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~ Christine ~ · #1 December 11th, 2007, 08:42 AM

Can I join you ladies here?

We just decided to start trying, taking a step up from just not preventing.

We lost our second son on August 31, 2007 because of pPROM. How do you ladies get excited about trying after your losses? I want another child so bad, but the fear of what might happen overwhelms me. (Our first was born 5 weeks early due to pPROM). So needless to say, I will be constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop next time around. How do y'all deal with your fears?

#2 December 11th, 2007, 08:48 AM

Of course you can join us! I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm in the same boat as you are, we are actively trying now. Good luck!

As far as dealing with fears: having the girls on this board helps alot. For me just saying my fears out loud or typing them really helps. Then I know I'm not alone, someone else heard it and it doesn't get worse and worse in my mind. Does that make sense?

I will never be "fear-less" in my next pregnancy. I guess I'll just take it one day at a time. That's why this board helps so much, we've all been through the worst, you'll never hear us say "just relax"! yeah right!!!

I hope you'll find this board to be helpful, supportive and fun!

I look forward to getting to know you better.

keekopeeko · #3 December 11th, 2007, 08:54 AM

Hi.... welcome..im so sorry for your loss..

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I think jsut being with a group of women who have the same fears and understand mine helps me feel like i am at least not alone..

I had a miscarriage.. nothing that has repeated itself like in your case.. so i can see why you would be very nervouse...

~Em

~ Christine ~ · #4 December 11th, 2007, 09:00 AM

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Of course you can join us! I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm in the same boat as you are, we are actively trying now. Good luck![/b]

Thanks for the welcome. Good luck to you too!

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As far as dealing with fears: having the girls on this board helps alot. For me just saying my fears out loud or typing them really helps. Then I know I'm not alone, someone else heard it and it doesn't get worse and worse in my mind. Does that make sense?[/b]

It does make sense. I think it's along the same principles as getting your feelings and emotions out, helps you not keep them in and bottled up.

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I will never be "fear-less" in my next pregnancy. I guess I'll just take it one day at a time. That's why this board helps so much, we've all been through the worst, you'll never hear us say "just relax"! yeah right!!!

I hope you'll find this board to be helpful, supportive and fun!

I look forward to getting to know you better.[/b]

I don't think I'll ever be fearless again either. I look forward to getting to know you better too.

heatherrose415 · #5 December 11th, 2007, 09:11 AM

Welcome to this group, it has been soooooo helpful for me.

I am very sorry for your loss and completely understand the overwhelming fear. Its crazy, I want to bepregnant soooo bad, but when my period showed last month I was relieved because I didnt have to worry about being pregnant and stressing about losing another baby. I know it sounds insane, lol. but it is kind of a release when I start. and It has been almost 5 months since I lost my baby.

All of my pregnancies have been high risk and I have almost lost both of my live boys, than did lose my last, so I understand what you mean about waiting for the other shoe to drop.
I hope you like it here and feel at home!
-Heather

luvmygirls · #6 December 11th, 2007, 09:11 AM

Hi and welcome. I am so sorry for your loss. It truly does help to talk to the ladies on this board. We will all be scared once we are pg again, but we will all help each other to be optimistic too. Good luck ttc and I hope you get your bfp soon!

~ Christine ~ · #7 December 11th, 2007, 09:16 AM

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Its crazy, I want to bepregnant soooo bad, but when my period showed last month I was relieved because I didnt have to worry about being pregnant and stressing about losing another baby. I know it sounds insane, lol. but it is kind of a release when I start. and It has been almost 5 months since I lost my baby.[/b]

I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn't sound insane - I know exactly what you mean. That's the same way I feel. We have not been preventing for the past two months, and I was relieved too when I started both times. But I want another child sooo bad too.

priddymama · #8 December 11th, 2007, 09:38 AM

So sorry to hear of your loss. I'm sorry, but do you mind sharing what is pPROM? Excuse my ignorance but I don't know if I've heard of that before.

I agree with previous posts. This board is a way to get your fears and concerns out in the open. Feel free to express!

..Jessica.. · #9 December 11th, 2007, 11:45 AM

Hello and Welcome to the board!!!

I'm so sorry for your loss!!!!

I know one thing for sure, everyone on this board understands eachother. No matter what stage you're in post m/c -- we've all been there. I think just deciding to try again is a big step that you've taken in not preventing.

I know with my next pregnancy and I'm sure the one or two after will be full of fears and stress of losing the baby. I think those thoughts are just hurdles we all WILL overcome and eventually hold our lil bundles in our arms.

Good luck to you TTC!!!! I hope you get your soon!!!

*Bobbie* · #10 December 11th, 2007, 03:41 PM

Hi and

I am glad you found us! Sit back, buckle up, and enjoy the ride. This board is the best there is.... but heck I am partial

About how do you TTC without fear....well you don't. I think we all find a point where it is worth it to take the chance. And we are all here for each other when we feel like throwing in the towel when AF shows up. I think we all get the "I give up" feeling when we realize another month has come and gone with no BFP.

I once read somewhere about a conversation between patient and doctor. Basically the doctor said..... If you TTC I can't guarantee you won't m/c again.... but if you don't TTC I can guarantee you will never have another child. I guess that's what keeps me trying. I am willing to take the chance...cause if I don't take the chance there is no hope.

Anyways..... tons of

to you. I hope your next pregnancy is a very boring one

I can't wait to get to know you!

Melanie0507 · #11 December 11th, 2007, 07:26 PM

Well, I don't have much to add besides what everyone else has said, but I just wanted to say WELCOME!! The ladies on here are great and quite supportive. I look forward to getting to know you!

*Judy* · #12 December 11th, 2007, 08:26 PM

Welcome!!! I am so sorry baout your loss, but just know this is a great place to hang out. I think we all have fears about being pregnant again. I lost my second in Sept. The whole time I was compulsive about checking TP and every little twinge. I have a feeling it will be the same when we get our next BFP, but I think the desire to have a baby out weighs the fears. I wish you all the luck and hope you aren't here to long.