[Julia'sMommy]

Just wondering if anyone here has TTC the month right after a m/c? Is it safe? Is it even possible?

Has anyone here conceived right after a m/c and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy?

I'm scared to death of another loss right after this one.. but I want a baby so badly it hurts.... I'm confused and scared and not sure what to do. I called my doc about getting an appointment just to talk and ask questions and I only got one at the end of December... That would mean I would miss this cycle... I know it's only one month, but I'm sure you can all understand how I feel...

Not sure what to do.. I would really really appreciate any info/advice you can offer...

[dee68]

I am so very sorry for your loss.
I think it is only natural to want to get pregnant right away.....just to be pregnant again....for me I wanted my baby back...
I decided however to wait until I was truly ready to ttc. It is usually recommended to wait a few cycles before ttc.
I truly believe it is very important to grieve, and make sure you heal physically & emotionally before decided when to ttc again. you may want to check out the Pregnancy Loss Board to help you get through this very painful time.


Dee

[victorialv]

I totally agree with Dee in every aspect. I KNOW EXACTLY what you mean about not wanting to wait. It was ALL I thought about after my 1st mc. However, I am in a different situation now, and am waiting, and actually enjoying my freedom a little bit. By that I mean, all my bad eating and social drinking habits.

I had 2 doctors tell me two different things and the internet seems to agree with BOTH of them!! EVERYONE will have a different opinion on this. My current OB/GYN told me to wait 3 mos., because there was considerable risk in not doing so. I think that is just his opinion because I had another very well known OB/GYN tell me to go for it after 1 AF. Who's to say??

IMO, I think you truly need to wait at least 1 cycle to allow your lining to build back up, but again, that is MY opinion and I am not a doctor. If I were you, I would ask to speak to the nurse, who should be able to relay your questions to the doctor, and get his/her answers back to you.

Good Luck!

[keekopeeko]

I AM a baby that was conceived imediately following a miscarriage... so yes.. it can be done... i also have a friend that said she had a miscarriage and three weeks later found out that she was pregnant again... and had a healthy baby girl from it...

BUT... i think its wise...and most commonly suggested ...to wait at least 1 month to let your uterus wall heal before another baby tries to implant... i think the risk of a repeat miscarriage is higher if you dont wait..

I totally understand though... and if youre like me you might get your period pretty quickly!!...

~Em

[EmilyRenee]

I felt a lot like you do after I had mine. We however used protection i think once lol. I have a sensitivity to latex so that didn't work out so well. Anyway the way i figured it was that if my body was ready for another baby it would accept it...and if it wasn't then it wouldn't. I mean we didn't try really hard we just didn't use protection. My other thought on it was God knows when the right timing is for me to have a baby and when that time is ready it will happen. So now 3 months later im pregnant again and am kinda glad i had that time. Now i know that my body is in better condition to take care of a baby properly. I feel like i truly grieved my baby. I know i will always still miss it, but at least now the pain is bearable. Its your choice to do what you feel is right. Its your body just do what you think is best.

[..Jessica..]

I agree with the other ladies, in that you should wait at least 1 cycle before TTC. Most doctors do suggest waiting at least 3 cycles, so that your lining has been able to build back up again. I guess they figure it's safer that way.

Good luck at your appointment in December!

[~TreeGrl~]

My two year old son was conceived approximately 16 days after a natural miscarriage in 2005. I had made it to six weeks so it was really early still. I was told to wait, but I didn't, and if you look at my siggy, he is a beautiful healthy boy. So yes it can happen.

This last miscarriage, at 10 weeks with no heartbeat found at my first ultrasound, and following a D&C, I quizzed my OB--who I respect greatly. She is the kind of dr. who is compassionate, yet tells it like it is. She said that Dr.'s want you to wait mainly to date the pregnancy, although your first ultrasound can do that. She didn't exactly tell me not to wait, but I took her comment to mean that it wouldn't hurt me if I didn't wait. And I didn't. It did take me 40 days to get AF back after the miscarriage.

