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forever_loved25 · #1 December 7th, 2007, 10:29 AM

Hello. I'm new to JM. My name is Amber, my DH's name is Ryan, and I have an angel named Braden Alexander. He went to heaven on March 1, 2007. I want to thank you all in advance for the support that I know you all will give. But my question is I just read that after a miscarriage, a D&C is not necessary uinless there is a lot of blood. Well I had a D&C and I had not been losing any blood, actually I wasn't even in any pain. I wouldn't have even know I had miscarried unless I hadn't went to the doctor and they did an ultrasound. So did I not need to have the D&C? I also read that they're not needing because they can do damage to the uterus. So could that be the reason of the pain during sex, and the random painds I have in my ovaries and uterus? I didn't ever get them until after I had the D&C. I'm just a little worried now, because I'm afraid I didnt need to have the D&C. Thanks.

Mom 2 Avery · #2 December 7th, 2007, 11:07 AM

I am so very sorry to welcome you to our board, but the ladies here are amazing!!!
Bless you and your loved ones...I know how hard it is!!!!

I, too, had a D&C. I had to have one because my placenta didn't release after Avery was born.
I'm sure the reason your dr. opted for a D&C was because you weren't passing everything on your own.
If anything stays after a m/c, there are lots of problems with infection and stuff...so they HAD to "clean house".

It takes a while to get past the "what if's", but you'll get there. I promise!!!!

In the meantime, I'm here if you need to talk.
Always with hugs!
Dawna

keekopeeko · #3 December 7th, 2007, 11:14 AM

Hi! i am so sorry for your loss....

but i am glad you found this group!

I was curiouse.. you said you didnt even know you had miscarried. how far along were you? does that mean you didnt bleed at all? was it a "missed miscarrige" ? The baby was still in you, but had died a while ago??.. ( thats what sorta happened to me ) Because in that case a d&c would make sence...

~Em

*Judy* · #4 December 7th, 2007, 11:14 AM

Hi Amber,
Welcome to our board! It is a great place with many wonderful ladies. I am sorry that you ended up here. As for your M/C...I am only speaking from my experience (2 m/c both natural). I was told when we realized the babies weren't developing and there wasn't a heartbeat that we could either schedule a d&c or wait for nature. I was given the option. Both times I would have rather had the D&C because the pain was awefl, but I never had the chance. Each time I miscarried before the D&C could be scheduled. It sounds like you had the same as I did, a missed m/c which means that your body doesn't realize the baby is no longer viable so your don't m/c right away. I do know that both my doctors were extremly cautious about claiming a m/c and did 3 or 4 u/s before actually giving up hope. So what I am saying is each case is different. You may have needed the D&C for some reason. I don't know about damaging the uterus. Someone on here will though. I hope you get a BFP quick.

Melanie0507 · #5 December 7th, 2007, 11:43 AM

Hi Amber, my name is Melanie and I have just gone through what it sounds like you went through a little while ago. I had a "missed misscarriage" at 9 weeks and was given the choice to wait or go ahead with a D&C. We chose the D&C so we could move on. It has been just over 2 1/2 weeks since my D&C, but I am feeling fine. I have not had any odd pains, even with bding. I would possibly follow up about the pain with your doctor. Please keep us posted, good luck.

heatherrose415 · #6 December 7th, 2007, 12:56 PM

Welcome to the group. but so sorry you have to be here

I am very sorry for your loss, you chose a beautiful name for your baby!!

I had a missed miscarriage and my dr. let me chose whether to have the D&C or go natural, but because I was over 8 wks, He advised a D&C. SO thats what I had also.

But to be honest I regret it, but like someone said above, over time we get through the "what ifs" I hated myself for a few months about choosing "the easy" way out (thats how i felt) but now I dont beat myself up about it because at the time, it was what was best. kwim?

I would talk to your dr. about your pains. I have heard of other women having the same problem.

((hugs))
-Heather

forever_loved25 · #7 December 7th, 2007, 01:29 PM

I was between 10-14 weeks, they said closer to ten though. I had no idea I was misacarrying. So that's why I was a little worried about the D&C. There was no blood or any pain to indicate that I has miscarried, as well as no loss of symptoms. They did about 3 ultrasounds. Thank you all for your help.

HEATHERROSE415...
About the other girls have the same problem with the pain, do you know what it was? What did the doctor tell them, was it caused by the D&C? If so how was it resolved, if it was resolved? It's okay if you don't know, I just thought I would ask. Thanks.

heatherrose415 · #8 December 7th, 2007, 02:34 PM

I dont remember in all cases, but I have read a few of them ended up getting Pelvic Inflammatory Disease after the D&C. they were treated with antibiotics. But I cant remember everyone. I dont want to scare you, i hope this doesnt, that is just what I had read over on cafemom.com shortly after my miscarriage.

I would definately call your doctor and let him know so you can find out if its normal or not.

((HUGS)) sorry you are going through this!!

forever_loved25 · #9 December 7th, 2007, 02:39 PM

it's not scaring me.. it actually helps. now I can look that up and get a little information. I won't be able to go back to a doctor until the 17th. Thanks, for answering.

HangingInThere · #10 December 7th, 2007, 03:01 PM

Sorry that you had to join us but we welcome you with open arms! Both my m/c's were missed m/c and I had D&C with both. I too was given the option and the first time started to m/c naturally and hemmoraged before my scheduled D&C, so the D&C had to be done immeadiately to prevent further blood loss. The second time I opted for the D&C to prevent going through the same emergency again. This last time I was much like you, I had a little spotting, and cramped very little on my way to my drs appt that morning, routine ck up. I was 16.5 wks but had lost the baby at 14 wks. I would say that your dr probably opted for you to have the D&C because it was a missed m/c and dependant on the amount of deterioration did it to prevent infection. However, only your dr can tell you for sure his reason behind it. Don't beat yourself up over having had a D&C and not doing it naturally. Neither way is the better way in my opinion. However if you are having pains during intercourse and it was March that you had your D&C I would consult your dr. I know that a D&C can cause some scarring but I have never heard of it causing significant problems or damage unless you have had several.
HTH and Hugs to you,

Danica · #11 December 7th, 2007, 09:06 PM

Hi Amber, I am sorry to hear you lost your little one. I don't have much to add because I think the other ladies covered it very well. The only other thing I was going to mention is that I had a natural m/c and I also notice more "pains" than I used to. Not during sex but around ovulation and sometime other twinges and stuff. I sometimes think maybe it is just because I am more in tune with my body now and also since I am ttc I am looking for every little sign but some of the pains are pretty noticeable and I just attribute it to having the m/c. I hope that your doctor can spend some time with you and make sure that everything is healing or has healed as it should.

I look forward to getting to know you better.

Hugs,
Danica