[..Jessica..]

And I never thought I'd be happier!

I know I love my sister, but in all honesty, I'm truly annoyed by her! I mentioned in chat last night that my sister told my mom I got AF already for October - which isn't true. She had her m/c on Oct. 5th, and felt the need to "cover" it up by lying to my mother, telling her, that I had my period. She's so childish!

Anyway, two nights ago she told me that her and her fiance are looking for apartments and could be out as early as March! They were originally going to be getting a place together for September 2008. So, I just remembered and got all excited and started looking at nursery themes! LOL!

Since her room would be empty, I could easily turn it into a nursery for a baby! I've got it down to three different themes!

Here they are:

Neutral set - 3 piece set for $49.99



Girl set - 4 piece set for $79.99



Boy set - 4 piece set for $69.99



I'm crazy huh??? LOL!

[*Judy*]

Pretty and I am happy for you!

[ShannonMVT]

Sounds great!

I like the 1st set for a boy and the 2nd for a girl.

[dee68]

I hope everything works out for everyone


I like all of the sets!

[*Bobbie*]

Oh I love the girl one

I am glad to hear things may calm down over there for you

[..Jessica..]

I am glad to hear things may calm down over there for you [/b]

NO KIDDING!

Jessica, I know I don't really know you but based on the information you have posted here, I think you should wait to ttc. I feel horrible that you lost your baby, I do know what that feels like and I'm completely supportive of you in that. However, you are not in a good situation to bring a baby into this world. I know you are engaged but that's not final and if you were pregnant, the father wouldn't even come to visit at your house because of your mom.

Perhaps you should work on getting things patched with your mom and boyfriend. If you guys can't afford a place of your own, then how do you expect to take care of a baby? You need to get things done with your life, and your boyfriends before you should even consider having a baby.

I'm sorry for coming down on you and I know I did before but you have to think of the baby and not yourselves. It upsets me that some will go to any length to get pregnant and not think of what life is ahead for you and your baby. I don't know how old you are, but you sound like an older teenager. I was 22 and a single parent, it's not easy and my baby grew up without his dad. It's not fair to him.

I know this forum is for support, but I can't say sorry for your bfn or yeah for your bfp. What I can do is offer support for your loss and try to offer advice on what you post.

I don't want to sound mean and hope you don't take it the wrong way, if you were my daughter, you would hear the same thing from me and that means that this advice is in a loving tone.

Best wishes, hun.

[dee68]

I know this forum is for support, but I can't say sorry for your bfn or yeah for your bfp. What I can do is offer support for your loss and try to offer advice on what you post.[/b]

If you read Jessica's info, she is not a teenager, and is back on bcp.....I am really,really sorry if I am out of line here, but I do think you have been a little too judgemental of her in this post & the first one a few weeks back. This board is a support forum for those ttc ...not to be singled out and judged, your intentions may be good ones,but are still coming across as judgemental...but that's jmo.

Dee, I completely see where you are coming from. I didn't come out and say she was an older teenager, but sounded like one. I truly am not being judgemental, just trying to look at the situation from the outside. Thing is, there is a difference between support and just agreeing with everything. I just feel strongly about situations where the 2 aren't living together, can't afford to live together, and he refuses to come to her house. So I just suggested that she try to patch things up between her boyfriend and her mom. I know men have their moments and wasn't really supportive when she first posted a few weeks ago, but left that out because all men have pretty much been there and will always have issues. My husband had his. I can't sit here and completely agree with what is being done and lie about my feelings. My intentions were not to single her out.

I would just like to see things they way they should be for her, like living with her fiance (actually forgot about that), being able to afford to live together and the help fix the family situation. This is not an ideal way to plan a child. You need to be able to support yourself as well as a baby. Not being pregnant is a time to fix these things and then prepare.

