[Julia'sMommy]

ok so I debated all morning whether or not to post this.. It's sort of embarassing, but I'm upset and worried and need to get it out. As you know, I had a m/c on Nov 17th. At the time, I couldn't really figure out what could have happened to cause it (which I then accepted it as an inevitable).. Well, we TTC again this month and I'm sure we were successful. I am now 5 days late for AF. Up until this morning, I've had super sensitive boobs (sore to touch, and nipples very sensitive and tingly) and I've had continuous mild cramping and pulling in the lower abdomen with some slight nausea.

I planned on testing on Jan 7 (if you don't already know why, I do have a good (but sorta long winded) reason for waiting)..

Here's the embarassing part.... last night, I had a very VIVID dream of having sex. In my dream, I had an orgasm, and I think I may have had one in real life cuz I woke up and had some stronger than usual cramping. It went away in probably a minute or so, but I immediately got worried. This is exactly what happened with the last pregnancy, and 3 days later I m/c. Ever since the last m/c, I suspected that the orgasm dream may have had something to do with the m/c but couldn't find any concrete reading to back that up so I just wrote it off as a concidence and left it at that... The concensus is that sex is ok in a normal pregnancy so I held on to that idea. But just the same, this time, DH and I have avoided sex for that exact reason - just in case...

Now, after last night's dream, when I woke up this morning, I immediately thought about it again and hoped to find things the way the were yesterday.. but, my boobs are hardly sore at all and all the cramping/pulling is virtually gone

I don't know what to do. I haven't tested yet, nor have DH and I told anyone we thought we were pregnant again. I don't know what to do. I should have tested already... then I could have something concrete to tell my doctor.. this could be the 3rd m/c, with two being in a row... I'm hoping and praying that the worst isn't about to happen. I have no bleeding or cramping yet.. but it took almost 3 full days for that to come last time.. The worst thing is that if I do m/c, and it does have something to do with the dream, there isn't a thing I can do to prevent it in the future... You can't control your dreams.. and I NEVER have these kind of vivid dreams any other time...

sorry for the long winded post.. I'm just trying to hold on to hope here and it's really tough... I really wanted a september baby....

[KaidysMummy]

wow that is some dream !! lol.

but enough of the jokes, i dont really know what i can say that will make you feel at ease as i know nothing will help! but i would try not to worry to much about the dream and what happened!! preg signs are funny, some days they are really strong and then some days they aren't! i totally know how you feel about worry after 2 m/c in a row, im in the same boat, and i may also be pregnant again!

its a stressful thing to go through, but try and stay positive, sending you loads of sticky vibes!!
xx

[keekopeeko]

i guess maybe you should test if you want something concrete to tell a Dr... but i think you know you are pregnant...

no idea about the dream... it could be that your body knew you thought that dream had something to do with it,an dyouve ben so worried about it that you just dreamt it again becaus eyouve been thinking about it??? i would try not to worry to much until you really KNOW somethings wrong.. easier said than done, i know...

~Em

[*Bobbie*]

AWW

I really don't know what to say.

My first thought was ... no way a dream can make you m/c. My second thought is maybe you should not be stopping sex just because you are PG. Maybe that is why you are dreaming of it? Easier said than done though. I know I will tell Dave that's off limits during the first trimester. Just too risky for me.

I still think you are going to get your BFP... when you test.

Symptoms come and go. By tonight your boobs may be killing you

Maybe call the Dr and ask for a blood draw...but tell them you don't want the results yet. That way you technically wait till test date but still have answers? Just a thought.

[Brittanie]

I agree with what Sam said about the symptoms. They go back and forth. They're not consistent to how strong they are, so them not being as strong does NOT automatically mean that you'll miscarry. With both my pregnancies they went back and forth like that.

I had dreams like that with both pregnancies too, and I've never miscarried.

I hope you're okay honey!

[Danica]

I am sorry you are scared. I know what you mean about not wanting to orgasm even though they say it is okay. I finally got brave enough to actually go all the way this new years eve and I worried afterwards. I mean, we've been dtd but I haven't gone all the way cause I've been nervous. Try not to worry too much. If you think it would put your mind at ease to test than don't wait. I know it is a special date but remember that even if you test early it is still symbolic. BIG HUGS. Please keep us posted.

[luvmygirls]

I've had dreams like that every time I was pg (2 dds, 1 m/c) and ONLY when pg....I've heard that it's kinda common in pg. Symptoms come and go too, so you really could be pg. Or, your mind and body may have been playing tricks on you and you may not be/have been pg at all. I remember one instance when DH and I were both POSITIVE I was pg, and it turned out I wasn't. I hope that you are, but I guess you won't know for sure until you test. GL!

