[AlanaMarie]

i suffered my miscarriage on the 9th, i stopped bleeding about the 14th, but still i have no drive whatsoever. i dont have any desire to do more than kiss my husband, i dont know why. did anyone else experience this? i feel like i am depriving him, he has been all over me for several days now and i just dont want anything to do with him sexually. how long will this last? i cant take seeing him get knocked down every time he tries to do more than kiss me but i dont want to give in and have pity sex.

[heatherrose415]

I was the same way, for me the only thing I could think of was my passed away baby being the last thing to come out of there, and I didnt want anything else going in. I was terrible at one time and said "no, i had my dead baby come out of there" and that stopped him, he didntget angry, if anything it made him more empathetic towards me and how I was feeling. I have a book and it says its perfectly normal to not be in the mood for quite some time. for me it was after 6 wks that I was ready to give ita try.

Just talk to him and give yourself time okay. When youa re ready you will know it.

((HUGS))
-Heather

[Danica]

I am so sorry that you lost your little one. You are still healing emotionally and physically so it is perfectly understandable to have no drive. Hopefully your husband understands and if not try to just explain how you are feeling and that you do want to make love but you are not emotionally / physically ready yet. (((HUGS)))

[*Bobbie*]

I am sorry I really don't have any advice. For me I was the opposite... I had sex two days after my D&C I think anything is normal. We all deal with it differently.

Give yourself time. Try and have a good heart to heart with your hubby. I am sure that will make you both feel better about it.

[..Jessica..]

I was the opposite as well. I DTD with my hubby 2 weeks after my m/c. I just wanted it to happen.

Hopefully your husband will understand and give you a little space right now, when it comes to sex.

[MaMaTuTu]

I waited I think 2.5 weeks after my surgery(ectopic pregnancy). I was so scared to, and parinoid that the condom would break, or something would happen. But I really needed to feel that closeness with my husband. Take the time to care for yourself, and be sure to tell him why your feeling the way you are. And if you don't know why, it might be your hormones still coming down. GL!

[notrub98]

I only waited about 2 weeks and was actually quite anxious to get it over and done with.

[jademyst13]

I am starting to get the desire back (it's been 2 weeks since the m/c started) However I am scared that for some reason it will hurt or make me start back bleeding. So DH is still suffering...

[babyblue]

I waited exactly 2 weeks after my D&C.. doc said to wait one, but I was still bleeding. I was ready to do it, but apprehensive. The first time was tough for me b/c my mind was elsewhere.. but since then, it's been great.

I think we are all different - so just be honest with your DH and tell him how you feel and that you are just not ready yet. My DH didn't push things at all and let me be the one who made the call. I'm sure yours will be understanding as well.

HUGS!