I think it's best that I leave this forum. I am in tears writing this. I didn't write anything rude and I wasn't being judgemental. I was just offering advice. That is what this site is, yeah? I've been a single parent and know the struggles and hate the idea of someone else going through it. I even said that in my post.

Jessica, you posted here before that your boyfriend wouldn't come to your house if you had a baby because of your mom, that's why I wrote about trying to patch things up. No, I don't know your life and I admitted to that before I even wrote my reply.

I did offer my care and support about your possible pregnancy and your loss. I just didn't sugarcoat some of it. I didn't attack you and even explained to Dee that my words were in a soft tone, like a moms and that I'm an overprotective mom and that comes out alot with others.

You all think I attacked Jessica, but what are doing in return? I never thought in a million years that this would happen. I've been a member for over a year when I lost my baby at nearly 12 weeks. Yeah, I know you don't care. In that time, I have never been accused of attacking someone and I've always been truthful and I don't sugarcoat my replies.

We stopped ttc because we aren't having any luck so I quit posting for a while. I came here because the site is heavily moderated. I've been on another forum where all they do is attack people and swear and are just down right ignorant. There are no moderators.

I'm sorry, my words weren't meant to be hurtful. But again, you say I attacked Jessica, but look what you all did to me. Don't worry, I won't be back and I'll have a look at getting my user id deleted.

When I said I cared, I meant it. Sad thing is you said you don't care anything about me and what I went through. That hurts and digs deep and just makes me think of the pain and devastation I went through losing my baby after seeing a healthy heartbeat and then having him scaped from my body. That was over a year ago. I never thought I would let such hurtful words make me cry.

Good bye, I really do pray that all you ladies have your hopes and dreams come true. I'll probably still peek in to see how you all do, but I'll still get my user id deleted so I can't post. Tparum, I've been with you since the beginning and I was so hoping you were preggo this time.




Just a quick edit, I have emailed JM requesting to remove my user id. God bless you all!

[dee68]

*post copied from the reply in the "oh jessica" thread to hopefully put the brakes on more problems in case no one reads those replies before this thread*...now I am getting confused


I think the main problem is that calling someone selfish for wanting a baby and , reactions to a bfn and/or a bfp may have rubbed some the wrong way.
I think many would react in a simliar way if it were done to them. No one here bashes anyone, if a post upsets someone that it is directed to, then they have the right to defend their feelngs and actions, just as you have done.
It is a shame that this has become an ongoing issue & had hoped to see it end.

There is really no reason for you to leave JM over a disagreement of opinions.
so I would suggest...let's stop rehashing this issue... call a truce & start over....
again, jmo

[MelissaT1973]

Dee I agree with you...I was off line most of the day yesterday, so it was a shock to me reading all this chaos....

I have my opinions (as each of us surely do) but delivery is everything, especially in written form. We ALL must be conscience of that when responding or writing new posts.

Let this topic end and move on. We are a support structure for each other in this forum. Period.

Life is too short, as we have all painfully had to learn.

[dee68]

Life is too short, as we have all painfully had to learn.[/b]

So true !!!!

[..Jessica..]

Copied from the post "oh jessica" -

All I'm going to say is this, what you said did offend and hurt me. And I clearly got over it, I don't understand your reasons for wanting to leave JM. This is a public forum, and you can say whatever you want. Yes you reply DID rub me the wrong way and I admit I said rude things to you in return & now I do feel bad. But, wouldn't you feel hurt as well? Reading that someone is selfish for wanting a baby? Whether it be financial reasons or otherwise.

I'm sorry to see you go! And I do sincerly apologize for saying what I said.

[*Bobbie*]

I am sorry to see you go too. I think if you stayed and posted a little more often we all could have welcomed you with open arms. I am sure if you chose to come back and post again everyone here will do just that. I think a lot of things were posted that we as a board regret. I think the main problem as I see it was... it felt like the only time you came here to post was to lecture Jessica. She wasn't looking for advice she was looking for support. It felt like you were just waiting for her to post something so you could start in on her. I am sorry if that wasn't the case... but that is how it felt. I seriously think you should come back so we can all put this behind us.

If you chose to come back... please come back and post often so we can actually get to know you. It's easier to disagree with a friend than it is to disagree with a stranger You really do seem like a good person and I am sorry your feelings were hurt too. I appologize for everthing negative that was said on this board.