[Danica]

I also wanted to ditto what the other ladies are saying about symptoms coming and going. Look at it this way, if you were pregnant and (God forbid) you had a m/c because of your dream last night, your bbs not being sore today wouldn't signify much because you would still have HCG in your body. It wouldn't just disappear overnight, right? KWIM?

HUGS. I hope you can confirm your pregnancy soon.

[babyblue]

I just wanted to say, that with my first pregnancy, I had dreams like that where I really did O and it would wake me up.. it happened all the time. I never told DH about it , but it happened a lot. And everything was fine. I don't think that would have anything to do with it. Isn't the reason you don't have sex b/c of actually DTD and the penetration? I think having an orgasm is completely safe and ok. I really, really don't think in any way it could cause a miscarriage.

Try not to stress yourself out worrying!!! HUGS!

[Danica]

Isn't the reason you don't have sex b/c of actually DTD and the penetration?[/b]

I should preface this by saying that doctors say it is okay and safe to have sex and orgasm unless told to obstain BUT the concern is that when you orgasm your uterus contracts and so paranoid people such as myself don't want anything going on to their uterus so that is why I just dtd but dont orgasm all the time when pregnant. I remember with Naden I would get pretty crampy after I'd orgasm and it was the weirdest feeling. I didn't think much of it than because I was still naive and thought nothing would happen (I was a bit crazy during my 1st pregnancy with stacking wood, carrying car batteries and cross country skiiing, that sort of thing). I sort of wish I could mentally get myself back in that state of mind...

[*Melissa*]

I had those exact dreams when I was pg also and had slight cramping after the orgasm as well, so I know what you mean. I kept wondering if it had anything to do with the m/c... but from what doctors say, and everyone else is saying, it sounds pretty normal. I hope that if you are pg, you little sweetie is ok!

[heatherrose415]

I have those dreams when preg too and I have only had 1 miscarriage out of three pregnancies! so I would say that i doubt ity caused/will cause a miscarriage. but in the same breath, i NEVER have sex in my 1st trimester, lol, but I have high risk pregnancies.

Pregnancy symptoms come and go all the time, I am sure you are fine, if you are in fact pregnant.....

[Julia'sMommy]

Thanks for the input everyone. I really do appreciate your thoughts. Also, I had no idea that dreams like this were so common in pregnancy. That makes me feel a bit better. I know that if I haven't already had a miscarriage in the past, I probably would have thought nothing of it, but since that fear is there, it is super easy to dwell.

I don't think I will wait until the 7th to test anymore. Danica, you are right about it still having significance if I decide to test early. But I will give it a couple more days. I figure that if I don't start to bleed in a day or two, and get a positive test, then I will be ok.. If nothing else, I will be able to have the weekend off from work and that will help if I need it (I so hope I don't though...)

I know in my brain that sex is ok in a normal pregnancy, and if the "dream" was a threat to a growing baby, then the implantation couldn't have been healthy in the first place... but, as you all know, it doesn't matter how much logic there is behind a loss, it still hurts the heart trememdously... I pray that this is only me being a worry wort... I hope I can soon post a pic of my BFP!!!

If I do get it, DH will have to settle for some PG13 love until the first trimester is over

[Julia'sMommy]

your bbs not being sore today wouldn't signify much because you would still have HCG in your body. It wouldn't just disappear overnight, right? KWIM?[/b]

That is so true Danica... I guess thinking more about it, there are times when my boobs don't hurt as much as other times.. but until this morning, I never really gave it much thought. And to be totally honest, I know that symptoms do disappear all the time and that's no reason for alarm. I've even been telling DH that I will miss the sore boobs when they go away, which I know it will, cuz they are a sign things are normal. It's just that last time, when I had this sort of dream, I did end up miscarrying. I guess I'm just scared of it happening again...

[MinDB]

i'm sorry i don't have too much to add here--because everyone else has already said what i was going to say, BUT, i just wanted to let you know that i have had orgasm dreams, too--so you aren't alone there--but i wasn't pregnant when i had mine---so maybe i'm the strange one here.

[jademyst13]

I had heard such dreams and waking up to orgasm where a normal pregnancy symptom. I was kinda mad that I never got that one!!! I did have alot of vivid and weird dreams though which was really neat.

[..Jessica..]

Everyone else has pretty much covered the bases. I've never had orgasm dreams, so I'm not sure what else to add.

I REALLY hope you get your tomorrow morning!!!!!