This month?? Next month??

home4mygirl · #1 December 9th, 2007, 07:36 AM

Hi Guys!
So, I just finished AF and now we COULD start TTC if we wanted to, because there wouldn't be conflicting birthdays with dd cuz this baby would be due in September (as long as he/she decided to cook that long...lol), but I truthfully want the birthdays to be spread out more than a month apart... So, the best thing for that would be to wait another month to start TTC.

Here's my dilemma - I REALLY want to get pg again and I don't know if I can wait that long!!! And now, after talking to dh, I think he really wants to start trying right away and get pg again asap. I know, in the grand scheme of things, a month isn't that long to wait, but for me, right now, it seems like an eternity!

Sooooo....thoughts, ladies?? I've thought of "not trying, not preventing" and think it seems like a good idea. However, whenever we do that, since we are both evidently very fertile, we get pg right away. I would love to be pg again right now (what an awesome christmas present!), but then the birthdays would be really close and I would be pg in the summer again (I swore I would never be pg in the summer again...lol!). BUT, I don't know if I can wait another month!

Ugh, I'm so incredibly conflicted...can ya tell...lol!!

Also, for the BTDT mommas here with close birthdays for their kiddos, is it that big of a deal??

Mum2three · #2 December 9th, 2007, 07:52 AM

I would say do what u feel is best. I know personally my DH has a older Daughter, and she was born August 6th 2000. And Jaiden was born august 26th. And we dont find it hard what so ever. Cause Jaiden was to be due Aug 6th as well. For kids they think that is so cool that their baby brother or sister was born on their day. Makes them feel more important.

But if u want to wait, Tell DH and explain that you dont want a September baby. and u just want to wait 1 more month..

I wish you all the best of luck and i hope that things look better for you!!!

MelissaT1973 · #3 December 9th, 2007, 08:24 AM

I wish I had any real insight to offer but conflicting birthdays isn't an issue for me, in fact with wanting to have another baby it never crossed my mind to wonder if we would have one the same month as our dd..doesn't concern me.

But from reading your topic it seems you would really like to get pg and your husband is on the same page.....so to me that sounds like 2 positives to 1 potential negative (conflicting bdays)....I guess statistically you should go for it!

heatherrose415 · #4 December 9th, 2007, 09:36 AM

Me and my brother growing up had birthdays only 2 wks apart!! I never had a problem with it as a kid, my dad would usually throw a big birthday party for both of us. I know some kids might have a problem with that, but me and my brother never did. I hope that helps.

I am kind of in the same predicament as you, I have a son born in august, and a son born in october. If i get pregnant this month our next will probably be september, lol. so we will have 3 birthdays 3 months in a row, but I dont wnt to wait, and neither does my husband, so we are trying

I think the not trying not preventing would work well, if it happens it was meant to be!!!

*Judy* · #5 December 9th, 2007, 10:45 AM

Hi Emma,
You know I had the same issue. I am in the 2ww right now and if I am pg I would be due around the 20th of August (I think), and my daughter was born on Sept 1st. I just decided to go with it. If it happens it happens. It would kill me to know that I could have been pregnant and not. My other consern is my age. I am 34 now and will 35 Aug 16th. That was a big factor for me. Also I think if the children have an issue with it, you can always celebrate one early and one late. We are a vactioning family and it will save $$$ for us because we can combine both birthdays into one vacation. It just comes down to what you feel comfortable with. Good luck in coming to a decision.

..Jessica.. · #6 December 9th, 2007, 03:43 PM

I say go with whatever you feel like. If you don't want the birthdays close, then wait a month. But at this point, I think you and your hubby just want a baby and the birth month doesn't matter, right?

Good luck hun, I know this is something to really think of. Hope you decide soon!!

home4mygirl · #7 December 9th, 2007, 07:03 PM

Thanks so much for all of your input guys!!! We have decided to GO for it!!! Judy, I kind of feel the same way as you - it would kill me to know I could have been pregnant, but didn't try because of birthday dates!

If I get pg now, they would be about a month or so apart if the little bugger cooperates and stays in for as long as he/she is supposed to (assuming I actually DO get pg this month..lol) and I think that's enough of a time gap to make it okay. Plus, Trinity will be little enough that she won't remember it any other way, nor will the other child, so it won't really matter to them - only to us as parents, and dh couldn't care less how close the birthdays are, so it's really just me! I suppose it could be my fear of another loss that's concerning me, and I'm just convincing myself that it's because of dates. I dunno, I just know that I REALLY want another baby, so dates be darned! We're trying!! Wish me luck!!