[Julia'sMommy]

Hi Ladies... I guess I'll jump right in with my story... I tested last wednesday after 3 months of trying and got a very positive test! OF course, DH and I were super excited as we've been waiting for almost 2 years to start trying (wanted to finished University and get married first)... We planned a supper for the family on Sunday to share our exciting news but on Saturday night I went into the emerg with bleeding and ended up having a miscarriage. I'm devastated... and scared to try again.

About 8 years ago, when dH and I first met, we had an unplanned pregnancy (while on the pill) that also ended in miscarriage... At the time, we both had mixed emotions. The loss was hard but at the same time, a bit of a relief cuz we had just started dating, we didn't know each other that well, we were both so young and were scared. This is the 2nd time we've miscarried and I'm worried that this might be something more than "just a fluke". DH says it was a bad month to get pregnant as I had a bladder infection and was on antibiotics and I also spent the last week terribly sick. I didn't take anything cuz of being pregnant so I was coughing, sneezing and blowing my nose constantly. All of that could have had an impact on a very newly implanted baby...

If it was my first miscarriage, I may be better able to deal, and accept the whole "it happens to a lot of women, and it's for the best, the baby may have not been healthy", etc, etc, etc.... but, with this being the second, I'm not so sure.. and the worse part is that no one except me, DH and a close friend knows about the first miscarriage (except the docs of course)... so some people think that I should just accept this loss as a common issue that people TTC face and sort of "move on"...

I was told by my sister that maybe I should lay off the prenatals for a while until I get pregnant again. Something about iron levels and stuff. She's a transcriptionist at our city hospital and she said she's typed up several different reports where the ob/gyn has recommended the patient to stop taking their prenatals after miscarriage. Sort of to give your system "a rest". That my body could be "too ready to get pregnant"? Do any of you have any thoughts on this?

Anyway, as great as I'm sure all you ladies are, I wish I wasn't joining this board... We're not sure if we're going to try again right away. It would be so terrible if it happened a 3rd time right at Christmas....

It's silly cuz our little bean would have only just begun to grow (we conceived on Halloween night).. but I still feel like it was such a part of me already... Also something for DH to understand... He's even wondering if maybe I wasn't pregnant at all and I was just really late with my period... I almost with I hadn't tested last week.. then I could believe that too...

[..Jessica..]

Hi and Welcome to TTCAL!

I'm so sorry to hear about your second loss!!!! Miscarriage is always hard, no matter which one it is. Maybe with the antibiotics you're taking, they didn't allow the baby to implant correctly. Or like you said, the baby was simply unhealthy.

People that think you can easily "move on" after a miscarriage are usually people that have not suffered through losing a baby and do not know the heartache and pain that comes with it. A miscarriage is something that stays with you forever!

I hope you're able to conceive and have a healthy pregnancy. Wishing you and your husband all the best.

[keekopeeko]

i just wanted to say that i am really sorry...

it is hard. no matter what number it is...

My Dr. told me to keep on taking my prenatals.. But i think you should do whatever you feel comfortable with... i raelly dont think prenatals will make a huge difference one way or another...

~Em

[Danica]

(((HUGS))) I am so sorry you lost your little one. A loss of a child, whether the baby be 3 weeks ges or 18 years old is devistating. I think that doctors may be willing to put you on progesterone, etc to help make the baby stick if they see a pattern of miscarriage. I don't really know much about stopping taking the vitamins. I still took mine... I really hope that you get your BFP soon!

I also wanted to say that I am glad you found this board. The ladies here are very supportive and a fun bunch. I look forward to getting to know you better!

[Mum2three]

Hello and Welcome!! We are glad that you found us. We are a great group of ladies! Im so sorry to hear about your loss. Its not easy so let your heart and body heal first. We are here to help you through your TTC journey. Again im sorry to hear about your loss. HUGS!!!