[dee68]

I really can not believe how many....so far 5? I think....there may be more, I don't know.....
I really do not think I can post there all that much....not right now....
I'll keep up the appt. lists for the girls....but I dont know.......am I wrong for feeling like that ?

[victorialv]

NOT AT ALL! I remember feeling the same way with my 2nd. It was really scary to see so many losing their little ones. It is something that hits too close to home.

[greenchild]

don't feel bad about that!
With my 2nd pg (I didn't know about JM until after I knew there was something wrong with my 1st pg), the DDC hosts even made mention that they waited XX long to do certain lists bc they wanted to (their words, not mine) "weed out the m/c's". I hadn't yet lost my pg at that time, but I really thought that was horrible of the hosts to post that. And it was so hard to watch other ladies lose their angels.
I know I'm going to be excited to get to another DDC, but it will be difficult being in there knowing what it's like to go thru a loss.

[*Bobbie*]

Dee.... I remember being in the Sept DDC and every day up until the 8w point it seemed like we lost another member. (It was probably only a couple a week but it felt like there were more losses than healthy beans in the begining)

I think I was the last to leave at 14w. It scared the he** out of me to even think I could possibly m/c. I already have two healthy kids and had easy pregnancies so I was stunned when my baby died. I was one of those people who never thought it would happen to me

I am not sure what I will do if I ever get another BFP. I am sure I will post in the DDC.... but not as much as I would have before....KWIM? I just don't know how much of it I would be able to handle without stressing over all the loss.

I say you stay here and PG after Loss And keep you stress level down.

[home4mygirl]

I would feel the exact same way! I actually still post in my DDC very regularly because I was there for almost 5 months and really feel like I made some friends there. Plus, for some reason, it helps to see them with all their healthy pregnancies. Maybe I'll feel differently when the babies actually start coming, I don't know....

I've already thought about what I'll do when I get my BFP next time. I think I'll probably wait a little while to actually join the DDC. I may lurk and post here and there, but definitely I won't get as involved as I was this last time until probably after the first trimester at least.

Dee, Just stay here! Do whatever makes you feel good. Stress has no purpose for you right now.

[..Jessica..]

I'd feel the exact same way Dee!!! I was only in the Feb '08 DDC for TWO days and there were several girls who m/c, I was so shocked! Then when it happened to me, and I had to go back and update the girls, I felt like crap because they were all posting about how great their pregnancies were...and it kind of felt like they were rubbing it in my face. Even though I KNOW that is NOT the way it was intended, it just felt that way. Now that I've gotten passed those feelings, it's getting easier to go back and look at their bellies and stuff. But I know when my EDD approaches, I will be a mess!!!!

I don't blame you for not wanting to post on there, I think when I get my BFP, I probably won't join a DDC until after the first trimester, maybe even past the 2nd ultrasound (if I get more than one at that point). I think it's just for the whole thing of not wanting to see the losses. They won't EVER be forgotten, but, I wouldn't want to worry and stress every 2 seconds.

I'm sorry if this comes off as being harsh to anyone...it definitely wasn't intended!!! I just can't seem to put it into words any other way.

[readyat39]

I really can not believe how many....so far 5? I think....there may be more, I don't know.....
I really do not think I can post there all that much....not right now....
I'll keep up the appt. lists for the girls....but I dont know.......am I wrong for feeling like that ?[/b]

No, you are not wrong. I didn't even post my m/c in the June DDC because there were sooo many already and the expecting moms were freaking out. I didn't want to add to their stress.

I would take a break. When I get pg (power of positive thinking ), I'm not joining a DDC for 3 months, at least. It's too stressful.

[*Judy*]

Dee,
I would definately say that it is alright to feel that way. It is so hard to see people lose there babies, and because we have experienced it before I think it makes it more uncomfortable for those of us who have been through it. We will support you...and hey a lot of the members of our board are now in your DDC so you all can have a mini due date club right here.

[MelissaT1973]

Dee, I am in the same boat....well at least the same DDC as you!!!
I've been feeling the same way but just kept telling myself not to stress out, I don't think it's working. I still spend WAY more time here and it's here that I feel the most relaxed. So I guess what I am saying is do what helps you feel right, there's no guilt in that.

[dee68]

thank you ALL so much!!

I took over the Dr. appt list for Patty, so I do have to go there for that....but I just don't think I can be there all of the time right now....and with hosting my 2 boards & trying to keep up with all you crazy gals here , it's enough for now
I'll just pop in when I feel I can......

thanks again girls,
love you all !!!