The thing that can mess with you is that your pregnancy hormone will stay with you for a long time after a miscarriage, and I was getting positive pregnancy tests almost up to the end of that first cycle. I actually called because I wondered how I could get a very obvious Lh surge reading on a OPT and a positive on a HPT at the same time. The Nurse basically said, don't test until after your first cycle...your OPT will be inconclusive and the HPT will read positive until all of the hormone is out of your body. Anyway we missed the O on the first cycle, and now I am waiting to see if we caught it on the second cycle.

My advice to you is to follow your heart. I am of the opinion, especially because of my own experience, that if it is right it will happen, but don't beat yourself up over it. TTC and miscarrying can really be stressful.

Good luck.

[Julia'sMommy]

Thanks so much for all your input/support. I spoke to my doctor today and he did tell me to wait for at least 2, but preferable 3 "normal" cycles before ttc again. I think that I will wait one cycle for sure and then see where I'm at then, both physically and emotionally. If AF comes when I expect her to come, and it's "normal" then maybe that's a good sign and we'll see where we are for the next cycle.

I had a good talk with DH last night and he was great. He is anxious to start ttc again as he is longing to be a father as much as I want to be a mother but is much more concerned about my well being. I guess I need to be ok for myself and us before I can be ok for a child.

As I've said before, my biggest fear is m/c again. I feel like I've changed a bit with this whole experience and I'm afraid of what will happen to me, inside, if I have to go through this again. Afraid of the person I might become. I know I've had a m/c before, but it was an unplanned pregnancy 8 years ago (I was only 18 and DH was 16) and it was just a terrible time to have a baby. As awful as it is to say, as disheartening as the m/c was then, it was also a blessing in disguise. I would not be where I am today if that pregnancy had carried to term.

Now, I want a baby so bad.. and, well, I'm sure you all know what I'm feeling....

Maybe the next cycle is the cycle for us. Both DH and I have birthday's in September... Maybe our baby should have one then too...

Hugs to you all...
Tisha

[LisaB]

My doctor said physically it's ok to start trying right away (though the body usually needs at least one cycle to rebuild the placenta). Mentally it's tougher for some, and this is why doctors usually tell patients to wait, so they aren't disappointed if they don't conceive right away since the body may need a little time to rebuild. But you can always try! Just realize it might not happen immediately. If it does, then great! It definitely can't hurt you physically or be of any harm to the baby to try early.

[polbilly]

we lost our 1st two pregnancies with our 2nd I lost the baby on june 13 and found out I was pregnant again on july 5 (officially with blood work, actually got a BFP on the 3rd) My son is almost 2 now and I had my first sucsessful pregnancy so yes its possible to get pg and have a safe and healthy pregnancy

melissa

[luvmygirls]

I am so sorry for your loss The dr that did my d&c told me to wait 2-3 cycles before ttc again, and she said it was mainly to heal mentally. My regular dr said that we could ttc after 1 cycle, and that they usually only tell you to wait so you can heal emotionally and for dating purposes. B/c right after a m/c your cycle can be screwy...you may get pg before your 1st AF, and it might be a perfectly healthy pg, and you may go into your 1st appt thinking that you are 8w, and the u/s could show you are only 6w and there's no hb yet....and then you would totally freak yourself out thinking you will have another m/c for no reason. You just don't need any extra stress at this time. So it's good that you're waiting at least one cycle. Tho I'm sure you could have a perfectly healthy baby even if you didn't wait, but it's best to let yourself heal.
But I can totally relate how hard it is to wait. We should be pg now...
Best of luck ttc in the future!

[AmandaEliz]

Hello-
I had a really bad experience w/ getting preg right away. I had a natural m/c back in June & then a BFP in July. It was quite a shock, as we weren't trying. I was planning on waiting for a normal cycle, and then trying. Unfortunately, the July preg ended up being ectopic & I lost my left tube (and scared my DH senseless). If I had it to do again, we would've been MUCH more careful. I can't help but think that if I had waited, I could've avoided a very scary/painful experience & possibly be preg right now.
I know there are plenty of good-news stories out there about this same situation, but my humble opinion is to wait a cycle or two. Give yourself a chance to heal emotionally and physically. I know it's tough, but my DH and I are trying again now... I want this next baby to be concieved out of love and happiness, not grief.
Good Luck to you, whatever you decide to do.
Mandy