Money isn't everything, but you need enought to live and support a baby. My hubby and I aren't really financially stable and I don't feel that you have to be to have a baby. If 2 people are working then there shouldn't be a problem. My husband works a crap job for crap pay, but we pay our bills, have a house, and know that we will have food on the table every night. We don't have to worry about having enough money to buy diapers.

My point is, you need to take care of yourself financially before you plan a baby. I really do hope her dreams come true, but certain things need to be taken care of first and I would be lying to her if I didn't say so.

Dee, your comments weren't out of line, just read my reply with a soft voice. It's hard to hear words but I am speaking in a soft voice. Trust me, I'm crying out to help. I know it's not wanted, but all I can do is try. And please don't think I'm being judgemental, I'm not, that's not my job. I did see at the last min that she is back on bc. I really do pray that every thing goes well and again, more than anything, her dreams come true.

God bless ladies

PS, Dee, I see you are a Gordon Ramsey fan. At least you're over there and all the swearing is beeped out. Over here, nothing is beeped out. I was laughing the other night because I thought if we were back in the states, there wouldn't be much talking but a show full of beeping.

[dee68]

I do understand what you are saying, really I do.....
when I got pg last yr....I had just moved to Illinois, I had no insurance,Mick was in between jobs, no discussion of marriage......but there I was, PG and not financially stable...and then the m/c followed shortly afterwards.
Had someone told me to wait until we were more stable, I would have been upset with them also.
Of course we all want everything to be perfect, but sometimes life just does not work out that way for us.
As far as marriage, right now, I could really care less if I get married or not,I know my relationship is solid,(there are plenty of "perfect couples" that get divorced...or have children and end up abusing them....) and that's what matters, what I know about myself,to be a fact. It is really easy to come to conclusions by reading posts on a message board.
Like I said, I do understand the point you were trying to make......and like I said, Jess had posted about going back on bcp....so I think the telling her to wait, is kind of a non issue now. Also, I think many of us look at these boards as a "comfort zone" .......and to say " I can't say sorry for a bfn or yeah for a bfp"....isn't what someone may be looking forward to......know what I mean ?
Maybe I shouldn't have even stuck my nose in here.....I think I'll leave it alone now
Take Care,
Dee

[Madison.N.Hailey'sMom]

I love your nursery idea's. I cant wait to start doing our nursery. But I am making myself not look at baby stuff till I find out I'm pg. It's easyer on me. Oh and congrates on your sister moving out.

Dee, you're fine, you didn't but in. You make some great points. I'm an overprotective mom and it comes out a lot with others as well. I don't think she has to be married to have a baby. My words were out of geniune care. You're right though, it is a moot point seeing she is on bc.

[..Jessica..]

AlexandEthanaelsmommy - I didn't even read all of your ignorant replies, but I will say this. THERE IS NO PROBLEM BETWEEN MY MOTHER AND MY FIANCE. If YOU have such a strong opinion about MY life, try living it. I don't need your opinions on anything!!!

I could care less what YOU have had to go through! I'm sick and tired of reading what YOUR opinion is on my life! Do me a favour and keep your ignorant replies and rude thoughts OUT of my posts!

Your words aren't out of "genuine care" your words are coming from being a judgemental person with nothing better to do!

[Danica]

Jessica, I am glad you stood up for yourself. My jaw dropped reading this post. I would also feel attacked if that was said to me. I think they were hurtful words, uneccessary and totally off topic.

So, back to the original topic... I know what you mean. My sister and bil moved into our house in April of 06 (when my son was born). Now I love having my sister here and they pay rent and have their own space (we renovated the walk out basement so it has a kitchen, bath, living room, and one bedroom and its own entrance) so it is not like we are in each others space but I think having two "alpha" males in the house is causing some tension. My sister and I get along great and help each other out so I will be sad to see her go but in a way I am hoping that her husband gets accepted into med school in az so that they move soon. So YAY to sis moving

Btw: I love the boys set!

[tparum]

let me say something i will not i repeat not put up with others bassically bashing members on this forum so if ur gonna post do not bash others.