Things aren't so great

..Jessica.. · #1 November 26th, 2007, 10:18 PM

I tried to get into chat earlier, but it just wouldn't work. We lost our cable due to the stupid snow falling, and the internet connection was horrid.

Dwayne's step-dad has been admitted to the hospital. I was just dropped off by Dwayne maybe half an hour ago. He picked me up around 8:45-9pm to go see him.

With the symptoms Peter has, the doctor really thinks he has a brain tumor. He's sending him for a CT scan early tomorrow morning. They admitted him because they want to see how his symptoms are throughout the night. Dwayne's mom is staying overnight in the room with him.

I feel so sick to my stomach. Like my heart is being ripped out. I don't know what to say, or how to comfort my in-laws and my fiance. I've never been through this before. I just feel like crying.

keekopeeko · #2 November 27th, 2007, 05:14 AM

ooooh..that sounds hard... but im sure the best comfort you can be is just being there for them and them knowing that you really care...

~Em

MinDB · #3 November 27th, 2007, 05:15 AM

aw, i'm so sorry to hear about this. my thoughts and prayers are with everyone.

EmilyRenee · #4 November 27th, 2007, 07:00 AM

Awe jess i am so sorry. I agree totally with em just be a shoulder to lean on. Dwayne is going to need it right now. Im praying for you guys. (((HUGS)))

home4mygirl · #5 November 27th, 2007, 07:04 AM

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry! The best thing you can do in a situation like this is just to be there and let them know if they need anything, you're there for them (which I'm sure they already know). I'll be thinking of you and Dwayne's family....

HangingInThere · #6 November 27th, 2007, 07:12 AM

Jess,
It's never easy when a parent gets sick and I'm so sorry to hear this. My Dh and I went through a similar event 3 years ago when his father was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer. It was a rough road but I think the best thing you can do is just stick with him. Let Dwayne know that it's OK to cry and make him feel comfortable to show you his emotions. Men tend to bottle it all up because they think they need to be strong. I think the best thing I did for Dh during that time was to let him know that I was his rock.
Again I am so sorry and You, Dwayne, and his family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs,

heatherrose415 · #7 November 27th, 2007, 07:54 AM

i am so sorry to hear this

I really hope it is not brain cancer!!! You are all in my thoughts and prayers!!!

MelissaT1973 · #8 November 27th, 2007, 08:08 AM

I am so sorry Jessica, this is a difficult time for you and your family. We are all here for you anytime.

greenchild · #9 November 27th, 2007, 08:25 AM

Jessica, I am so sorry you and your fiance & family have to go thru this!!! I can tell you from personal experience (my dad died of cancer) that what we really need is hugs, understanding, and maybe someone to do the little things we forget to do, like a cup of hot chocolate. It's a tough situation to be in. One thing I found to be the WORST was the hospice worker telling me what/how I should be feeling. I hope the scan brings better news!

*Judy* · #10 November 27th, 2007, 08:36 AM

Hi Jess,
I thought I replied to this last night, but I don't see my post so will reply again. I am so sorry that Dwayne and you are going through this. I know how scary it is when someone you love is hurting. I will be praying that all comes out well and that this is not what the doctor thinks it is. I know you will be there for Dwayne, and just remember that he may just need a soft place to land during this difficlt time. I hope we hear good news over the next few days. I will be thinking about you!

dee68 · #11 November 27th, 2007, 08:40 AM

I am so sorry to hear this sweetie...
please know that we are here for you ...and that all of you are in my thoughts...

Kristen_at_the_lake · #12 November 27th, 2007, 12:59 PM

I'm sorry*hugs* You, Dwayne and family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

..Jessica.. · #13 November 27th, 2007, 01:37 PM

As of now...there's no update from Dwayne. Peter was taken to a cancer specialty hospital for the CT scan. They have to inject some sort of dye or something in order to see if there are anything blockages or something. I wasn't really talked to about it, was just told by Dwayne and he's fuzzy about what the procedure is exactly.

If it is a tumor, what we're hoping for right now is that it's not cancer. Dwayne's mom said "we can deal with it being a tumor, but if it's a cancerous tumor -- I don't know how I can handle it" so right now, that's what we're praying for -- NO CANCER!

Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers ladies. Until Peter is diagnosed -- we'll need a lot of them!

I'm doing better today, still feel empty. But, he's being taken care of..so now it's in God's hands.