[~TreeGrl~]

Hi, I am Willow and I had my first D&C yesterday. I made it to 10 1/2 weeks with this baby, and then at the first ultrasound we didn't find a heartbeat. As you know we are devastated. This was a much anticipated pregnancy because we have been trying since last September when I had an ectopic pregnancy. I was lucky to survive that experience and keep my tubes intact, but it has taken us so long to get pregnant again.

I have had a natural miscarriage in 2005 at 6 weeks, and then the next month I got pregnant with my dear son who is now almost 2. This pregnancy I thought was home free since we made it almost to the end of the first trimester...so sad about this loss.

Anyway...based on my past miscarriage and the fact that I conceived on the very next cycle, I am wondering about the 3 month wait...It seemed the Dr. said we needed to wait 3 months so they could date the next pregnancy...Why does that matter?

Is this different because I had the D&C? Although with my first miscarriage, the Dr. said to wait too, and I just didn't listen...

Is there anyone here who is not heeding this advice?

Anyway, good luck to all of you ladies. We are anxious to start trying again; I found out my pregnancy was over on my 35 birthday, and as you know that is the magic number for problems...

[greenchild]

Welcome to the board and I am so sorry for your losses! I've had 2 ectopics myself and am trying to get IVF going right now.
Some drs will tell you to wait and some won't, I think they want to make sure your body heals first and also to make sure you have some time to heal emotionally. I really think it mainly boils down to when you are ready. Good luck!

[HangingInThere]

My dr told me 3 months as well, but she mentioned it after I told her that I didn't want BC because we hadn't decided wether to try again or not. Truth be know I was ready for another two weeks after my D&C and started charting then. I just had my D&C on August 17th and could be pg now. I am waiting til Sat to make sure AF stays away and then I'll be testing. I think it all depends on you. There may be some risk in miscarrying again by trying to soon but I don't think the risk is any higher than it would be waiting 3 months. I'm not sure, but at this point I really felt I would follow my own emotions.

By the way, welcome and I am so sorry for your loss!

[dee68]

I am really sorry for your loss

from what I have read and been told, since there is often bleeding and or spotting after a loss, that may or may not be AF, it is better to wait until you are sure you have started a new cycle...and it's better to wait until your body is healed and ready to be pregnant again. But I can't say 100%.....just adding what I have been told...I know all about those "magic" numbers for problems...
Last year I found out on my 38th b-day that I had lost my baby .

I am happy you found us here....its a great place !
take care!
Dee

[aries2276]

Sorry for your loss

I recently had an ectopic pregnency and lost another to chemical pg.I did not have a D&C but my obg asked me to wait for 3 mos.My RE said 2 mos is enough.I guess it depends on the doc.

[Sabina]

You will know when your body is ready. I didn't wait three months and I probaby never will. I chart and I know when my body is ready. I waited one full cycle. Then I knew my body was ready.

[Frangipani]

Willow,

I am so so sorry for your loss. I hope you are doing ok; I know how hard it can be. As for the waiting, I agree with what the others said-just wait until you feel like you are physically & emotionally ready to try again. Good luck with everything & we're here if you need to just vent.

[*Bobbie*]

Willow,

I am sorry for the loss of your baby.

I lost my little one at 14 weeks and my doctor said to wait one cycle. If you don't want to wait three, I would call yours back and just ask what the risk would be in TTC sooner than the three months. They may give you to go ahead to try sooner. I think sometimes they say three months so emotionally we are ready to be pregnant again.

I hope you get a BFP again soon and have a healthy bean. Can't wait to get to know you better.....

but be prepared we are a *little* silly here



Bobbie