[tparum]

O jessica first off let me tell u hun im so sry u had to put up with someone sitting there doing that to u and im proud that u stuck up for ur self they should respect you and ur feelings. and i know everyone on this forum will agree with me here on this and so what thats just one person if u was to get pg we would all root for u and we know ur on bcp and thats prob. the best decision for u at this time but please know the girls of ttcal forum is behind you 100 %.

[..Jessica..]

Tosha,

Thank you so much for this! I know I'm back on BCP, but I can't help but WANT to be pregnant! And besides, I've had a loss and even if I'm not TTC actively right now, I feel as though I belong here! I feel better now than I did at the time of writing that reply, I had to edit it like 10 times before I thought it was appropriate enough for the forum.

I truly do appreciate all of the POSITIVE support I've received on this forum!

[greenchild]

Just wanted to add my love and support!!!

[tparum]

of course u belong here and were glad to have u here.

[*Judy*]

Jessica,
I just no read "the" post and wanted to say that I am in full support of you, whatever the future holds for you. I feel like you are an important member of our board and feel regardless of BCP or not you belong here. It should be a soft place for you to land all the time no matter what. I am sorry about what happened, but want you to know how much you are cared about here. Even though I am a newer member to this board I value you and what you have to say. Thanks for being a sounding board and a person that we can come to and know we have your support! Always remember we are here for you as well.

[MinDB]

yeah, Jessica--you rock! don't let anyone bring you down!

[*Bobbie*]

Jess.... I just wanted to say you belong here with us no matter if you are TTC right now or 2 years from now. Don't ever question that

As far as heated topics go..... this board is not meant to be the debate board. JM actually has a board for that and it has hosts who will not allow personal *attacks* for lack of a better word. http://www.justmommies.com/boards/in...p?showforum=29 There is the link to the board. It is actually very eye opening somtimes to try to see the point of view from others. It is a fun board to lurk and post on.

This board is meant to be a board for fun, laughs, hand-holding and a place where there is always a shoulder available to cry on. If any post ever makes a member of this board feel attacked... we will request to have it closed.

[tparum]

ty bobbie well put

[dee68]

Bobbie,

I agree....well put !!

I'd like to ad that I never said Jessica didn't belong here. You say you come on here for opinions and advice, that's what I gave, I wasn't being rude or mean. If you re-read my post, you will see I was saying it with a caring voice. Thing is you can't hear words and that's why I wrote it at the end of my letter.

I didn't say one mean word about her, you can re-check if you like. I wasn't posting to bring her down but to offer a different opinion. I just felt the need to offer. It's up to the individual if you want to take it. I wasnt pushing anything on her, but offering. When you get replies that you don't want to hear or read then you tend to take things the wrong way.

I do care, I was so hoping that her sister wasn't losing her baby. I saw where Jessica wrote about her going to the doctor and after reading it I thought there was still hope and said a prayer.

What upsets me the most is if I got something wrong, why not reply to say so instead of bashing me? Then you all jump in and defend her. There was nothing to defend. If she had found out she was pregnant she would have had my support, and if so I would have still offered advice about some things. Doesn't mean you have to do what I write. I'm surprised at what this has done and hurt. I could understand if I was being rude and really attacking and said mean things, but it wasn't.

What you are all saying is that this site is supportive and caring until you give an opinion that someone doesn't agree with. There are many things I may not agree on here or that may have been said to me in the past, but I would never think about yelling and attacking that person. Maybe I was wrong to post my opinion or advice, but you all were just as wrong for bashing me for what you were all mad about. I didn't expect you to take sides, but to cheer someone on for bashing another is upsetting.

[dee68]

I think the main problem is that calling someone selfish for wanting a baby and , reactions to a bfn and/or a bfp may have rubbed some the wrong way.
I think many would react in a simliar way if it were done to them. No one here bashes anyone, if a post upsets someone that it is directed to, then they have the right to defend their feelngs and actions, just as you have done.
It is a shame that this has become an ongoing issue & had hoped to see it end.

There is really no reason for you to leave JM over a disagreement of opinions.
so I would suggest...let's stop rehashing this issue... call a truce & start over....
again, jmo

[Mum2three]

No one should pass judgment onto others. usually that just means that your not happy with yourself and you have to put others down to boost yourself up. Thats not right. What each person does with their lives thats their decision. not anyone else. Jessica, do WHAT you feel is best. not what others want from you! God created your brain for you to make your mind up. use it how you see fit! i will back anyone up...

Jessica, i believe that when the time is right you will have a baby. Mabey the stress from living at home is not helping you conceive. I have been waiting to see your BFP. and i cant wait till you get it! Your a good person, and thats all that counts. We ladies are here for everyone, not just for one person. Keep your head high and think about yourself first.

Good luck Hun!

[JennLynn_]

I don't really know any of you that well, but I just wanted to make two points:

1. - there is NEVER a "right" time to have a baby. If everyone waited for the perfect time to have a baby, we'd probably be in fear of extinction!! lol

2. - it is VERY hard to hear someone's tone of voice through a posting on a message board, so a) be careful in what you post; and B ) take into consideration when reading someone's post that you cannot see them nor hear them when they speak (post), so often what is posted may not always seem how it sounded.

JMO. (I don't know the back story, but I just wanted to say that. )

MWUAH!!! to you all!!!

[EmilyRenee]

I just want to say that there is a time and a place for everything and that there is a time to speak and a time to be silent. Its not what you say sometimes its how or when you say it.
Hope everthing works out for you jess.

[..Jessica..]

All I'm going to say is this, what you said did offend and hurt me. And I clearly got over it, I don't understand your reasons for wanting to leave JM. This is a public forum, and you can say whatever you want. Yes you reply DID rub me the wrong way and I admit I said rude things to you in return & now I do feel bad. But, wouldn't you feel hurt as well? Reading that someone is selfish for wanting a baby? Whether it be financial reasons or otherwise.

I'm sorry to see you go! And I do sincerly apologize for saying what I said.