not.**

Keep us informed with what you find out from your doctor and I wish you the best of luck in TTC.

[LDBalog]

Some how I missed this post originally but wanted to say welcome, and I am so sorry for your loss. I too have two beautiful children, and fell pg with an unexpected third that I lost a 16 1/2 wks. However mine was a missed m/c where the baby died at around 14 wks. I had a D&C on Aug 17th and I'm still waiting on AF or a BFP we will have to see!! Just wanted you to know that I too bled/spotted for about 2wks and then had some spotting off and on since then. I too think it just takes a while for things to return to what they were. After each of my children being born I have had different cycle patterns and problems that eventually returned to normal or adjusted themselves to a new norm. I think its the same with a loss, it just takes time.
I do hope that it is a good sign for you though and that you get you BFP!! That's what I'm hoping for too!

**Have to add that I continue to find myself amazed at the number of women I meet here that I feel such a deep connection with. I continue to find those with similar situations to mine and I am just blown away. Lisa, I am glad to see that I'm not the only one that after an unexpected pg and loss has decided to move forward and TTC, especially after thinking that we were done having kids. At times I wonder if I'm trying again too soon, but you have just given me hope that I am not.**

Keep us informed with what you find out from your doctor and I wish you the best of luck in TTC.[/b]

Hi Courtney,

Thanks so much for your response. I'm so sorry about your loss as well. It is nice, however, to be able to discuss these kind of things with other women who have been through this experience. I have found that it has definitely made me a stronger person! As far as AF goes.......she showed her ugly face this morning and with a vengeance : ( Although I am relieved to see that I'm starting to get back to my normal self. As far as ttc...I felt I was jumping the gun to soon also. So many people keep saying that I need time to grieve. My DH and I feel that we will miss and grieve our daughter for a lifetime and no amount of time will change that. This unexpected pregnancy showed us how much we really wanted that 3rd child, and to be so close and have something so devestating like this happen brought us even closer together. I feel such a stronger and amazing bond with DH and children than ever before. I feel that I appreciate "life" alot more and deeper. I'm not quite sure if that all makes any sense, but that's how I'm feeling.

Maybe this will be our month that God will give us that miracle one more time!! I know I'll be praying (for the both of us!)

Lisa

[Poncho06]

I jsut want to say ... I had a D&C on Aug. 29th at 6.5 weeks along.... I'm not sure of how different thing will be for you but when I asked my Dr. he said it would take a month for my cycles to become regular again. He also reccomended to wait 2 cycles before TTC again.... every ones Dr. has different reccomendations for that one though.... I don't lost very often on this bored because I'm just kind of hanging out until I can TTC again but from what I've seen so far the women on here are great... very supportive