[heatherrose415]

I am feeling so weak and heartbroken.

I am missing my baby way more. I really thought I would get a BFP.

In some ways it feels like I just lost my baby all over again.

I have only been trying 2 months and am already this depressed, what am I going to do if next month is a BFN too?

It has been 5 1/2 months since I lost my baby and I really want to be blessed with one more.

I am just feeling really down and wondering how some of you remain so optimistic?

[*Bobbie*]

Ya know.... I have NO IDEA. But I do know everyone deals with TTC different.



I try to have a who cares attitude about the little stuff in life. I am pretty laid back over all so that may be why the BFN's for 6 years haven't drove to too batty I guess for me being able to have people IRL who constantly are asking "how it's *going*" helps. Like I have my own personal cheer squad. I work with a lady who is in her 70's and at least twice a week asks. I guess to know people care about me and want this so bad for us makes it easier to deal with the BFN's. She always finds the positive and tries to give me *tips*.... LOL... last month she told me the *secret* about putting your leggs in the air! LMAO

I try to view each month as another chance to have a baby... not another month without one. I guess I try to keep my glass half full...not half empty. Some days it is REALLY hard to try and be positive though. Those days I allow myself to be mad at the world. I think the key is to try to snap out of the mood as quick as possible.

It really is one day at a time. I strongly belive it will make me a better parent when I do finally get to hold that little one in my arms.

I hope you get a BFP soon. The waiting really does stink! But at least we have each other here on this board. No matter how down I am you girls always cheer me up.

My son gave me his tip on how to get pregnant this month when AF showed. He said I should buy condoms...then they will rip and I will get pregnant. LMAO... only a 16 yr old would give advice like that

[jademyst13]

heather: Try and stay strong. You will get that BFP soon

Bobbie: Hahaha you get some of the 'best' advice!

[Melanie0507]

Heather, I think Bobbie gave lots of good advice, I just wanted to send you some

My son gave me his tip on how to get pregnant this month when AF showed. He said I should buy condoms...then they will rip and I will get pregnant. LMAO... only a 16 yr old would give advice like that [/b]

Bobbie, your son is tooooo funny! I cracked up over this advice (Hmmm, but maybe worth a shot! j/k)

[*Bobbie*]

Heather, I think Bobbie gave lots of good advice, I just wanted to send you some

Bobbie, your son is tooooo funny! I cracked up over this advice (Hmmm, but maybe worth a shot! j/k)
[/b]

Yeah he is a silly kid. I guess that is one good thing about getting PG at 15. I think because we are so close in age he is very open with me That and there is no shame or modesty around here They even sometimes help me see lines on HPT's I tried to get Amanda to pee on one once to see if she got the same faint line. She thought about it for a second and said "nope" LOL How did I get off track? I promise not to highjack this thread again

[..Jessica..]

I'm like Bobbie when it comes to TTC. Of course, my husband never manages to keep his mind made up, so I doubt we'll be actively TTC anytime soon. ANYWAY!!! Like the other ladies have said, you WILL get pregnant. I just hate the waiting!!!! I wish we could just e-mail God and tell him we're ready to be pregnant!

[keekopeeko]

ive been wondering the same thing.. HOW do some ppl stay so positive.. so tihs was a great thread to start for me too..

I think they are right. ONE day at a time... i gotta start looking at it like that again...

~EM

[heatherrose415]

Thanks guys, im going to try my best. I just miss my baby and his due date is approaching, which I am sure isnt helping. If i dont get pregnant in january, then I am not trying in February.

[Mum2three]

Heather, I think we all go through that. I know i was bad for that. I wouldnt let DH touch me cause thats where all my children come from. And part of me just didnt want to let go. Until Dh said to me, I thought you wanted to have another baby, well its not going to happen in mid air. And at first i was mad that he would say something like that. but then i thought about it, and i realized he was speaking the truth.
Sometimes you need to get passed the emotional side of things and look forward, into the future. I know its easier said then done, but you gotta..

Trust me, until i got this BFP i was a messed up ball, that i was even scared of myself. I wanted it so bad, and it just wasnt working. Well then i threw out all the strips, deleted my accounts for fertility friend, and my monthly cycles, cause i was getting stressed. And within the month i had a hunch to test and there we are!!! Pregnant.

Im not saying its a easy time for me, but you just have to think outside the box. and know that God will help anyone out. So keep your chin up. and you will get your BFP soon!!!

[luvmygirls]

I know it's tough to stay positive, but you just have to remember that you WILL get pg again. I know waiting sucks!

[Danica]

(((hugs))) I am sorry you are feeling down. I know last month when af came I was truly devistated, depressed, and I honestly couldn't believe it. I had been bleeding and on my 3rd day I tested again because I just didn't want to believe. I think for me, starting my period was like going through the loss again, reminding me that I wasn't pregnant even though I should be. I am sorry that you are not pregnant yet but stay positive because it will happen. I hope you get a BFP real soon. (((hugs)))

[greenchild]

staying positive?? I don't know. Normally I'm a really optimistic person - balancing my incredibly pessimistic DH out. I agree with Bobbie about being laid-back, and also with Danica about each AF being like a loss.

I liked being "in control" of TTC, with the OPK's and listening to my body and trying to interpret any symptom to see whether or not I thought it was PMS or early pg. But for this one (IVF) I totally had to let go of the control whether or not I like it - and I hated letting go. But I had no way to control that so I had to. And thankfully it worked and I'm now pg. Having said that, I'd like to smack each person who would say to anyone TTC, all you need to do is just relax and it will happen. I relaxed for the 1st year and a half and i DIDN'T get pg. So much for that!

I don't know if this helped at all but know we're thinking of you! Good luck!!!!!!!

[heatherrose415]

thank you allll sooo much, these last few replies were really helpful, I am glad others understand that each AF can feel like a loss, I am back in that dang depression of not wanting to do anything, and cannot wait til close to ovulation so I can feel that hope again.

I am glad I am not alone and i really really hope i get that BFP really soon!!

thankyou all

((HUGS))

[Brittanie]

I just wanted to give you