Forum: Trying to Conceive after Loss
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November 24th, 2007, 06:08 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: California
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Hi, My name is Heather.
This forum seems wonderful! you all seem here for eachother all the time!!!
I have 2 boy, Ethan 5 and Kaiden 2. I have always wanted and dreamed of three kids.
On Fathers Day I was 1 day late on my period, and tested and got a very dark positive!!!! I was so excited!! My husband works out of town and wasnt coming home til midnight. So when he got home I had him open his Fathers Day Present, which was the positive test. we were both ecstatic and couldnt wait!!!!
We already were picking out names, lol, we couldnt help it.
Anyway, I had a bad feeling the whole time, my pregnancies are high risk, but this bad feeling was different. The day before my appt I even said "we should leave the boys with a baby sitter in case the baby has no heartbeat"
So we went to our first appt, I was 8 wks 3 days. My dr. did an u/s and our baby looked perfect! we could see every part of him! he looked bigger than I expected. But I could tell righta way something wasnt right. I didnt see that flutter of a heartbeat. But I still remained positive and ave heard of it being hard to detect sometimes. minutes went by. I said to my dr. "hes alive isnt he" and my dr. didnt say anything, I almost broke down, but kept it together. Then about a minute later my dr. said "im sorry there is no heartbeat" I broke down bawling. and I have been heartbroken ever since! My baby even measured 8wks 3 days! He passed away on July 17th, 2007
Later that day my dr. sent us to the hospital for another u/s to confirm. It was confirmed. The next day I had a D&C. Now I wish I had done it natural.
So fast forward 4 months and we are ready to TTC again. I am sooooo extremely nervous, but excited too!!! This is our first month. I usually concieve the first month (i know some of you will hate me for that, lol) but am not sure now because i have heard of it being harder to get pregnant after a miscarriage.
Anyway, I am just so nervous!! I think this forumwill help, you guys understand and we can share our feelings together.
Thanks for listening!!
-Heather
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November 24th, 2007, 06:27 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: virginia
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ive never heard that its harder to get pregnant after a miscarriage before.. i think if you have a problem conceiving them maybe... but i dunno..
anyways. just wanted to say welcome! im sorry you are here in a way.. but i am excited for you and your DH to start trying again!!!
im not "preventing" this month and then will be activly trying next month... maybe we will be in the same DDC! but it always takes me and my DH a few months to conceive while trying.. so we'll see..
~Em
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November 24th, 2007, 07:49 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Rochester, NY
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Heather....
I am sorry you lost your baby. For what it's worth.... I did it natural at 14w and still ended up with a D&C. So try not to second guess yourself.
I hope you get a BFP quick. We promise not to hold it against you  We are a fun loving bunch and LOVE seeing BFP's
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step-grandma to: Wesley (23 months)
On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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November 25th, 2007, 05:59 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: St. John's Newfoundland
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Welcome to the board Heather! im so sorry about your loss. I hope that doesnt get in the way of you trying again. I 2 suffered stillbirths. And i was TTC for over 6 months. and now im pregnant. and we are excited but always scared. thats only normal to feel that way. Just keep thinking positive and it shall happen. Take care of yourself first, and u shall get what you want!!
Again Welcome to the board we are happy u came to us!!!
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November 25th, 2007, 07:15 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Colorado
Posts: 4,478
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I am so sorry you lost your baby. I am glad you found this group though. I look forward to getting to know you better and hope you get a bfp real soon!!!!!!!
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November 25th, 2007, 07:16 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Nov 2006
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Hi and welcome Heather! I am so sorry for your loss. I had a m/c and d&c on October 17th. Like you, I had a bad feeling during my pg and new something was wrong, but I am very positive for the future and I hope you are too! I usually get pg on the 1st cycle too (we have 2 dds that were both conceived on the 1st try, and our angel was conceived on the pill). Hopefully you'll get your bfp right away!
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November 25th, 2007, 10:24 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: California
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Thank you all so much for the warm welcome it means so much!!!! Im glad I am not in this alone!!!
I am so nervous but excited too!!!
((hugs)) to you all
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November 25th, 2007, 12:32 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: the lower 48
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welcome to the board!!
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November 25th, 2007, 01:38 PM
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Regular
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Join Date: Nov 2007
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Heather, I found you!
I know it's nerve racking to start TTC again, but don't stress yourself too much. Just trust that things will go the way they should. You know I'm here for you always! (And you already know my story, so I'm not posting it right now, LOL)
Hugs,
Ally
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November 25th, 2007, 01:40 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: California
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thank you!! you are right, I just need to relax and go with the flow and not think of the bad stuff that we know can happen!!!
I wish it were easier, LOL
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November 25th, 2007, 01:41 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Aug 2007
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Just wanted to say Hi and Welcome!
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November 25th, 2007, 02:45 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Midland,tx
Posts: 6,456
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first off im so so so sry for ur loss. and welcome to the board u will love it here.
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Allways Remembering our Angels
Angelina Marie 08-02-99, William Dewayne 02-08-01, Thomas Ray 07-30-02 and BabyBean 02-22-08 and BabyBean 03/02/2012
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November 25th, 2007, 04:57 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Canada
Posts: 11,084
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Hi Heather! Welcome to the board!!!
I'm so sorry for your loss!!!
I hope you get your when you test next week!!!
Good luck to you and your hubby!!!
Sending some sticky dust your way!!!
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