[*Bobbie*]

So yesterday I told my mom I had m/c again. You know what she said....

"So you got your period?" UGH I was ticked!

I said "NO I m/c again". GRRR it wasn't just AF showing up late. There is a huge difference! I lost another baby. It made me mad at first. Then I think she thought about what she said and she felt bad. I always wonder why it is I expect more from the people I love? I expect them to understand and not say stupid things

Oh well.... at least you girls understand me I love you all

[Madison.N.Hailey'sMom]

Awww I'm sorry bobbie that you got that reaction. I wouldnt be surprised if some of my family was like that. We're all here for you.

[..Jessica..]

I'm sorry your mom was so insensitive. My mother was like that when I told her I was pregnant..."don't tell anyone, and don't get too excited, you could miscarry" she was SO negative! Argh!!!

I'm sure your mom didn't mean it. Sometimes people don't really understand, they think a miscarriage is a period...I'll never understand that!

Hope you're doing okay!!!

[victorialv]

Oh, I'm really sorry Bobbie, that was insensitive! I will never understand why people say the things they do. You count on your immediate family to be there for you and it is really dissapointing when they are not.

[EmilyRenee]

Bobbie i know how you feel. It sux because my mom isn't very affectionate and doesn't show her emotions well. When i had my m/c before she just showed up at the docs office and waltzed right into my app. Then tried making jokes when the doc told me i m/c'd. I understand she was concerned and was trying to make me feel better but it made me feel worse. Then this time she wasn't really even excited i was pg again. Then she asked me why i lied b/c someone asked me if i was pg and i said no b/c i was caught off guard and all my lil sisters were there and didn't want them to know. She made me feel horrible for not wanting the whole world to know i was pg before i wanted them to know. Someone said something to me the other day that helped thought. She said that i need to voice to my mom what she is doing and how she is making me feel. To not try to think about what her response is going to be. You are only responsible for your response to what she says to you not her response to you. Don't let her make you feel worse. I know its harder said than done. I just wanted you to know i know how you feel. I hope you understand what i was trying to say. And you're right we are all here for you. So vent all you want!!!

[Mum2three]

Hey hun, u never know if that was your moms way to say shes there for you. My mom tends to say silly stuff like that all the time. and later i think about it and just say, well shes trying to stay positive for my sake. I understand that your upset for what your mom said, but she will always love you. We all understand you and we all loves ya to! we are here when u need some hugs and a shoulder to lean on!! We got a Bobbie!!!!

[tparum]

o sweety sry about that. our parents do that alot dont they? you would thank they would give u a great big ol hug and say there sry to hear that and be there for ya.

well sweety were here for ya day and night

[dee68]

you know Bobbie, I think sometimes when people hear bad news they actually get a little nervous as to what their response should be and what comes out of their mouth, well leaves a lot to be desired, but most of the time it really isnt meant to be hurtful.....
but in any case, WE are here for you !!!
and not for anything, I am STILL waiting for Mick's father to even acknowledge I was preg.LAST year & had a loss.....so do you think he'll say congrats when i finally give birth this time???

[greenchild]

Bobbie, I am sorry! Sometimes people just say stuff before they think.